i am 18 and just found out i am pregnant 4 months with twins by my ex. bf and i keep getting these flutters in my tummy?i scared i dont no if this bad i have only been to doctors once and am hiding my pregancy from my parents so i cant go to a doctor my current bf. even felt it some when we were makeing out (he has no idea). and my ex. has no idea what this is and cant pay for another doctor visit.
2006-06-28 05:02:50 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i cant eat much so i am not gaining much only 10 pound i am 5ft 6 normally weigh 100 pounds now i weigh 110
2006-06-28 05:07:35 · update #1
there r free clinics you can privately go to one....my guess is that it is just your babies moving around and kicking you it should be a very exciting time for you.....my advice is to tell your mother or someone you can trust you r not a child any more you r fixing to be a mother u need to have regular medical checkups to make sure your babies & you r doing ok.....i know it is hard i got pregnant at 14 i did ok but i did hide my prgnancy for about 6 months as well it was not good that i did that i finally broke down & told my mom...it was such a load off of my shoulders for her to know & to have someone to help me mentally....i wouldnt change any thing now i raised him with my parents financial help untill i was old enought to work then i raised him on my own...he is 12 now and a great kid...please tell someone i know you can do it u r 4 years older than i was and i promise you will feel so much better if you talk to some one who knows what u r going thru it is not so scary when u r not keeping it all in.....and you will have to tell them any way when u give birth why wait? u do need to see a doctor! if you decide against telling your parents or another adult you trust please at least go to this web site and check it out ..good luck
2006-06-28 05:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get on Medicaid if you need. It will cover all your medical costs. You need to decide if you want to try and raise your babies or if adoption is a better option. Either way, you need to be up front with your parents, then inform both of the guys. You'll not be able to hide that belly for too much longer with 2 babies inside. So better to be honest now, than to get found out later. You could always do an open adoption so you could see your babies some as they age. But since the daddy is an ex, the current is a new boyfriend, and you sound unready to be a mom, maybe adoption is best. But talk to your parents and guy. They might all surprise you. They may offer to help you raise the kids and he may stick my you. Ya never know. But right now you need to eat better, get normal checkups, take prenatal vitamins, and start preparing insurance wise for the birth. Usually twins are borm a month early, so your time is comming soon.
2006-06-28 05:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The flutters you feel are your babies moving around.
Twin pregnancy are always considered high-risk. The chances of you delivering early are very high as well as many other problems you don't have to worry about in single pregnancies.
You made an adult decision to have sex, now you must deal with the outcome of that decision like an adult. To hide it and try to pretend it doesn't exist isn't going to work for long. Once you start growing, it is going to be VERY obvious. You can't hide a twin pregnancy for very long. When I was about 4.5 months along with my twins I went from not looking pregnant to looking very pregnant in the space of one week.
You MUST go to a doctor. It is unfair and very selfish of you not to. If not for you, then for your babies.
Best of luck. I hope you do the right thing soon.
2006-06-28 05:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by i_am_the_dida 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, you need to decide who you want to be with. You're pregnant and bringing a child into this world now....you can't go around hopping from one guy to another. You need to tell both of them, AND your parents, so you can receive the proper care. These are the mature things you NEED to do since you decided to lay down in bed with a man.
4 months is the point where you'll start to feel slight movement from the baby. Hiccups, moving, switching position, etc...
2006-06-28 05:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by Jasmine Lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't hide it. it makes things worse in the end. i hid my pregnancy all the way from everybody, i didn't recieve any prenatal care. When i did have my daughter everybody in my family and my friends were so hurt that i did not tell them. I felt so bad because something could have happened to my daughter while i was carrying her and i would have never known since i wasn't going to the doctors. Thankfully nothing is wrong with her but i'm not going to chance it again. And since you're pregnant with twins i would think you would need extra attention. Yeah your parents may be upset with you at first but they'll come around.
2006-06-28 05:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by sweetbutter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing to worry about! At 4 months the baby starts to move a lot. You won't feel "kicking" per se, but the baby is moving a lot and it feels like "flutters" as you described it. You may want to check out the site www.babyfit.com They have wonderful info on pregnancy month-by-month and will give you weekly information about the stage of pregnancy you are in. Also, the book "What to Expect When You're Expecting" gives you a breakdown of what is happening in your body and with the baby. The information is veyr comforting.
2006-06-28 05:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by lachichippie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better not be like this lady I saw no 20/20 she just went into denial about having a baby, so just one random day she had a baby, and no one found out she even had a baby untill someone found it dead in the river!!! (not that I'm saying your going to do that... but what I"m really trying to say is tell someone for the baby's sake.
2006-06-28 05:07:11 · answer #7 · answered by Lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to grow up in a hurry now. There is no way you can hide it much longer. You could have gotten an abortion, but 4 months could be too late. You will have to tell your parents, your ex and your current bf. By not going to the Dr. as you should, you are endangering the lives of these babies. Stop being a baby yourself and act responsibly. Those poor babies. Please make adoption arrangements.
2006-06-28 05:07:48 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a doctor to be safe. It may cost money, but this isnt a movie or video game we are talking about ... it's your life and the childrens.
How are you keeping twins under wraps for so long ... it's bound to come out sooner or later. The "truth" that is.
2006-06-28 05:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by jabbamonkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you is to tell everyone, since sooner or later they will find out. This way, you'll get the help that you need and you'll be free of all the anxiety of uncertainty.
Tell your parents, they will listen and help you. Tell your boyfriend, and you'll find out if he really loves you. Remember that your children are not the culprits, and they deserve your love.
Hopefully you'll learn the lesson and be more careful in your life.
2006-06-28 05:09:40 · answer #10 · answered by like it or not 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋