I have full custodey of my little girl and you be the best dad you can but does a little girl need her mother? Her mother has no contact since age 2 and my daughter wouldn't know her if she seen her, but she wants the idea of a mom so bad. It really breaks my heart and gives me so much guilt. The reason things went wrong to begin with was because of her family...mother so my ex chose her family over me and our daughter which she didn't have to make a choice in the first place??? i've tried to date but have a tough time with trust....i never thought my ex would do this. I was / still am a good man , provider, husband, father. Where did I go wrong? how do I recover from this?
2006-06-28 05:49:20 · 3 answers · asked by eagle03 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am so very sorry to hear that you and your daughter are going through this. Some women just don't want the responsibility anymore of being a wife and mother and leave...without ever having contact with them again. Please know that there are VERY few women out there who will do this.
Now, with your daughter...you mentioned that she was 2 when mom left, but not what her age is now. Sometimes a girl doesn't need a mother if the father gives her the love, attention and understanding she needs while growing up. She should have some girl friends whom can help her with her growing pains, and encourage her to talk with her friends' mothers. Does she have an aunt that can be a role model? Raise her like you would if her mother was deceased (as it sounds like the same situation).
It would be easy for me to say to pick up the pieces and move forward as that is easier said than done. You sound like a really nice guy and you obviously love your daughter very much. Allow yourself the time you need to heal from this devastation and just be there for your daughter as much as you can. She'll do better than you think she will...she has a dad who loves her very much!
2006-06-28 06:02:47 · answer #1 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Recovering can take time. Trusting someone takes time to.Don't be in a hurry to jump into a relationship.If you want to see if you can trust someone, then take things slow.There are some good women out there and if you give up on her because you think you can't trust her, then you may of lost the best thing that could of happened to you.If you are not trusting the person that you are seeing because of your X then that is not fair to the person you are seeing.Why should she pay for what your x did ?Do u see where i am going with this? Take things slow.Good luck
2006-06-28 13:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same here, but never married raise my kids too .daughter at 6 1/2 months now going on 9 years now (the mother) doesn't like girls. just be happy that she lives in a healthier environment with a loving parent to bring happiness into her life.
2006-06-28 13:52:53 · answer #3 · answered by ssanchez2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋