how can i save my marriage?

Question

im only 19 hes 20 been married 8 months and things have gone sour

Answer 1

So, the honeymoon is over, and real life sucks. You have to work at a marriage to make it work. Both of you have to work on it like it is the most important thing you have ever done. Which it should be. If he doesn't want to help, then I am sorry it's probably not going to work. I have been married 26 years, I married at 18. So, I know for a fact it's the hardest job you will ever have. Date your husband, make sure he knows that you love him, do those things that make his heart stop, and TALK !!! A good marriage is two people who choose to be one. For better, for worse, richer or poorer...together is the key...take care of it now, or you will be like a lot of people heading for divorce court because it's not worth the effort. Do you love him, does he love you? I am proud of you though for asking for advice, and just not picking up the phone for a lawyer's phone number. You have took the first step, you see the problem and are looking for answers...now talk to man who promised to share all life with you. Good luck!

Answer 2

We were 17 and 19. So no your not too youg. But we have been together 5 1/2 years sour times always pop up. But if you know or even think it's over, it is!!!

Answer 3

The first thing is that both of you need to realize a marriage takes a lot of constant work to survive. The other thing is to sit down and communicate with each other. Talk about what is good and what is bad in your relationship. Then break down the bad things and start working to change them one at a time. Remember, it is easier to tackle one item and solve it rather than try to do everything all at once and be over whelmed.

Answer 4

My husband and I did not get along very well our first year of marriage. Mostly because we are both selfish (as is everyone). Find a couple that you can have as mentors. Also, read some good marriage books, like Sex begins in the Kitchen by Kevin Leman. A marriage is a commitment. Be committed to doing what is necessary to make it work.

Mostly, put your husband first. Stop nagging and listen, listen, listen!

Answer 5

I myself married when i was 19 too. So, from experience-- I can tell you the first two years are quite difficult.

Communicate with each other and if you don't have kids and it still continues to be difficult then both of you need to move on.

Answer 6

Honey, we need more info than that to help. Milk goes sour....relationships do not simply "go bad". There is a reason. Talk to each other, figure out what the problem is. You are still both very young, you guys can work it out.

Answer 7

COMMUNICATION is the Key...Its hard for the first few years sweetie, but it will get better, you are just getting to know each others quirks and everything changes when you get married, it is supose to be forever and that is scarry...I was married at 19 and am now 31 so it can work just WORK AT IT! Good luck, you can do it!!!

Answer 8

Please go to www.watchtower.org My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years and we got married at the same age that you did, and it hasn't been easy. But with help from this source, (the above stated website) we have gotten closer together and have a stronger marriage. And we read from a book about family happiness that we got from that website. Give it a try. What do you have to loose?

Answer 9

You're both very young. If the relationship isn't abusive, find a marriage counselor and start working on it now. If it is abusive, consult a divorce attorney ASAP.

Things to thing about ...

Do you love him?
Does he love you?
Can you imagine a good life without him?
Do you want him to father your children AND to be their father?
Do you want to have his children and be their mother?
Do you want the same things in life?

Answer 10

why dont u try something

write ur grievances in 2 sheets of paper
sit together and read the points - discuss and solve each

this can save ur marriage
remember - marriage is a 2-way compromise