What to do in bed?

Question

Hey,
I am a 22yo gay male, and this is my first time in a gay relationship, and weve been together for almost 2yrs, and the sex was great in the beg. cuz it was exciting and new, but after a while it got a little dull. I am not that experience so i was wondering, what are things to do in bed with your partner? All suggestions are appreciated.

Answer 1

Ask him what he likes. COMMUNICATION is key.

I'm a fan of BONDAGE personally :D

May I suggest blindfolds, whips, and cuffs? *grins*

Toys are fun. So are intoxicating substances [in moderation of course]. Try places other than the sack, ie. underpasses, alleys, public bathrooms, shower stalls at the gym, etc.

Get a copy of the Kama Sutra and try every position in the book, then invent your own.

Be creative and adventureous.

[and ignore israelmoya20 or whatever who posted beneath me]

Answer 2

I've been in the same boat as you. I'm 24 and my partner and I have lived together for almost 4 years. We now live the married life and have sex about once a week if we are lucky. Just make sure it's intimate and not so much about the sex. Throw in a lot of kissing and make it passionate for him and tell him you love him durring it. This will likely get him going which in turn will help you out. Also be a little adventerous, I'm not saying to get toys or anything like that, but you may be surprised if you try rimming or something like that he may love it. I've just found out, that if I can get my BF to do it, he loves it, but he's too shy to let me do it very often. Good Luck.

Answer 3

First listen to your heart. You know you should be talking to your partner first. Find out his fantasies and turn ons. Then explore them together. However, word of advice. You two seem to have a great relationship. Don't open it up to a 3rd party. Keep the play to yourselves, and keep him happy.

There are lots of books, web sites that you can go to and read and view. You might also try asking your friends. They would seem to know you better than anyone out here, and be a better judge of some erotic things to try.

Last take the fun out of the bedroom and find some more fun places to play. It's summertime, find somewhere outside.

Answer 4

Peter Pan sounds like he knows what a good time is all about. Try some of that. I've with my partner for 20 years and recently got out of a rut. We are having crazy, mad, wild sex now! Experimentation and communication is the key!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

you could try use exotic food in bed . fruit , syrup whip cream . U all could role play and pretend u just met again . Or my all time favorite classic get into an arguement and then have hot steamy make up sex .

Answer 6

Talk to your partner. Ask him what he likes and tell him what you like. Then try all of the things you talked about. Or you could combine what you both like, that way you both get what you want and get to have fun!

Answer 7

well all i can tell you that there are allot of books about it so you should try that have some fun make some changes 2 years is a very long time congrats

Answer 8

hmmmmm... youve probably already tried this, but have a play with chocolate body paint or somethin like that. im strate but a friend of mine was gay and he used to love stuff like that.
good luck!!

Answer 9

Take it from the gay man himself...Use some kinda toys!

Answer 10

Have you tried Frot it is incredible erotic and intimate. Go to http://g0ys.org there is a lot of information there about it.