I am scared I may not be able to get pregnant when I start trying to conceive?

Question

I haven't had any trouble with my periods or anything like that. I am young (23) and all my pap smears and check ups have been fine. But I am still afraid when I start trying for a baby I may not be able to have one.

My husband doesn't have anything wrong with him that we know of.

I am just afraid that it may not happen and I will be crushed.

Were you afraid you may not be able to have children?

Answer 1

It's scary isn't it, to think that we might not be able to grasp our dream of being a mother - it's a scary thought. But don't give in to that fear, especially because it seems like there is nothing for you to worry about. You and your hubby seem to be in good reproductive health, and the fact that you are young gives you a very favorable chance of getting pregnant fast. Just don't stress about it (so that your hormones won't mess up), and learn to relax and enjoy the baby-making process. Think lovely thoughts, but don't obssess about it. It may take more than one try to get pregnant, but you might get lucky and get pregnant on the first try! So goodluck and lots of baby dusts to you!

Answer 2

I know exactly how you feel. I got married when I was 22, but I was on birth control for the first year and a half. I wanted a baby really badly but we just didn't feel like it was the right time for us yet. I kept thinking, what if we wait and then I am unable to get pregnant or it takes years? I worried that would be the case. I was young, everything checked out fine, no problems - same situation as you. Imagine my surprise when I found out that I got pregnant while taking birth control. In all likelihood, you will have no problems and you will get pregnant just fine. I know someone said that it was weird you feel that way but I don't think it is. Someone also said it would be no big deal, just adopt. Yes, that is a good alternative, but it is easy to just say that. Conceiving a child and going through pregnancy is a miraculous thing. It is amazing to have your own child grow inside of you and then give birth. Adopting does not in any way make you less of a mother, but there is something to be said about carrying and birthing a child. Anyway, I would say try not to worry too much. It will happen for you, but it is okay that you are having these fears.

Answer 3

I was, yes. Since I began menstruating, my periods have always been very irregular, then I had a scare in my early 20s with some pre-cancerous cells on my cervix, and ended up having surgery to correct it, but it thinned my cervix slightly. I am also epileptic and take an anti-seizure med. every day (and have been for the last 15 years.) I was convinced I'd never be able to get pregnant, and if I did, I wouldn't be able to carry the baby to term because of a weak cervix. My periods eventually straightened out (after losing some weight) and I have two healthy kids now. And I wasn't trying...both of them were "surprises". :) Don't worry...stress can cause your period to get screwy sometimes.

Although I must say...people say you ovulate on day 15 of your cycle. My cycle is 31 days, not the standard 28. I've had unprotected sex twice with my husband, and twice I became pregnant. The second time, my period had ended two or three days before, so I didn't think I was ovulating. Heh...guess I thought wrong. :)

Everyone I know who has had trouble conceiving just stopped trying, and that's when they got pregnant.

Answer 4

I know exactly how you feel honey. My story is a little different though. I don't have any real problems with my periods. The only time I missed them were when I was stressed out and it was only for a few days. I dated a guy who gave me chlamydia that I found out I had for 5 months with no symptoms. I got it taken care of but now I constantly worry, what if I can't have babies? I've always read that untreated STD's can cause infertility in women. I've had a pap smear and it is clean but pap smears only tell a doctor that your cervix is fine and you don't have signs of cervical cancer. I've been told that I should be fine and that I would only be infertile if I had developed PID from the StD(which I didn't thank god). Still I worry everyday. My fiancee and I have been ttc for 2 months now and no luck but everything I've read says it takes from 3months to 1 year for a healthy couple. You shouldn't worry about it honey. I think you will get pregnant when it is time. Stress can keep you from getting pregnant so try not to worry so much. You are healthy!!!

Answer 5

I am afraid that I will have a very hard time conceiving. First of all, my periods were irregular before I got on birth control and now I have been on birth control for six years. Some women have a hard time conceiving after being on birth control and I worry about that. Also, my bf claims to have a low sperm count so that may be a problem as well.

I think you are worrying too much. If everything is fine why do you worry so much? Try not to think about it. You have no reason to stress out.

Answer 6

Yep. I was 28 when we got married, and my mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother all had medically necessary hysterectomies between the ages of 27 and 39. So, I wasn't sure what condition my "parts" were in. On top of that, my husband has done two tours in Iraq, and was exposed to all kinds of chemicals and what not, so we had no idea what condition his little swimmers were in. We decided to try for about a year, and then look into adoption if we hadn't conceived by then. If we couldn't have kids "naturally", it wasn't the end of the world.
Our fears were put to rest...quickly. We were married, decided to start trying after he got back from a seven-week training in a different state, and the first weekend he got back, we had unprotected sex, and I got knocked up. :-) I'm due last Friday, the 23rd. (the kid is just too comfortable in here).

Answer 7

If you're having such an intense fear about not being able to concieve before you even start trying, I would suggest going to speak with a professional therapist. Such worries, particularly when there's absolutely nothing abnormal causing them, are unhealthy for you, for your relationship with your husband, and eventually for the relationship you might have with a child. They could reflect some underlying issues which I won't even attempt to analyze here. In any case, it doesn't sound like you're ready to care for a child -- you have to care for your own mental state first.
Also, such stress can affect your chances of getting pregnant and/or carrying a baby to term, so it's really something that you should seek help on and try to work out.

Answer 8

The problem is that psychism has a great impact on conception, that is why some women who couldn't conceive, eventually get pregnant just after having adopted a child. I know that it is easily said, but the best way for you to get pregnant is to stop thinking about not being able to do it.
As you said, you are only 23 and there seem to be no reason why you shouldn't have children, so relax!

Answer 9

Yes I was, I guess everyone is kinda scared of that, but you really have to get it out of your mind. See, we tried for 2 years to get me pregnant, but never worked. We thought that probably there was something wrong, so we start checking adoption sites and proceedures, and the next thing I know, I was pregnant!!! Female brain and hormones are really strong, if you are stressed or nervous it will not work. Just make love as usual, to have fun and to have a good time with your husband and believe me it will happen by itself :) I would recommand to take Folic acid pills also, it helps a lot :) Have a Nice Day!!! :)

Answer 10

I never "tried" to get pregnant, it just happened. Some people try for years and nothing happens. It's different for everyone, but if all your check-ups are good, chances are it will be much easier than AVOIDING pregnancy. Just do your thing, maybe have a few drinks, watch some porn, just f for the sake of effing and you should be knocked up in no time!