Am I being logical about my choice to this situation?

Question

My husband wants to start a busniess with his friend promoting DJs at clubs. I told him that I support him in whatever he is doing but he should try out the first event first to see how the outcome is. Well, the first event costs only 2000.00 and hasn't happen yet and he already has the second event planned out and will cost him 7000.00. When i found out about it I was furious. I told him that if he doesn't get anything out of the either one of the event, I'm leaving him. Am I being logical or selfish here? Oh we have two children too.

Answer 1

Absolutely not. He is illogical. Hope he;s a good dad. But 9k on a venture? Get a grip. Put your foot down. Do the 2k, see how that goes. If it blunders, then what??

Answer 2

I think that divorcing him over this may be a little too drastic. You have 2 children together and although it may have been too hasty for him to spend so much money without consulting you and your daughters (if old enough) was selfish and inconsiderate and not very financially wise. Talk to him...maybe you aren't getting all of the information as to why he did that. Maybe there was something that he forgot to mention like a person already put the money down...whatever? But like you said, you have 2 children and you need to remind him that life is not about you or him but rather the children. They will need lots of things in the future like college tuitions that continue to rise. Talk to him. Tell him how you felt about him not consulting you, using the family's money on this financial venture without waiting to see how the first one turns out. Best wishes and take care.

Answer 3

Tell him to get a steady job. You cannot put all of your eggs on one basket and relying on luck to make it big is fooolish. In an already saturated bussiness field as that one, is risky to invest your capital when you don't know the outcome of your first event.

You are not being selfish, you are looking out for your family and and protecting your hard earned household assets. Support his first event and see how it goes, then hopefully he will learn if this a a viable and productive way of investing your cash or not.

Good luck

Answer 4

Starting a business costs tons of money and there is always the chance of loosing it all. However, if it goes right the payoff can be good. The real question is do you have the disposable cash to invest in this arguably risky venture. If not then he is being very irresponsible. You have equal say in this and he should have respected your limits. You both need to set up an investment budget and work from there. If he does not listen to your concerns, then you might just have to leave him and he'd deserve it.

Answer 5

look i understand and i would want to be at his throat t oo. take a breath and listen. didn't you take vows that said for richer or for poorer.? i did and i will never leave my hubby. he is who i will die with. i know that you are angry with him and these words you speak may not be true. they are spoken in anger. that is alot of money and i am surprised that he did not discuss this financial decision with you first, this is a communication problem many couples have. its too late now for discussion if he has already spent the money. so sit down talk to him and really listen to what he has to say. ask questions like is this buisness deal going to make our money back or not. are we going to profit from it or just even out. try to support him cause you are suppose to be his soft place to land. leaving him should never be an option especially not with children. that why kids are gettiong so screwed up in todays world. be smart get the information you should have had from the begining. tell him how you feel without anger ok. but do not leave him cause chances are if he loses money he will stop this buisness. hey sometimes you have to spend money to make money. hang in there.

Answer 6

That is a lot of money. I agree with you about seeing how the first goes before planning another. He obviously didn't agree though. I suppose if he loses out it will be a hard lesson learned and if he gains then you will be the one to learn the lesson. Either way I don't know that it warrants leaving him unless you have more problems than what you're telling.

Answer 7

Hi Janice,

It looks like your husban and you need to have better communications skills (specially him) and tell you these things before doing them. Now, leaving him? don't you think it's a little harsh? You are to be his support, but also help him set his feet on the ground. Don't discourage him, tell him that even though this is a risky situation, you support him, but in the future you would like for him to ask your advice as well.

Don't forget that you married him because of love and not because of some "strange or crazy" decision we all make in our life time.

So, talk to him and express your feelings, but leaving him?!?! No, just tell him that you don't agree with him, but still support him.

Good luck.

Answer 8

As long as you can still provide for the kids..give him a little time, it takes money to make money and he has got to get started somewhere.I have a good friend that does this, he was able to have his own business and does GREAT!!He stays totally booked all the time.I hope the same goes for your husband. I hope it works out for you.Just don't totally give up on him yet.

Answer 9

You should support him. He wants to provide for his family. It's hard starting a business, you're making it harder. Behind every successful man ther's a supportive woman, and there are more uncessful men than successful.

Colornal Sanders used his first social security check to start Kentucky Fried Chicken! If he had a wife like you, who knows what would have happened!

Answer 10

your husband is not thinking of the family's well being ..that is alot of money to be throwing away , if it does not work out .. I think he should try the first one , then if it works out for him then move on to the next .. as far as you leaving him , hmm you ned to do what is best for the kids ,, he is not thinking of them ..