What do think about teenage mothers and young fathers?

Question

like what or how do feel about it
do think its good or bad?

Answer 1

I think of them as my friends and wuld treat them no differently then a kid on the strret.

Answer 2

Parenting is an incredibly selfless, thankless, job. The hours suck and the pay is lousy. That being said I don't like to use arbitrary numbers however, the younger the parent usually the more selfish and immature they are and the less likely they will be good parents.

As an example, I would use the situation of how the young parents became parents to begin with. The couple didn't care enough to think that they might be creating life inside them, they only cared for the physical pleasure that was available to them.

Thinking only for the moment and not what effect this decision will have for the future, is immature thinking, which is exactly what I would expect from teenagers. A wise parent thinks about what the ripple effects their actions will have.

A good parent sacrifices their dreams for the dreams of their children. A teen parent still thinks they are the center of the universe instead of making their CHILD the center of the universe.

Until anyone of any age is willing to make their child the center of the universe, they should not become parents.

That is my feeling.

Answer 3

Unless you have the money to support a child, don't become a parent. And the way to do that is to not have sex. Teenage mothers and fathers don't have the same experiences as adults. They can't get the same jobs because they don't have that experience and then they can't earn enough money. Their child ends up being impovrished and poor children and children of teens do worse in school, are less likely to graduate and more likely to become teenage parents themselves. It's a vicious cycle. Either that happens, or, a huge amount of the responsibility falls on the parent of the teenager. They have to have the money to buy diapers and formula and milk. And the teen is much less likely to go to college or even finish highschool now that he or she has a child. It's a bad idea.

Answer 4

I feel getting pregnant at such a young age is very bad. Young teens are getting too caught up in having sex that they don't think of the consequences. Many children are being aborted. As for those who keep their children, most have to go on welfare, have their children given up for adoption, have their parents support their child, or survive on their own meaning quiting High School and getting jobs. It is twice as hard for them to go to college and have a "normal" teenage life.

Answer 5

I feel bad for them because they don't get to live a normal teen life to hanging out with friend or anything jut everything raisning a child when there not even grown all the way,and then I think it's unfair to the kid to have to be born to someone young who wasn't planning the baby.I wish they had made wiser choices and waited until theyw ere old enouph,but it's to late now they got a baby.and everyone makes mistakes I just think there strong people for those who step up to the plate and actually take care of the baby.i wish them all the best of luck!

Answer 6

Depends.My Husband was a dad at a young age (before he met me) and his chilld never sees her mom PERIOD.My step-daughter is now 12! "MOM" disappeared because she didn't want to stop partying and doing "teenage" things. I think if you are going to be a teenage parent wait till you are done high school. Don't let that be the one thing you can say having a baby messed up. I waited until after high school and I was a mom at 19. I am a great mom of 2 kids and a step-daughter and love it.

Answer 7

I don't agree with it. Young teenagers shouldn't be having sex esp. if they don't protect themselves. How can a baby raise a baby? How can a baby support a baby? They can't. Their parents are usually the ones who carry the burden of it all. It makes me mad to know that my taxes go to young mothers who can't afford medical bills, who can't afford to feed themselves or the child but were 'responsible' enough to have sex at such a young age and get pregnant. I work for my insurance and my food. They should have to also, child or not. It should be more motivation to do so.

Answer 8

I myself was ateeange mother and it was tough. I make sure that I am open with my children so they don't make the same mistakes I did.

Of course I would not change what I did because I have a wounderful daughter and I think it made me a better person because I had to work that much harder to succeed in finishing college (through post graduate).

Anyone can make a mistake, it is how you deal with it that dictates what type of person you are!

Answer 9

I and my husband were teen parents (condom failed). So I know its hard, but possible. We worked hard to keep our family strong, and after 8 years married, we are still doing great. I got preggy at 17 1/2, an age where I would have done it irregardless of my mother's opinion. It was ultimately our choice, not our parents. But unlike many teen parents, we were in love and married before the birth. Divorce is no in our vocabulary and we've worked hard to keep it that way.

Answer 10

It's not right. You're not supposed to have sex until after you're married. And if you're going to have it before, at least use "Safety Items" Unless you want to have a kid. You shouldn't have a baby if you can't afford it, it costs a lot. A lot of teens I know put their kids up for adoption. Unless you're not ready to make a commitment, I wouldn't do it. The only girls who have excuses are the ones who get raped...which doesn't happen often to anyone I know. Just DON'T do it unless you're ready. I don't have respect for people who have sex before marriage.

Answer 11

If you can not change it (you have a baby or are already preg.)then I think you need to do what ever you can..get a job and step up..but if you just want a baby I think you should wait until you are out of school and can truly provide everything for that baby on your own..life is to short...live it to the fullest