My girlfriend wants me to hurt her during sex, what do i do?

Question

Last time me and my girlfriend had sex she started yelling "hurt me" and when I didn't do anything about it, she would just yell it louder. I tried my best by trying some spanking or a little biting/hair pulling or just making the sex a little rougher, but I don't really know what to do if she asks me to hurt her again... any tips?

Answer 1

LOL... if you're not confortable hurting her then your relationship is nearly over. What can you do, bit her nipples... buy a shocking device, nipple clamps, candles designed to burn hotter... if you're going to bite you have to bite hard! Look into some sex shops and ask them what fun toys they have for S&M play, they'll have plenty of ideas...

OH, wait, the most important thing!!!!

ASK HER!!! Before you have sex preferably... Some women will like simple things like hair pulling, some want to be whipped (not spanked, whipped) some like hot wax, some like things a lot freakier.... the best course of action is to ask her what she likes... honest...

Answer 2

That's easy.
Without buying whips, rope or toys, here's what you can do: Take her to the bathroom and have her start going down on you. While she's sucking you, slap her face and hold her nose. This will make her eyes water and if you really thrust without getting out of her mouth she'll be spitting up which will feel good to you. Then you need to do her doggy style and have her suck on your toes at the same time. Slap her butt and boobs and pull her hair any way you want her head to go. If she wants it harder still, then throw a punch into her butt. Now you gotta put it in her butt. Keep going with the slapping thing and make sure you get a good reach around to slap her face. Call her things like "you dirty whore". Now make her bite the edge of the toilet bowl. This can really hurt if you hit her head while she's biting on the porcelain, so don't slap her head too hard, try to stay on her cheek. When your ready, pull out and come over her face and the toilet seat and make her eat it up.

Or you can always just send her over to my house.

Answer 3

Communication's the key, before and during. Find out just what her secret fantasies are - and maybe tell her some of your own while you're at it - then if what she wants is something that won't cause any serious damage, like a good spanking, go for it.

And yes, the safeword is crucial, at least until you're both well attuned to each other's desires. Choose something she wouldn't normally say as part of the game (so "That hurts!", or "Stop!" or "I'm sorry!" are obviously out), something completely left-field like 'giraffe'. Then if she uses it, you know it means "I really can't take any more!" and stop at once.

Answer 4

Pick up a copy of "Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns", a very good introductory book on BDSM.

Read it. Take this newfound knowledge, ask your girlfriend for her input, and come up with safe words and other precautions before hitting the bedroom. Then, let your imagination fly as you come up with some safe and responsible ways to whip, beat, torture, and otherwise abuse your woman to her heart's content.

Oh, and tell your girlfriend, who's obviously an amature when it comes to S&M, that these things take at least a minimum of planning. You don't spring such desires on your mate out of the blue while you're naked and going at it. You need to discuss things beforehand--particularly what is and isn't comfortable for each of you. Once you have clearly communicated what limits you each have, once you've experimented with each other a little, THEN you can spring spontaneous desires for pain and discipline on each other.

Hopefully it'll be your thing. Being a dom is loads of fun!

Answer 5

Heres what you do flip her over on her back and push her legs as far back as they can humanly go, then, start off slow and increase your pace and force. (make sure you stoke it long too for added satisfaction) Make sure you hold her legs by her head this will ensure the fact that you are getting it all in. That will most def hit the spot and then some. And I am not knocking the other answers they are all good but it depends on what your girl likes. However, I am almost positive she will go crazy over this position.

Answer 6

If your girlfriend wants you to be a little rougher in the sack maybe that is just something different that she wants to try out. Maybe you should give it a try and if she likes it.... keep experimenting.

Answer 7

Talk to her about it, not us. Maybe it's just how she talks dirty. I've had the nicest chicks shout the foulest things. Or there could be some therapy-worthy issues there. Rough sex can be a lot of fun, but if she wants you to do her serious harm it could be a sign of things to come. It really just comes down to asking her what she meant. For one thing, talking about her fantasies definitely counts as foreplay! ;)

Answer 8

Make somewhat comic tale about it and slyly tease her keeping something like wow you particularly scratched me...what's up with that? component is positioned across it up in a non-confrontational way and tell her to be careful with you or something to that volume. i do no longer imagine of she realizes it probably you're hurting her and also you do no longer comprehend it...ask her in case you harm her even as you adult men are doing it; probably she scratches as a reaction to the discomfort. i might want to positioned across it up bc it really is an glaring signal of miscommunication b/w both one in each and every of you. no count number if that's some unusual fetish she has, you may want to need to opt for the thanks to contain it.

Answer 9

You might try asking her what she is looking for when she says that. Bringing along a pair of pliers and a soldering iron will motivate her to explain exactly what she wants.

Answer 10

Don't do too much. Some women get off just saying it. I do. We don't really need to be hirt too bad. The spanking is really enough.