Ok, So my fiancee has one more year of medical school left before he does his intern/residency. I kinda of know that there will be some flirtation between him and the nurses. Im ok with it, cuz i flirt with the guys at my work place. And i know hes not the type to cheat on me. Even though i keep telling myself it will be ok, why do still feel jealous sometimes?!
2006-06-28 04:49:56 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Is this for real? Why don't you worry about the real problem at hand here...sounds like you two have a trust issue or two. It may be a good time to reevaluate your relationship. If YOU are flirting with other guys, maybe you don't truly care for him as much as you think...and vise versa!
2006-06-28 04:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by whoanelly00 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a natural reaction to insecurity. It can be helped, but you must first understand that if in fact, you say he's not the cheating type, then he won't. On the other hand, you can view your jealousy as a good thing. Being jealous of him, means that you have a deep love for him, and that you want to keep him to yourself.
As it would appear to the casual viewer, you are not "ok" with his flirting with the other nurses. Not really anyway. I'm not sure I approve of with flirting with co-workers, I mean, a little can't hurt, but make sure it doesn't lead to other things. The best advice I can offer you is that you need to have a real, sit down talk with him. If you don't fix this now, it can only get worse, and that is most definitely something you want to avoid.
2006-06-28 04:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by JohnnyJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a normal emotion. No relationship is ever 100% secure. Life changes all of the time. Your fiancee could be completely true, and then one day... Or he could be a complete cheat with no intention of ever leaving you and stay until "death do
us part". What he does when you're not around is not the issue.
If he treats you well when he is with you and is there when you need him, don't worry. Don't let your pride get in the way. Even the most beautiful women have put up with some infidelity. His
actions are not necessarily a reflection of how he feels about you.
His own ego is involved. Feed that for a happy relationship!
2006-06-28 04:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by nickismyname 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of your questions are related. Not good. You have a need to flirt so you know what effect that has on a guy and you know it is dangerous. We guys are easy when approached. If your fiancee is good looking, maybe you should move on since this will happen.
2006-06-28 04:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by Irish 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is not tolerated in the medical feild as much as in other types of work. It is a professional environment and employees are expected to treat each other on a professional level. I wouldn't worry about it too much. And even if flirting did occur and you know he wouldn't cheat on you, it is pretty harmless.
2006-06-28 04:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a natural instinct. Somewhere deep in you, you believe that there is a possiblity of him cheating, you don't like the fact that some other woman is flirting with your future husband or something along these lines. Good luck!
2006-06-28 04:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to feel that way. Unless in some way you dont trust him, but seriously no one knows what people do when someone else isnt looking. I wouldnt think it would be that big of a deal. He probably wont flirt to much. If you want to keep it safe just brake thing off.
2006-06-28 04:57:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him you shouldnt feel jealous..cuz even though he flirts with other people you kow that he would never cheat on you because he loves you too much and that you are the one he wants to be with..i think the nurses should be jealous of you =]
2006-06-28 04:54:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel that way because it is natural. Every person has alittle bit of jealousy in them, even whent hey say they do not. I have been married for 4 years and know my husband and I love each other but I even feel a tinge of jealous now and then.
2006-06-28 04:53:05 · answer #9 · answered by themogleclan@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a tad of insecurity...If he has never given you cause to worry try relaxing a bit...keep a watchful eye but dont let the green eyed monster consume your thoughts
2006-06-28 04:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by eastcoastraven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋