Okay, I'm going to try and qualify this question as best as I can.
I had a woman living with me on and off for a couple of months. She moved in, we bought a dog together, ate the same food, shared conversation, had sex (sporadically I might add), and argued continuously. It became readily apparent to both of us that our "relationship" was not going anywhere, but I was still willing to try and make things work. Next thing I know, she turns around and moves out when I am at work one day-no warning was given, but the writing WAS on the wall. Anyway, she decided that the dog belonged to her (I paid for 51%) and she took a bunch of my personal belongings too. Also, she still owed me $300 from a previous loan, which she said she would pay back.
I know where she is living now and I have some potentially damaging information that I can use against her. She will not give me back any of my money, etc. Should I pursue this further, or just treat it as a hard life lesson and move on?
2006-06-28 04:20:56 · 31 answers · asked by raglanwolf 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im tempted to say rip her a new one with the info you have.... but I think the old saying "if she can live with it, you can live without it" is appropriate here....consider yourself lucky that the hag is gone - you got out cheap, my friend - at least you didnt marry the woman - think of the hole youd be in then (HALF!)........ Sucks, but let it go bro
2006-06-28 04:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by zoinks22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it really only depends on the dog... if you really wanted the dog back for reasons other than the fact that you paid for 51% of it, then I could see going after her. Yes she has your things, and yes she owes you money, but if you can live with out these things, then I'd do so. Dealing with her more, will just add to the stress in your life which will cost you more than money and belongings. I hope you make the right decision & good luck either way you choose to go.
2006-06-28 04:29:27 · answer #2 · answered by chaoscausingleo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on your reason for pushing it further. Is it out of revenge or in fact because you want what is yours? When you mention the "potentially damaging information" it makes me think that you want to hurt her, which I truly can understand, but in the end the only person you will be harming is yourself. Personally I say let it go, walk away and count yourself lucky that you didn't invest more time and money into a relationship that was not going to work out. (I personally went through something very similar, only it was a 20 year marriage, and in the end I walked away with nothing but my sanity half intact!)
2006-06-28 04:34:00 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how bad you want/need your money back and her ability to pay it back. You could take her to small claims court and get it back that way, but will it cost you more in the end? Also, using potentially damaging information against her takes you down to her level. Be more mature about getting your money back if that's what you choose. Either way, it'll be a hard life lesson, and you have to move on. Good luck!
2006-06-28 04:28:10 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to ignore such unreliable persons. She is just like any other street prostitute. She is not interested in you, but your money and belongings. If you want to fight her out, you can go to police, lodge a complaint, so that she will not do this other persons like you. They take advantage of your innocence and straight forwardness and make a living. Such people are more in this world. Think twice which is right or wrong and go ahead. Don't do such things again. She made you look like an idiot. Be careful man.
2006-06-28 04:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just let her walk away and see it as a lesson learned. Legally, if you can prove she owes you the money, and took posessions that were not hers sue her in small claims court for the cost of furniture, 51% of dog cost, and money and move out cost.
2006-06-28 04:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by nene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she have a really demanding or lengthy workout consultation the vacation earlier? My mare's in straight forward words finished this once to me, after a vacation that extremely became purely too a lot for her health aspect, different cases she will be in a position to no longer go away me on my own in her paddock, notwithstanding the day after the demanding workout consultation I went to get her and he or she walked away back to the back gate (that leads to her nighttime paddock) as if conserving 'noooo! no moree! Take me back to my nighttime field!' bless her.
2016-11-29 21:44:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both. This would be vain if you didn't use it as a lesson learned. I would advise you attempt to get your money back and let her know the length you are willing to go to get it. As far as the dog, whoever has more time on their hands should be the one to keep it. Logically speaking.
2006-06-28 04:25:35 · answer #8 · answered by Gia M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on! Save your energy and keep your heart healthy from all this aggravation. She took advantage of you and won't pay you a dime. You are better off without someone like her anyways...and by not pursuing this matter you won't stoop to her level...and in my opinion its probably something she did before and will do again to someone else...Good luck!
2006-06-28 04:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by ilana73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the kind of person who will take it as a life lesson and move on. I have always thought that the best way.
2006-06-28 04:24:09 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋