I have a 17yr old daughter. I've caught her writting notes about girls, and i think she actually likes one of these girls..But then again she thinks guys are cute. I can't stand the fact that she may be gay or bi..It's killing me and tearing up our relationship. I know i should just accept it and go on because she is my daughter, but lord i have tried and i just can't!! Some say she's doing it for attention
and some say because some of her friends are doing it she think's it's cool...The problem is way more serious than this..But can someone tell me some websites or something to search into, that might help me cope with all of this??? I'm at my wits end...Any help is appreciated, but only serious answers please...Thanks!
2006-06-28 05:38:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ive tried talking to her, she just duck's her head and just say's i dont know to anything i say or ask..She will not talk to me...We've been to a counselor..He wouldn't see her anymore because she would not talk to him either, he also said he thought it was all for attention...But that was 2 years ago!!
2006-06-28 05:48:31 · update #1
well i went through that with my daughter and it threw me for a loop , in fact , my daughter had a girl over 1 day and after that girl left my other daughter asked me hey mom howd u like ash's friend and i said shes alright why? and she goes cause thats her gf, and i was in shock and i was very angry and for awhile i really hated it , but in the end the love for my daughter won out . but even though i had to put up with it , i never stopped saying my views on it to my daughter , she was 17 too. and guess what shes not bi anymore , i think me expressing my views alot to her made her change her ways
2006-06-28 05:46:32 · answer #1 · answered by jojo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please don't take serious advice from websites!
If I may make a suggestion, why don't you talk to your daughter??? It may be difficult, but if you're honest and caring, it will show through and she'll respect you for it.
If you think there's actually a "problem," then it would be best to go to a professional to sort it out with your daughter, not rely on dubious sources like the Internet! Take care.
2006-06-28 05:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by EJ L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out PFLAG. I think that is what it is called. It's an organization for parents of gay and lesbian children. Whether your girl is bi or not, you might gain some valuable insight into her experimenting and behavior. Either way, try to be loving and accepting. She needs that from you more than anything right now.
2006-06-28 05:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by boxturtle_21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck.
Sometimes this just happens because of pressure of guys thinking its hot for girls to kiss. Talk to her and ask her what she really thinks that she can get out of this kind of relationship. If she finds more bad then good then that is good for you, but if its happens the other way you have to just accept it.
2006-06-28 05:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by blondieinlove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay my daughters friends well some of her friends have started doing this, Sometimes its just to find out who they really are and some of them just like girls. Here's a website, It might help you! www.gURL.com or www.beinggirl.com.... Hope this helps and I wish you all the best!
2006-06-28 05:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by ann h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel on this subject----MY wife is the one i'm talking about here, if you trust her completely and you can accept her judgement then you need to let her explore for herself and accept that she'll make the right choice even if it's not the choice YOU want her to make-- as for me i'm coming to accept this from my wife causeit will be benificial to the both of us in the long run --- i hope this helps a little
2006-06-28 05:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by tarot002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we ought to work out the circumstances and circumstances triumphing to grin or to make others to grin. smiling in maximum confusing cases are not any more person-friendly and also in an ungainly difficulty making others smile too confusing. besides to shrink the complications, we can attempt on both.
2016-11-15 09:08:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the situation over here is just to be taken calmly.................u shud talk to ur daughter bout wat u feel....................u shud take her to some gud counselor..................as u say she is doin this for some kind of attention..........maybe she is just doin it in a sarcastic manner...............just relax and talk to her bout wat u feel...............
2006-06-28 05:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by Mellesa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋