Why do people, married and otherwise, have such a hard time being faithful? I understand temptation and all that but what is so hard about truly loving the person you are with enough to remain faithful?
2006-06-28 05:23:51 · 16 answers · asked by blissful c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Human beings are not made to be faithful. Our DNA program us to mate with as many other people as possible. To supress cheating is against our nature. It's like a pipe waiting to burst.
You need an outlet...!
2006-06-28 05:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by KH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating-i do it because im good at it and can get away with it...there are so many good looking people that it gets really hard to stay with just one BUT i'm still young and am not into anything serious
every person has to find that other person that they wouldn't cheat on no matter how much the temptation...this takes time and the willpower AND especially if you're married or in a real serious relationship and you're cheating then that's disgusting...if you must cheat then let the other person go because what's the use of hurting another person only because you're horny and cant control yourself
2006-06-28 05:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many a times, it is the natural selfish tendency to "want what u cannot have". Same reason for envy. Sometimes its the "rush" they experience. Sometimes it is to subconsciously tolerating and provocative ideas, and the want for "something new". It all boils down to the lack of self control. With self control, one does not even entertain the thought of cheating, and even with sudden circumstances- for example, a person walking in shutting the door behind, a controlled person can walk away from such. Try self control, instead of wallowing in ungainly fantasies.
2006-06-28 06:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I have been married to my husband for almost 10 years and we dated/lived with each other for 2 1/2 years before that. We have never cheated on one another. Although, some people instead of counting their blessing they are always "the grass is greener on the other side." I have known couples where the man will gawk at the waitress right in front of his wife or tell his ex-wife that he still loves her, not knowing that his current wife is listening in on another phone. Men that have internet sex chats under a different name so that his wife won't know. It's sad. I'm still truly in love with my husband. Neither of us look the same as we did when we started dating...we've gained weight, he's lost hair, wrinkles are setting in, having children, work, stress...but we still make time for one another, care about each other and love each other deeply. So, no, I don't understand why some people can't be faithful to the ones that they "love" and the ones that they promise to be with "for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health 'til death do [they] part." Of course, in our vows was included "to cherish"...lol! Best wishes and take care.
2006-06-28 05:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by mothergoose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not hard. Simply put, those that aren't faithful just don't love the person they are with. They may love the things that the girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife does for them, but they don't truly love them.
2006-06-28 05:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im guessing you are a woman? I've never cheated, and none of the girls in my life (friends or family) have ever cheated --- yet I have yet to meet a man who hasn't at least once in his life cheated. Honestly, it's different for men -- men like sex with different people and don't see it as love or emoitional like women do. Sadly, they don't see it as anything that isn't normal.
My mom always says "there are only 2 types of men in the world -- the ones who have been caught and the ones who havent been caught YET"
2006-06-28 05:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for some sex is a disease, but if you really love someone and are truly happy then you are faithful, no questions asked.....some people take their spouses for granted and they allow themselves to be put in tempting situations...our society has made it so sex seems like its ok to go out screw everybody and have affairs...its all about your personal morals and it is so hard to find someone you can trust
2006-06-28 05:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by jada_24 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 5 years and I have nver found it hard. I love my wife with all my heart and could never be with anyone else.
2006-06-28 05:26:40 · answer #8 · answered by trovanhawk 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is so hard being faithful because being faithful means you can't taste any other flavors.
2006-06-28 05:26:33 · answer #9 · answered by frontmann2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure i feel the same way you do i would never think of cheating on my boyfriend, because the way i see it is if you wanna cheat then divorce the person your with dont cheat on them.
2006-06-28 05:26:47 · answer #10 · answered by Lauren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋