My parents dont let me see my boyfriend but I'm sneaking behind their back.?

Question

I have been w/ my boyfriend for 7 months. I'm Armenian and he is Mexican. We love each other very much and we will be spending the rest of our lives together. We are both 21. However, my parents didn't approve of him, my mom started monitoring my cell phone calls, and i stopped going out. I can't see or talk to him like i used to. This has driven me to depression and I'm always sad n hurt. I am planning on moving out w/ him eventually after we both get more settled. I lie to my parents in order to see him and the only way i talk to him is on the pay phone, from work and on AIM. Any suggestions how I can pull through this. I have seen a therapist once and she made me feel more confident. Everyone (friends, family n coworkers) are against me b/c he is Mexican and I'm Armenian. He treats REALLY well. help please :(

I come from higher class he comes from lower class. But that doesn't bother me it does bother my parents

Answer 1

i have a lot of armenian friends and totally understand what you are going through! anyone from the armenian community will think its wrong and will be against it.

all i can tell is to do what your heart tells you. you are proof that it doesnt matter who or what you are, you can still love anyone without caring about race, ethnicity, or money situations... and i think that is great.

its hard but, i would say do what you must... if you feel you are really in love, then see him as much as you can. just relax and try not to rush into things. i know engagement and marriage is very important to you. and that is great that you are not rushing it, and waiting till both of you are more stable...

maybe in more time, you can talk to your parents about it again... i know they may still be against it... but in reality you are old enough to do as you please... just be ready for the consequences it may cause... and keep your head up. be sure of what you want before you decide.

give it time. dont get sad. its great to be in love. good luck.

Answer 2

You are 21 years old. It's a difficult situation, because you are living at home. But as long as you live in their house, your parents are going to call the shots. You might want to look at saving some money and moving out on your own. I had to!

Answer 3

GOOD FOR YOU. don't let NO ONE stand in the way of LOVE not even your parents YOU know what you feel in YOUR heart and no one else. If you love each other then make it work it's going to be hard with everyone against you but it will make your LOVE that much stronger Thur it all and believe me race does not matter anymore that was the past tell your parent to get with the program. keep strong and fight for YOUR rights to love whom ever you want to

keep your head up and good luck to you i hope it all works out for you in the long run.

Answer 4

what you want is important, you know.

Realistically, while living with your parents you probably want to keep the peace, right? Not burn any bridges--at least till you can be on your own?

Accept that they do not accept him, and quietly work toward getting your own place. The sooner the better.

After you're out you can calmly tell them they can take it or leave it--that you love them very much and hope they will accept your boyfriend, but you are an adult now and capable of making your own decisions.

It's going to be hard, but keep your eyes on the goal.

Answer 5

Darling you are 21 years old. You need to live life and experience relationships. I don't know why your parents don't like him beside the race thing but I think if you are 21 years old you should be able to do what you want.

Answer 6

You're 21, move out and they won't be able to tell you what to do anymore, you're old enough to make your own decisions!

Answer 7

Listen to your parents..

Answer 8

I THINK YOU ARE OLD TO LIVE WITH YOUR PARENTS AND YOU DO WUT EVER YOU WANT ITS YOUR LIFE MAYBE THEY WILL TELL YOU WUT TO DO BUT IN YOUR HEART NO WAY