What are your different views on it. Me and my husband did it.
2006-06-28 06:23:19 · 21 answers · asked by Yellabone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It not people need to do it before they get married. Me and my husband did it.
2006-06-29 06:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by **What??** 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I don't see a problem...in fact, I think it's better to give the living situation a "test drive" before getting married. You can love someone and not be able to live with them. Everyone has their little habits that some may find cute and some may find completely annoying and unacceptable. My husband and I lived together for 2 years before we got married. We're very happy!!
2006-06-28 14:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let me tell you something i have lived with 2 men my life time and it was wonderful just you and your husband is now it got a little rocky but i dont regret it because i learned from it the thing is you have to learn someone ways before you decide to marry someone i think the best way is to move in with them if your serious about them makes since suppose you didnt know anything about your husband until you moved in with him wouldnt that be irritating that some things about him yoy had to change and new things kept popping up thats too much so dont listen to what people say you do what you think is right for you face it people dont want to see a marriage or a couple succeed goodluck.
2006-06-28 13:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by honey bun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never marry someone without living with them first. Who wants to get married, move in, and get surprised? In a bad way, that is. I have been living with my current boyfriend for 8 months, and marriage is right around the corner. As for the women out there who lived with someone and had 2 or 3 kids and got dumped...well there are just as many divorced women out there with kids. It has absolutely nothing to do with it.
2006-06-28 14:08:37 · answer #4 · answered by Okkieneko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are getting to know each other in very personal ways. And some of those ways may not be appealing to some. It's hard getting to know a person for ALL of their quirks. I think living together before marriage is a good thing, because some of those quirks can end up leading to divorce or worse.
You may not always know someone you're dating is an abuser, because they are so intent on getting you, and then when they have you, you move in, they get over jealous or even abusive, it's a good thing to know......before you have a paper saying you're one!
2006-06-28 13:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think in general, it is better to just be friends or date to get to know someone before taking the next big step of marriage. my wife and i were good friends for two years before our first date. then we dated for a year or so before we got engaged, then six months before the wedding.
in all that time, we learned so much about each other's personality, likes and dislikes, temperament, and so on. i think that has helped us stay together for six years. there have not been any "big surprises" because we knew each other before deciding to get married.
also, i think living together creates a problem, in that, a person gets overly attached to the other by sleeping with them, and may tend to overlook or forgive faults they would otherwise take note of.
you can't say that one way or the other is the perfect way, because divorce happens with all types of couples. i just think that living together first is not the "cure all" for relationships. we have some friends that lived together for years before getting married, and now a few years into their marriage they are having major problems. it didn't help them.
2006-06-28 13:48:58 · answer #6 · answered by sigmund 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because men are dogs who will never dissapoint you they, will always behave abominabaly.
Scroll thruough the questions and look at all the girls and women who are hurt and pleading for answers because their live in bf or fiance has dropped them with 2-3-4 kids after living together for years and they suddenly decide they don't want be married.
Glad it worked out for you id did for me and my wife. But I've seen to many situatons where it didn't work. If my daughter ask my opinion about living with a guy I'm going to strongly urge her not to do it.
2006-06-28 13:39:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents were dead set against it and I was raised in a Christian household where that was morally wrong. I really would have liked to see how we would do living together before marriage. I must say though, it was kinda special to have that first night married in our new house. After all is said and done, my husband and I agreed that we were glad we waited.
It is all up to preference.....
2006-06-28 14:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by Southern Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it poses a problem. I am a Christian and do not believe in it, personally. However, my sister is living with her significant other so I do not judge. I really advise against it though if you are marriage minded because "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" comes to mind.
2006-06-28 13:34:22 · answer #9 · answered by Gwendolyn W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really dont think there is a problem as much as it used to be. I think is good to live together before marrage.Then you get to know the person a lot better and know the habbits. Plus you will know if you can live with them happily or not before a hugh commitment.
2006-06-28 13:26:48 · answer #10 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is a problem, you get to know each other better before you are stuck with someone you really don't want to be with in the long run....
you always test the water before diving in.
but since you feel it s a problem, then maybe he is not the one for you... or you are not the one for him. but its better to find out now then later, then if you wait til later. then you have divorce to go through its harder on the children, custody battles.. everything like that.
My point is I think it is a good idea.
2006-06-28 13:35:35 · answer #11 · answered by TeTe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋