go on and keep getting children for other men wihtout marriage . I know someone who has three and feels their the reason that she did not go anywhere in life ?? Also when a guy is getting into a relationship with a woman who has more than one child from different guys ,would you not think they would where protection ?
2006-06-28 04:12:47 · 5 answers · asked by HAPA CHIC 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
No one is saying she has to marry someone because she has a child with him ...but why keep on having children with diffferent men ...when you know it will not keep them or force them into marriage . the girl I knew kept having kids as every guy she met she was still under the impression they would marry her ...then places the responsibility on her kids when she meets a guy and they walk away due to how many kids she has with different men
2006-06-28 04:22:59 · update #1
It's become socially acceptable to have children out of wedlock...and what punisment do these people recieve? Welfare? Grants to go back to school? Oooh, I am so scared! There was a day when corporal punishment, chastisement and banishment were the answer, but because of a lax society now it's the norm. I don't mean to offend anyone but I have been offended on more than 1 occasion when registering my 4 children for Dr.'s appointments and such and they ask the last names of my children...I get upset that I have to repeat myself that I actually have 4 children by the same man, and what?, oh, my God!, it's a miracle but I'm actually married to him too!
Society makes this acceptable and if you speak out against it you are the one shunned!
2006-06-28 05:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by maharet 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Children being born out of wedlock is far from the worst, my niece's best friend has had 4 children before she is 25 and the only reason she keeps having more with different guys is for the welfare money that the government pays her to have more, her first two sons were to much for her but she just had twins and now needs her mother to help look after the kids, the government gives her 250 dollars per child so basically she 1600 dollars a month to support her partying life style. go figure who would have thought that a person could put a price on a child's life.
2006-06-30 01:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is both the woman and the man's responsibility to use protection when having intercourse. Just because the man did not use a condom does not mean the woman has got to marry him. Just because the woman got pregnant does not mean she has to marry the man who got her pregnant.
A woman can be an excellent parent without being married. Men are not required to raise perfectly happy and healthy children. And, in some cases, when the man is controlling, sexist, dumb. abusive, cheating or otherwise distrespectful of the mother, children might be better off being raised without their biological father.
You would think that people would be smart enough to use protection: especially if it is obvious that their sex partner has had multiple previous sexual encounter. But, some men think with their penis and not with their brain. You need a license to drive a car, and, if you are a teen, driver's education, but you don't need a license or parenting classes to have kids.
Added: Your friend is getting pregant for the wrong reasons. the only reason one should become pregnant is because one wants to have another child. I can't think of a better way to scare a guy away then to get pregnant! Her plan has failed her three times, and will likely fail if she tries it again. She should not be blaming her children. She chose to have them -- they did not choose to be be had. Before she gets into another relationship, she needs to learn to respect herself. If she is looking for a man to love her for her, she needs to love herself first. She also needs to love her children. A woman who blames her children for her lot in life is not going to find love. When a man sees that a woman adores her children he will she that she is capable of such love and will cherish that and will be able to fall in love with her. Unless she is looking to marry a jerk, she will not find someone to love her if she shows no love for or blames her kids.
2006-06-28 04:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by ★ Estelle ★ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all most women who become pregnant weren't planning too. Second some are trying to trap their man. Third some just don't care and want people to know who they babies daddy's is, such that he's all that. Fourth the man know he was just getting some. I could go on and on, but in reality women should have more respect for themselves and their body. Last its both their responsibility to use protection not just for birth control.
2006-06-28 04:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by Sound good to me! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex left me for a girl who is pregnant with her third (may or may not be his). I have no kids.
2006-06-28 04:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by Carla C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋