2006-06-28 06:03:34 · 40 answers · asked by flyer 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Only if they were planning on getting married before she got pregnant. If they get married just because she got pregnant, their relationship will likely be very strained from the start and would provide an unhealthy environment in which to raise a child.
However, the father should make an effort to be there for the mother and child, not just monetarily.
2006-06-28 06:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by sariana09 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, definitely not. Marriage is not something for those who are not going to be together forever. If your marrying someone just because your pregnant by them...it's the wrong reason. You should marry only if your in love with that person and can see yourself with no one else. It's not healthy for you, your partner and especially your child. If your not meant to be together it will definitely drive you apart and cause much more heartache than if you didn't get married to begin with. Yes...many people believe you should get marrried if you have a child together, but I disagree 100%. You can be apart and raise your child just the same as if you were married. Your child may even thank for doing that in the long run.
My parents married because my mother got pregnant with my sister. It was the worst thing they could have done. They were never meant to be together. They faught constantly for the 16 years they were together. They had good times, but in the end divorce was for the best. I was 13 at the time and I prayed every day before that, that they would get a divorce.
I know that it is difficult to raise a child on your own, but I have a 3 year old and a 20 month old and I'm doing it.
It's something that really needs to be thought out before you marry for the wrong reasons. Divorced is expensive!
2006-06-28 07:41:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! I hate it when people do that....you are supposed to get married because you love each other and you want to spend the rest of your lives together, not because you feel obligated to get married!! If you accidentally got your girlfriend pregnant then that is one mistake, dont make another mistake by marrying her because you feel obligated to!! You can stay together and raise the baby together without having to be married, and if your relationship grows stronger and you want to get married down the road then that is good too....or, if you guys decide to break up and you still see the child and act like a father and pay child support then that is fine too and you will be glad you didnt get married if it doesnt work out!! but dont get married just because you knocked someone up!! That is why there is so much divorce these days now because people are getting married for the wrong reasons!!!
When I got pregnant at 20 me and my boyfriend stayed together but were definitly not ready for marraige at that time. We have been together for 4 years now and have a two year old son together, but we dont see the need to get married right now, we are both in school and are going to wait until after we are both finished with it to think about marraige.
2006-06-28 06:15:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should make a life long committment like that because they feel they have to. The marriage will be strained because both parents will feel trapped and miserable (unles of course they are in love and wanted to get married anyway, which of course is wonderful, and a whole other story), and the child would be far better off being raised independant of the hostility. The parents MUST have a good relationship, though, and the father MUST take a role in the childs life;p tehy must realise that if tehy raise the bby apart that the relationship is NOT about them, but the child, and always do what is best for baby.
2006-06-28 06:34:22 · answer #4 · answered by LuLuBelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am pregnant now. I have been married in the past due to a pregnancy and been divorced. I am with the father but I will not marry him because I am preg. That is the wrong reason. A marriage should be for love. There is to many opportunities for women and men to be tied down because of one surprise. A child can be happy in either situation. Why show that child a love less relationship is healthy.
2006-06-28 06:18:59 · answer #5 · answered by my idea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think that just because a man gets a woman pregnant he should feel inclined to marry her, just because she's pregnant doesn't mean they should be married. I don't think that a couple should have to wait until they are married to have kids either, i think it all depens on how they feel some people don't believe in marriage but they still love each other alot and will still love the baby as much as if they had a bit of paper to say that they are married.
2006-06-28 06:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no! he should man up and take responsibilty for the baby and the girl, but marriage isnt always the solution. the baby is maybe the only reason the two of u were suppose to get together and thats it! now if uve been with this guy for over a year and everything between the two of u is great and ur not arguing too much about the two of u being pregnant and the guy is happy about u being pregnant, maybe not about the timing, but still u being pregnant then theirs hope for marriage further down the line but rushing into joining finances and being held responsible for ur husbands **** ups is never a good idea to rush into!
2006-06-28 06:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by foxzie006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation. If they are planning to marry anyway, it may make things easier to move up the timetable. But I believe marriage is for life, and doing it just for the baby will only make a hard situation worse. If parents aren't happy, the baby will likely have problems whether or not they are married.
However, I believe that in any situation the parents should try to stay on good terms and the man must take equal responsibility for the child.
2006-06-28 06:10:28 · answer #8 · answered by Katherine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Only if they love each other and have really thought through spending their lives together. Marriage is tough enough without going into it for the wrong reasons. If he doesn't marry her, he should, of course, still have a relationship with the child and pay child support if the woman isn't independently wealthy. My best friend married a guy who got her pregnant and they have a horrible relationship. I wish they would have waited. I also wish she would have made him use a condom.
2006-06-28 14:10:22 · answer #9 · answered by Momof2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You should only marry someone for LOVE. Not out of a sense of duty. Marrying a girl just because she is pregnant can lead to a wasted life spent with someone that you don't love, having years of unhappiness, and causing possible emotional damage to your child. My personal opinion is that it is better for a child to be born to two parents that have seperate lives than to be brought up in an unhappy home. My youngest brother was 1 when my mother and my step-dad divorced so he never knew them living in the same house and that was fine with him. But if you spend 10 years together because of a child and then split, you are only causing unnecessary emotional damage to that child. DO NOT MARRY UNLESS YOU LOVE HER. If she is smart she wouldn't want you to marry her just for that anyway. I know I wouldn't!!!! It takes two to tango and both need to live up to their responsibilities.
2006-06-28 06:11:06 · answer #10 · answered by estephania2182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋