I am in counseling, and I am also on medication. Being a person of faith, I have a great deal of support. However, I still feel so forlorn and lost. Will I always feel this way?
2006-06-28 04:15:40 · 14 answers · asked by The Real Harpo 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Depression can be tricky. The important thing to remember is that YOU have control over it and it does NOT have it you. I know it's probably hard to get all the negative out of your head but you should really try to put yourself as much as possible in happy and uplifting situations. Either do something you really enjoy or be around people that make you feel better. It will not last forever and you can overcome it. One way to look at it is that you know it COULD be worse and some people do have it worse than you in the world and they overcome great odds anyway. The best philosophy to have on life is "you only live it once..make the most out of it and enjoy every single minute". Turn to spirituality. God is always there for you and he can help you through the hard times, prayer can work miracles. Remember no matter how high the mountains seem to be sometimes there is always a way over them and you will make it through just like you have before. Don't worry about unnecessary things or bad possibilities that may never happen. You can't control how the world treats you but you can control how you treat yourself and handle every situation with a positive attitude because when you start to believe in yourself it really shows and it will instantly make you feel more happy with yourself. Just smile even when you don't feel like smiling and good things will come. Keep your faith that is what will get you through and remember YOU are the one in control. I wish the best for you.
2006-06-28 04:28:52 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela I 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from personal experience, both with medication and counseling (13 years!) I can only share what has worked for me.
I am not a victim. Lousy things have happened to me. I've been depressed since childhood. Life is often unfair. But I AM NOT A VICTIM. Victimhood is a state of mind. I chose instead to be a strong compentent woman with the ability to rise above my circumstances. I chose to be kind. I chose to be happy.
When I do for others I get out my my own misery. It is a wonderful cure from the lost and forlorn feelings. Help someone else out. Do a good deed. Perform a random act of kindness. Add some joy to the universe.
2006-06-28 04:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by Caffiend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Everything happens for a reason."
Those reasons can be oblique and shrouded but there is a reason for everything. There is a reason for feeling lost and forlorn. You don't necessarily have to know the reason, just know that one exists.
I know very well the feelings of being lost and forlorn. Did I overcome it? I don't know yet. It's only been half a lifetime ago. I manage it, and I understand that there is a reason for it's effects on my life even though I may never know it.
You will find a reason to feel better, and most times the best reasons are also the simplest.
2006-06-28 04:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by Bill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make the decision to work hard at being happy. Our feelings come from our thoughts. And if you are always telling yourself that life sucks, it's hard, you never get any breaks...you are just going to keep noticing that life is hard, sucks, and you don't get any breaks. If you tell yourself the opposite: life is great, I have lots to be grateful for, I can figure out ways around challenges, I make my own breaks...you'll start to notice that your life really is blessed.
This is what I did after years of being on medications and being in counseling: I started by going to bed every night and thanking God for every good thing in my life, from the smallest thing (that great tasting sandwich I had for lunch) to the largest things (my family, my house). It doesn't matter if you fall asleep while you are doing this, just do it.
Then when you have made this such a regular part of your life that you don't have to think about doing it it just comes naturally, then start talking to God about whatever is going on in your day, but do it in a positive way. I started talking to God every time I got in my car by claiming for myself and others sharing the road with me safe travels without accident, incident, injury, ticket, or mechanical issues--I didn't have car insurance for several months or the money to pay for repairs or tickets. Then accept what you claim by saying something like "I accept this on behalf of all of us in faith and relief that this or something better is so." Then thank God and let the stress go. Also, when something that has been worrying you works out well, immediately say a small prayer of thanks.
You won't always feel forlorn and lost. The best antidote for worry and stress is action. Take some of the positive action I suggest above and in a few weeks you'll notice loads of difference. I was able to get off 2 of the 3 medications I was on by doing the above. Best wishes to you.
2006-06-28 04:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by Robin W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Harpo
Being a person of Faith - rely upon a personal relationship with Jesus Christ - in the midst of medication and counseling He can help you let go of those things that cause the depression that you cannot control but He can. He can also help you refocus on the things you can control but feel you can't which too contribute to depression. Will you always feel this way? Probably not but with Christ when it comes again you have a hope and a future to focus upon instead of the doom and gloom that is so apparent in our world.
2006-06-28 04:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always remember that tomorrow will be better than today. That thought got me through 16 surgeries in a four year period. I also had a friend who was very depressed for a long time and then one day he decided to find a reason that today is a wonderful day. Now every day he looks for something that he can claim makes this the best day ever, and you know what? He can always find something. Sometimes it is just children playing in a yard or finding a lost ink pen but he can always find something and we all love him for it.
2006-06-28 04:23:33 · answer #6 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good daily affirmations:
1. "I am special ... I am beautiful ... I am wonderful ... powerful ... unstoppable"
2. "Ready or not here I come"
3. "I have nothing to fear, but fear itself "
4. "If you're happy and you know it clap you're hands"
Since u're in counseling, and have support, I was guessing you needed "Daily Affermations". There will not instanly get u outta depression but they are small baby steps to carry u out!!! Additionally, I find that if I stand in frount of the mirror and make funny faces to myself, I lighten up, and this also chissles away at depression.
Smile.
2006-06-28 05:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A single philosophy - which I follow is:
ALL FOR GOOD!
2006-06-28 04:19:51 · answer #8 · answered by gopala g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give me happiness or give me death.
Follow this philosphy it ought to cure your problems. I came up with it myself you can send me money if you like.
2006-06-28 04:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by Derrick T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the song says..."I get knocked down..but I get up again...nothing ever is gonna keep me down..."
Believe it and live it. Toughen up gal!
2006-06-28 04:22:50 · answer #10 · answered by rachel_waves 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋