he used to be my husband but we split up 4 years ago he got with this girl who i made freinds with. he been with her for 2 years and have 2 girls but we found out that we are still in love with each other and want to be a family agian me him and our 2 boys as well as his 2 girls. she is my freind i don't want to hurt her but i am in love with him.
2006-06-28 05:31:47 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just wake up before she does and leave the bedroom. Maybe she wont notice.
2006-06-28 05:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it didn't work the first time round why should it work this time.?
I think you and your friend should find new partners, your ideal of all 4 children, and happy families just doesn't exist. There will always be doubt in your mind if he is sleeping with your friend ( after all he is both of yours ex ) why should you be any more exclusive than her.
Boy oh boy some people live complicated lives.......
It doesn't matter how you tell her ( if you are gonna tell her ) it's still gonna bloody hurt her....... She got with him before you were friends and had 2 children to him, you've got back with him after you made friends with her via your ex.
It's all just wrong
2006-06-28 06:23:07 · answer #2 · answered by sukimitchell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did u become friends with the girl after they were together, or before?
If before, then she went out with ur ex-husband and had two kids with him. I think she basically did the same thing u are doing now.
If after, then tell her you love ur husband and want to be with him again and make a family with the kids.
I think no matter if it was before or after she went out with him that u made friends with her, her two kids will be a problem. I dont think she's just gonna stand around and watch her two children be taken away from her to be raised by her best friend and ex- boyfriend.
2006-06-28 21:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you don't date a friend's ex to begin with. But this is complicated being you had him first, then you and this woman became friends. You still shouldn't do something like that to a friend though. That's the Golden Rule of Friendship. Thou shalt not date thine friend's ex.
But since you've broken it, just be honest with the girl sooner rather than later. It may make the difference between you going to the ER and being in a coma, cause if you were my friend, I'd kick your ***!!!
2006-06-28 05:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by Nille 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he with her now? If yes, then he needs to tell her he is in love with you and he wants to be with you. The friendship will most likely be over, especially if you have been seeing him when he was with her. If he is no longer with her, I think it will be ok, again he needs to tell her. She may think that you were together when he was with her though. Try to be as kind as possible as there are 4 children involved. Why couldn't this man stay with you before if he loves you so much? I would be leery of a man who keeps going away and coming back.
2006-06-28 05:38:42 · answer #5 · answered by jodi M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right of first refusal, having been the first wife. Be sensitive to her feelings for him, but be firm and secure that you are in the right. Sit her down, don't sneak behind her back and explain that you two are in love and that you have to be able to try to rectify your marriage for the sake of the kids. If she flips out on you, then that is her problem and she will have to ultimately come around for the kids. Good luck!
2006-06-28 05:36:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She got in between you and YOUR HUSBAND and now you are concerned about her feelings?
Are you dense? Or just naive? Think about it. Why should it bother her? Unless she is a gigantic hypocrite she should understand...but really...who cares what she thinks.
If you want your relationship with your husband to grow, this "friend" needs to be out of the picture.
2006-06-28 05:38:26 · answer #7 · answered by frontmann2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can make it work with your ex husband then by all means do it but if you have a shred of doubt than dint and try to break it to your friend gently it sounds like your in a pickle and there is no easy way around any of it.just do what you think is right in your heart.
2006-06-28 05:38:28 · answer #8 · answered by Kevin H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two love each other and want to be a family again...
you both need to sit down and talk to her together...since you and her are friends...
she may have already picked up on it..she can't be totally blind.
2006-06-28 05:34:57 · answer #9 · answered by joschaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had your chance lady and blew it from what you have written. He sounds as if he is quite happy to play you off against each other. He will dump both of you for someone else, I think its time you and your friend both woke up to him and I think your friend should wake up to you as well, you and him are two of a kind both low life's.
2006-06-28 05:38:32 · answer #10 · answered by mams brown eyed gel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋