This seems to be a constant source of argument amongst people, especially certain generations. Marriage is basically a religious thing to begin with, but has become a widely accepted tradition. However, divorce closely follows...so do you think it is better to live together first?
2006-06-28 06:14:39 · 11 answers · asked by swtmom0200 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I appreciate the responses, and I feel the same way. I am about to purchase a home together with my boyfriend, whom I definitely plan to marry. We just figured it was smarter to spend the money we have now on a house, rather than a wedding/rings. We will soon enough, and it won't be lavish, another topic altogether.
2006-06-28 08:37:48 · update #1
I think it depends on the couple. I know you aren't supposed to for religious reasons but my boyfriend of many many (too many years to be called a boyfriend) has stayed with me before. You find out a lot about that person when you live with them because it's kinda hard to hide stuff. I found out some things and we are no longer together. It really depends on how you look at it. If ya'll are definitely getting married then it saves money to stay together but if it is just a regular relationship, I wouldn't. It's not as much fun!
2006-06-28 06:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by Tori B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never thought I would... but after my husband and I got engaged... his lease was ending on his rental and I owned my home, so instead of paying double for him to live someplace else, and we KNEW we were getting married anyhow, he moved into my house and it became ours.
I was glad we got some of the living together adjustments overwith before the honeymoon, so when we came home, we were already settled.
Divorce is not soon to follow, him and I are going to distance. We promised each other ( and all out family, friends and God that we would!)
2006-06-28 13:18:37 · answer #2 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We lived together and have been married for 14 years.
2006-06-28 13:23:16 · answer #3 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are strapped with some puritanical family members and care what they think, I would highly recommend living with someone before marriage. I did it four times before I found one I could live with--7 years and 2 kids later, I am happy I went that route.
2006-06-28 13:20:14 · answer #4 · answered by Brian Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did it for 5yrs.
There are good parts and bad parts. On one hand I think you get the chance to really know the other person, inside and out. On the other, the more you're together there's more time to argue.
I would do it again though
2006-06-28 13:28:12 · answer #5 · answered by honeybaby729 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with the same lady for 21 years and we still are not married
2006-06-28 13:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by Fanuc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is better to live with someone first so you can really see what that person is like and if you'd be able to live with them. Kind of like a trial marriage...lol.
2006-06-28 14:20:35 · answer #7 · answered by Babe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it is ok to live together before marriage. You test drive a car before you buy right. So why not test dive living together before you get married!!!!!!
2006-06-28 14:20:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that people should live together 1st.That way they know what they are getting themself into.
2006-06-28 13:25:49 · answer #9 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, to get to know each other better, to see wheather or not you are meant to be with each other or not, who cares what any body else says, this is a short life, do what ever your heart desires! good luck!
2006-06-28 13:25:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋