Is it wrong to fall in love with someone when you are already married?

Question

though its impossible to be with the person you are in love with, but just to add excitement to your very monotonous marriage life?... is tht wrong. And if it is how can you stop yourself....

Answer 1

Infatuations will never cease. It is what you do with these feelings that counts. It is never wrong to love someone. It is always wrong to break your vows.

Answer 2

i think it is a little wrong, you should never had wasted your husbands time marrying him if you are not in love with him. Its only monotonous if you make it that way. What you need to do is stop looking at the grass being greener on the other side and start focusing on renewing your love life WITH YOUR HUSBAND! This is not hard and if you really work at it, you can make it exciting, to the point that you wont want to not see each other every day, to the point where you will miss each other when you go to work every day, and cant wait until you get home to see him. So as a conclusion, you need to maintain the love between your man, suggest some things and find some ways that can renew the spark, like when you first started going out, you know that initial excitement, and forget about this other love interest. You may throw away a pontentially successful marriage, for abit of fun (that will most likely end up the same way your marriage is now, unless you try)

Answer 3

As long as you only love this person from afar there should be no guilt involved. You have done nothing wrong. I would, however, suggest that you have a long talk with your husband about how your relationship is doing. If you are having these feelings for someone else, and you are in a "very monotonous marriage", it is long overdue. I wish you luck & hope you can resolve this one way or the other. xx

Answer 4

Well It is wrong but if u really feel LOVE then u've already had something to do with this person........ I must warn u it isn't easy At the moment i am going threw it and it is x=treamly hard at the end if both fallin love then both will be hurt and there is no turning back time u will relive the moments u and the other had and will have alot of headache following the thought ........ If in case u havent started then PLZ dont it will avoid heart break and alot more,......... GOOD Luck

Answer 5

To fall in love with another person that would be harmful to your Marriage is WRONG. But to love someone as you would your sister or brother is not wrong. For you can have Love for all your friends. Some more then others. If you love---Then love the way the Lord would want you to. One of the greatest gifts a Man or Women can give their children is to Love their Father or Mother.

Answer 6

Oh, give me a break. Puh-leeeese give me a break. "Is it wrong to fall in love with someone when you are already married" paired with "how can you stop yourself" clearly trumphets your knowledge that it IS wrong but that you think one would be a poor little victim in all of it - that it is beyond your power to "stop yourself."

Unadulterated crap. What a way to release yourself from blame. This ranks right up there, if not being part and parcel to, with the lament of the cheater" "It just happened!" What does one hear then ? "It's not MY faaaaaaauuuult! It just happened! I couldn't stop myself! It was too powerful for me!' I can hear it in divorce court now: "Mr. Whiner, please approach the bench." "Awwww, yer hooonerrrr. It wasn't MY fauuuuuult!"

Ok, I've vented. Now then. The whole idea of getting married is to cleve to one another....foresaking all others....this is the traditional language of the ceremony. And there is a reason for that. When you are mature enough to get married (and there is the big problem leading to divorce in the country) you are supposed to understand the nature of the contract/pact you are making with the other person and the impact that is going to have on life - your life, his/her life, any children's lives, etc. It's a BIG DEAL and it means WORK. You have to work at being kind; you have to work at being compassionate; you have to work at being understanding; you have to work at compromise; and you have to work at staying in love. It ain't easy, but it sure is worth it IF you actually put in the work. If both of you put in that effort.

You stop yourself from "falling in love" with someone outside your marriage by - first, doing all the above work - and then by being aware of yourself. Aware of what you are feeling and doing and whenever you feel a hint of an attraction, you do whatever YOU need to do to stamp it out and keep it at bay. For some people, that means cutting off the person who attracts you. Others may have the maturity to continue a friendship or a work colleague situation without falling into the trap that will break up a marriage. Who knows what works for you ?

Bottom line is that you and only you are in control of yourself - you put yourself in the situations that benefit or harm you; you affirmatively take the actions necessary to keep your marriage safe and secure and protected or you take the actions which lead you into cheating and betrayal. There is no one else to blame except yourself.

Answer 7

There's nothing wrong with FEELING something. The heart wants what it wants...

It is, however, very wrong to act on it and have an affair. You've made vows; you're expected either to keep them or disolve the marriage in a fair manner.

But if you're just using this infatuation as fuel to spice up your marriage, I don't see much wrong with it. You might want to keep it to yourself, however.

Answer 8

Yes it wrong to fall in love with some one else while married how would you feel if your wife was asking the same thing? Well if your in love with someone else then that must mean you don't love your wife anymore so i say walk away b4 its too late REMEMBER: THERE'S A THIN LINE BETWEEN LOVE AND HATE

Answer 9

I think you are talking about a crush, not actually falling in love. Even married people develop crushes. They key is to never act on a crush and to never let a crush become the focus of your life.

Answer 10

the question really is are you still in love to the person you married? flirting or having to like another person isn't wrong it's only wrong if you persuit. the only way that i know you could stop it is by not seeing this person you are having these feelings for, if you work with this person stop talking to this as much as u used to make yourself feel as if you dust couldn't satnd him. maybe that will work for you.

Answer 11

Do you really think it's fair to your spouse to be in love with someone other than them? How would you feel if they fell in love with someone else?

You need to show some self control and leave this other person alone. It's gonna backfire on you eventually and you may just end up alone.