The emails said things like I miss you, I won't tell if you don't tell, thank you for being there for me etc... I'm not the most attentive husband but, I think this is wrong.
2006-06-28 05:02:03 · 14 answers · asked by yngathrt_33 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that it is wrong too. I think that you should print the emails and ask her about them. You do not have to let her know that you have printed them but you should definitely ask her about them. And if you guys work through this then you should look into couples counseling. How did you get access to her email anyway? I think that she is wrong and even if she did not do anything with him physically it is still cheating. It is one thing to look for advice and to share things going on in your relationship it is another to be romantically or emotionally involved with someone else. And you seem attentive enough to know that she is emailing someone else. You guys have some things to talk about and many things to work on. Find out what it is all about and figure out where to go from there.
2006-06-28 05:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are hurt by the fact that she is talking to another man, you need to really decide if you want to be with her or if you want to throw it all away over emails, maybe these emails are just innocent, it is soooo easy to say anything in emails, its not face to face, and has she actually met him yet? Seems you have a communication problem with your wife, sit down rationally and talk about it, find out if you are willing to forgive her, and if she is willing to stop emailing him, there is so much going on over the interenet now, you must realize that 99% of it is innocent, just an outlet, maybe she is looking for attention from you, consider that. Leaving is a bit unrational, but you seem to have a serious problem with it, so talk to her! Do what your heart tells you to do, good luck!
2006-06-28 15:15:29 · answer #2 · answered by slf620 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you are completly right to feel hurt, haveing went through this personaly i can tell you that there have to be some underlieing things in your marrage that you need to adress or this would not be an issue. im not saying that your in the wrong , it could be her but in ether case you are MARRIED and befor you or her make the choice to through your marrage away you need to see where you are at and whats important to you. you both made an oth under God and vowed to keep it. you can work thorugh it if you both are willing to. it realy is all up to the two of you. good luck man, P.S. dont be aggresive when you talk to her about it , it will put her on the defensive right off the bat and once you reach the point where you are blaming each other for things insted of trying to find the real problem you are on a rode to no where fast. you both need to try and see the others point of veiw no matter how scwed , and admit where both of might be wrong. marrage is about comprmise and communication. hope the best for you.
2006-06-28 12:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by armyguy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is wrong of her to be sharing probably intimate things with someone else but surely you don't throw away a marriage over it. Don't be so quick to jump out of the pot. Sit down and talk to your wife and find out where her head is. After all it could only be just emails. You buddy need to step up your game and become more attentive.
2006-06-28 12:27:40 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it`s wrong. Maybe you should try to be more attentive, try to conquer her back. If there are other signs of her cheating on you, like arriving later than usual, going out "with friends"-excuse, etc., you need to check. Telling her that you know she is emailing another guy is admitting you`ve been spying on her.
2006-06-28 12:08:42 · answer #5 · answered by lucrecia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps if you were more attentive in the first place, she wouldn't have to go to someone else for the attention she needs. Not saying it's all your fault, but you both need to take a look at your relationship and figure out if you can mend your relationship or even if it's worth salvaging. Forgivness goes a long way, but you need to really forgive her (since it sounds like cheating - and emotional and physical cheating are equally wrong). **** luck!
2006-06-28 12:12:08 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, don't be a hothead about it. That's the worst thing to do in this situation.
I would say do nothing for a while but quietly observe and collect evidence. Print out her e-mails and hide them. Discreetly copy her mobile phone records. Check out her credit card transactions. Find out what's really going on. Hire a detective if you need to.
Then, once you get an indisputable mountain of evidence, lower the boom. Don't walk out. Then she can claim abandonment.
2006-06-28 12:24:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is something going on, but not necessarily bad. You need to confront her with what you have found and get to the bottom of it. They may simply be good friends, granted she should be coming to you with her problems, but if you haven't been attentive, maybe this is your Wake up call. Talk first, don't make drastic decisions without all of the information.
2006-06-28 12:06:48 · answer #8 · answered by Christina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong you need to sit down and talk to her find out why is she doing this but I think you know your own answer you don't pay her enough attention maybe if you step up your game you'll get different results, she's lonely and wants attention give it to her!
2006-06-28 12:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by Danette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well one man to another, if even you admit to being inattentive think how she must feel. I would advise speaking with her about it, and find a happy ending, if you still love her. In the worst case scenario, ye who files first usually wins, divorce should be a last resort, it's always painful.
2006-06-28 12:15:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋