I've been with this guy for 8yrs we were only engaged, he never wanted to marry me, we have two kids. It seemed that he wanted to live the single life and have the family at the same time. Up till this day I still don't know half of his friends, He never wanted to take me out, he's exuce was he did not want to babysit me. I've fallen out of Love, now that I'm leaving he wants to marry me, he's everywhere I go. I stuck around for the kids but I'm not happy, I've told him that, he's asking for a last chance, but i'm done with the chances, I don't understand why he would take me for granted I'm beautiful, I love to cook, i love to work, I just don;t understand! Have I made the right to choice to walk away when he can no longer make me happy?
2006-06-28 06:24:08 · 10 answers · asked by rqerita 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was never controling, I'm not the jelouse type.
2006-06-28 06:26:43 · update #1
He took you for granted because you let him. You gave him what he wanted at no cost to him.
Yes you have made the right choice. I just hope you have established patenity and are making sure this jerk pays his fair share for those two kids he helped create.
2006-06-28 06:29:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you made the right choice. Sometimes men and women both take for granted that a person will always be there. They never take into account the damage that they are causing. And they do not realize that until the person is long gone or in your case have fallen out of love. Staying with him will only hurt you and most importantly your children. Yes children do need both mother and father but not always in the same home. Stand by your decision.
2006-06-28 06:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sheketria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relationship is over for you and I commend you for making the decision to leave. I have ALWAYS preached to people that stayin in a relationship because of kids does NOT work. Now that your leaving he is trying to pull out all the stops to keep you. Your doing the right thing for you and your children. Good luck and b' well/
2006-06-28 06:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it interesting that when we're faced with losing someone we're taken for granted, all of a sudden, that person becomes more "valuable?" It works every time.
Lose this loser. Get out there and find someone who will enter into a REAL relationship with you.
2006-06-28 06:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by freedomnow1950 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl girl girl.....have u explained my life to the tea! i have been with my man for 7 years and we have a 5 year old together we have been engaged for years as well but never an offical wedding or marriage. yeah we talk about it but still nothing. and its like he wants the married life and single life at the same time too. i dont cheat, im nice looking, im an excellent so called wife...but yet he always wanted to run off to the clubs, or friends blah blah blah...well i fell out of love with mine as well because i was being takin for granted and i couldnt figure out why he had everything at home but always wanted to screw it up by playing that single life. well it took alot of years to figure this out. i put mine in jail because the root to most of our problems was his drinking and staying high. well that one night of drinking and coming home disrepecting me landed his butt in the county jail facing 20 years. now....he is released from jail no drinking and we are planning our wedding. as far as u hun....sounds to me like he can c he messed up and he is afraid of losing you, i mean come on he had his cake and ate it too, now the one who once took all the BS is walking out on him...he is thinking oh man what have i done! ive takin he for granted for so long she has finally had enough ill marry her and she will be happy....dont do it hun! stick to your guns move on to someone who will make u happy and not take what u have to offer for granted. u only have one life to live and u spent 8 years trying to be a family with someone who thought everything but the family was important. well let him see what he has lost, let him see what he had done. you gave him the chance he blew it. it took mine hitting rock bottom to wake up. but it sounds like your hasnt. some men seem to think they can live tis double life well it isnt fair to the women sitting at home with the kids taking all the baggage that they helped create
2006-06-28 06:41:39 · answer #5 · answered by ford_lovergirl_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl u have 2 follow ur heart. If u ain't happy then take ur children and go. Do what's best 4 u not what's best 4 him.
2006-06-28 06:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He realize to late how valuable you are; probably you gave to many oportunities; think twice before you come to an answer.
Just remember your kids, how old are they? can you support them alone? now days it is easy.
Go out and enjoy the life you missed, you are pretty, life is only one and nobody but nobody will leave it for you.
PS: I like to try your cooking (just kidding)
2006-06-28 06:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by bigonegrande 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your right. Ihad a similar problem, and my moan would only change for 2 to three weeks at a time. I eventually left him, and it was a good decision ofr me.
2006-06-28 06:30:31 · answer #8 · answered by rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you. its obvious that he took you for granted. you dont want a guy like that...its time for you to move on.
2006-06-28 06:39:30 · answer #9 · answered by Shiro-kun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its time for you to move on , its time that you look for happiness, and someone who loves you,
2006-06-28 06:28:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋