I need help????Mom Problem!!!?

Question

My mom keeps telling me that I have a attuide problem and I know but I try to be in the kindest person that I want to be towards her and she just yells at me i been through that las night and we didn't talk that much and we still haven't talked and what should I do? Then I have another problem my life is a screw up can you help me I really need a friend to help me on my problems!!!

Answer 1

First your question.

I try to be in the kindest person that I want to be towards her

Did you see what you wrote???

Perhaps you do need to work on yourself

Answer 2

Honey, Moms are always going to tell you that you are having an attitude problem, but that is part of growing up. The teenage yrs are going to be the hardest between you and your mother. I know sometimes it feels like it the fighting will never end, but it will. Mom's have a hard time letting go of thier kids when they are starting to grow up. To make matters even worse, teenagers tend to think that they know everything and that mom is just hounding them. The truth is: Teenagers know something but they don't know the whole story & moms just want to be able to guide thier teenager to the whole story. This is usually when the teenager will get in trouble for the "bad attitude." This is the point when the teen will usually tell mom that they already know. Then Mom will be upset because you don't know fully, and the way you responded is short and snappy. This is the bad attitude that you are not seeing.
The only way to get around the whole situation is to stop before you say something & think about the possible reactions that you will get for what you are about to say. Then you may want to think about how you can re-word what you are trying to say so that you won't get yelled @. This will take some time getting used to, but it is def. worth it.
As far as needing someone to talk to and your life being screwed up, you'll have to post some more about how your life is screwed up for us to be able to help you out.
I know that sometimes you may feel that you are sooo lost, nothing will ever come of you, no body "really" loves you, no one understands you, & why are you even here, BUT, it will get better. Your hardest times right now really will help you out later on in life. Everyone will always tell you that it will get better, but the truth is it will get better and it will get worse, but going through what you are going through now will help you to handle situations better later on in life.
You will be OK, because you have a heart. I know that you have a heart because you are reaching out for help via this program. If you were not a good person you would not even care to try and make the situation better. This makes you a good person on the way to becomming a great adult!!

Answer 3

I am a mom too and the funny thing is that I keep telling my daughter that she needs to get rid of her attitude also. I'm not so sure it's attitude though. I think it might be her trying to express herself. Is that what you are trying to do? Keep in mind that you mom will be with you through thick and thin. Talk to her. Apologize to her if you have been a little snappy and haven't meant to be. I personally don't speak to my mother and haven't since last year and I regret it. It's a long story and several differences. COMMUNICATION is what you need. Sit down and talk to her. Ask her what you are doing that is making her upset and think that you have an attitude problem. Family is very important and you values you learn young will follow you through life. Communication is you first step. And don't wait for her to come to you. Go to her first. If for some reason you can't talk to her like you would want to then talk to some adult you trust about any other problems you might have. Keep in mind...our life is only as difficult as we make it.

Answer 4

You know your life may be screwed up in a sense you aren't happy but baby there are many kids that would love to have such a screwed up life so to speak you are young right now and you aren't gonna get yourway all the time but remember when you get older you'll look back and will think man that's why mom did that or why she was telling me that trust me i'm living proof. you have a friend right under your nose your mom she's the bestest friend in the world. remember they are kids Way worst off then you that would probably like to hear their mothers voice to yell at them yoou and your mom need to sit down and talk

Answer 5

Sounds like you're just going through that stage that everyone goes through when you hit a certain age. You won't get along with your parents and your parents will b*tch about how you got an attitude problem...it's normal, we all go through it. The thing is at this age, you're growing up a little more and you're trying to be more independant from them. They don't really like it. You're your mom's little baby girl, only you're not a baby anymore and that makes her kind of sad. So you're trying to gain more independance while she's trying to hold on to you as tight as she can. It creates conflict sometimes. The best thing I know to tell you is to not be so snappy with her and just try to be honest with her about the things in your life. Break the silence! The silence is bad. You guys shouldn't start holding grudges..you'll drift further and further apart that way. Just start talking to her again, even about the smallest most insignificant thing. It'll be awkward at first, but you two will move on.

Answer 6

my daughter[who i love] has the most rudest,smart*ss mouth, also seems 2 b uncaring how she hurts peoples feelings, has the worlds worst attuide problem n the world, but she is still my daughter. no matter how much she argues with me or back talks me i still love her,just like ur mom still loves u. what keeps me going on is that someday she will b a mother and relizaed what she put me through and i no she will b able 2 then ask 4 my 4givness. i know u and ur mom will b able 2 get through this trying time. please remember 2 let ur mom know how much u love her and that u r truly sorry. we wont b here 4ever.

Answer 7

hA SOUNDS LIKE ME. Its a hard one to get through. You can be sweet and charmful but to your mom ur being a smartass right. How are you a screw up? Nobody is perfect.
I have all the time in the world to give advice. Feel free to e-mail me anytime. or if you have MSN messenger we can meet up on there. I am a 24yr old female so no need to worry bout some sicko trying to talk to you. I also have a daughter.

Answer 8

Well, baby, moms and kids never see eye to eye. Sometimes it is because the child soesn't want to listen, and other times its because the parent doesn't listen. We need the specifics, hon, or we can't give you any good advice, on how to cope. What exactly do you fight about. Why does she say you have an attitude problem, and what does she yell about? What part of your life is screwed up? Tell me that and I probably can help.

Answer 9

Your mom is just being a mom. I went through the same thing. No matter what I did, it wasn't good enough or I was back talking. Take a deep breath, and remember she is only looking out for you. If you need to talk or a shoulder to lean on, e-mail me hon.
Take care

Answer 10

Well little Miss Attitude . . Obviously you know you have one, why do you persist on dishing it out to your mom? On the other hand she could be SERIOUSLY PMSing. Either way Im sorry. You state you have another problem in your life. Why is it so screwed up? What is going on? [e-mail]