I know a compulsive liar who keeps lying even though it is obvious to both of us that they are untrue. He sometimes gets himself in more trouble by lying. He lies about big and small things. He tells people his father is alive though his father died when he was 4. He lies about everything! Why????
2006-06-28 06:37:17 · 15 answers · asked by joyfish 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I wish I knew the answers. I don't.
I married two compulsive liars. One had a mental illness, the other is just a liar. (Both are ex's)
I don't know if there is help for compulsive liars or not., I am thinking that if they finally get to the place that they want to change, then they can, but other than that, no.
I htink it has a lot to do with feeling insecure.
2006-07-05 18:16:51 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Compulsive liars are basically handicapped mentally. Many compulsive liars say things based on how they see their world, and in fact it may be how they want it to be and see things much different than a normal person. I am not sure if they can be completed cured, but they need the help of a good councilor and doctor, and perhaps a support group as well. Believe me, as I have an ex-daughter-in-law and she was like this. When she said things that were lie, it was how she perceived the situation in her environment. Finally it ruined their marriage.
2006-06-28 08:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by Midwest guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what I think it is a disease. when someone tells a lie its so easy.... but to tell the truth its hard.. because you are worried about what people think of you, and how you may affect somone's feelings. if you speak the truth. even though the truth does hurt . there is no hard feeling afterwards. but compulsive liars don't think that way.
Lying, will either cause conflict or make someone hate you in the long run, you lose trust. but they don't think of that either at the time. when it is coming out of their mouth. I don't understand why these lying people are like this...but enough is enough... it makes them look stupid as hell.
I'm saying this because I know a liar too.
2006-06-28 06:45:49 · answer #3 · answered by TeTe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can answer this from past experience. I was once considered a compulsive, habitual, liar. I found out through the help of a 12 step program that people usually lie because they are covering up to others who they really are, have low self-esteem, and basically are unhappy with who they are. Through the 12 step program I attended once I found out the reasons that I lied, I worked very hard to change those things, and you know what I found out? I learned who I really was, and love myself and it is a lot easier being who you are than trying to be someone else, and it is a lot less work.......Talk to your friend about the lying, let him know that because you care about him and your friendship with him that you are concerned. Also, let him know that you have spoken to someone (via email) who was just like him, and that just like that person changed; if he's willing to get help for his problem he can change too. Also, please support him, had I not had the support of people who loved and cared about me, I'm not sure that I would have made it through that period....Best wishes to you both!!!...
2006-07-12 05:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A liar especially a compulsive liar can only be that if someone listens to the lies.
You're supporting his behavior by giving him your ears and time. You've become his enabler. If his friendship(?) means that much to you then you should invest time with him in counseling.
If not...walk away and let him continue lyng to himself. Sooner or later he'll grow tired of no audience to entertain his sickness, and he'll sincerely look for better solutions than lying.
2006-07-10 22:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by blakelycollierbrown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People I've know like that usually have some painful history event, about which they feel they have to lie about to themselves and others. They also get a thrill from it, and become addicted to it.
He may grow out of it. I recommend therapy if he doesn't seem to. My best friend was like that and after 4 yrs therapy, she's almost never lying, as far as I can tell!
2006-07-11 21:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds likes he's very insecure and the lies make him feel better. Be a good friend to him and tell him he doesn't need to lie to be friends.
2006-07-12 05:38:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think these people have a gross lack of self-confidence and they feel attacked even in normal circumstances. They have no overview of what is happening to them, they are just drowning in words they utter which are meaningless. They walk on mud and whatever they do they just sink deeper and deeper in the mud.
2006-07-12 06:37:47 · answer #8 · answered by guy in Yemen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becuz he can't take the truth, he wants to lie to others and himself, he thinks that if he lies, everything will be the same and better, but it's not.
2006-07-11 12:42:24 · answer #9 · answered by chihibiya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes ppl that lie a lot are trying to hide something. some ppl lie to protect themselves cause they trusted someone that hurt them is some way. some ppl were even taught to lie by there parents i know one of my friends were. but after time she stopped.
2006-06-28 06:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by jessie2330 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋