okay do any of you guys have kidz? and do you get harrased for it? my dads get threts and some times physically abused when walking through a store or down the street because they are gay and the adopted me and my brother. i love my daddies but i am kinda lost as to what i am saposed to do. people make fun of us (my brother and i) becaus our dads are "*******". it hurt to hear it and now my brother in getting into trouble at school cause he fights with some of the other boys. he was beaten pretty badly and now has stiches on his forhead, cause one of them threw a rock. it is getting out of hand, and i need som advice. it is not very comon to be homosexual in my town and the town isnt big so almost, if not all, the people know. and my Mapa says he doesn't want to move but i am afrid that if we dont we will end up hurt really badly, if not dead. please help me. i am desparate.
2006-06-28 03:49:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Ok, I am a gay man. I have no kids of my own, but I have lived with a partner who had children. My partner worked long hours and I took up the role of being the main parent. His children referred to me as their other daddy. I was proud to be this to them. Here is what I advised them.
First, any type of fighting or physically violence is wrong. If at all possible teach yourself and your brother to walk away from the fight. If certain bullies persist tell your principles. They have to act upon it. If they do nothing your parents can go to the school board and have it acted upon. If the school board does nothing then you can have the school board, and the parents and the kid in courts. You need to be brave and stand up for you and your brother and your fathers. Be proud of them and who you are. A family.
They other thing you need to do is continue to talk to your fathers and tell them about your fears. They will listen. If the situation is bad enough, one or both of them will take some sort of action to help you and protect you. If it comes down to moving away then so be it. But running away from a problem has never solved the problem. Be strong, and God will be on your side, for you are in the right here.
2006-06-28 04:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 2⤋
Well, if it is really that serious, then you will need to move. If you tell your dads that your lives are at risk, I'm sure they love you both enough to consider. There are also ways to fight this if moving is out of the question. Wait until the other kids start a fight. Don't hit back or anything. Then, take them to court. If you lose. Appeal it. This has happened before and went all the way to the Supreme Court because some kids in TX killed a kid because he was homosexual. He won. Also, try contacting the school. Every school has a policy on bullying. But, if the authorities aren't on your side, it's easier to move. Good luck!
2006-06-28 04:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by Meredyth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how is it like to be bullied and beaten up on a daily basis but i don't think i can top the answers from both gentlemen before me. i think a combination of their approach might just help you stop this violence.
for example, going to the press about it and also asking your daddies to talk to the school board to get them to take some action, failing which, institute proceedings against them. (you WILL have an arguable case cuz by then the school board would have knowledge of the bullying and if they still fail to act, your daddies can sue the school board AND the school)
you should try one thing at a time, for now, talk to your daddies. I'm sure they are equally as desperate as you are to protect their family.
let us know of the progress OK sweetie? good luck in this!
and good for you for being brave enough to step up and deal with your problem sweetie!
PS: and to the ar$ehole up there who does nothing but to give such a useless comment to a young child in distress, people like you are the reason she and her brother is getting harassed in school. homophobes like you think they deserve it cuz they have gay parents! well you have no rights! so please be of help to this poor child and stop making a nuisance outta yourself!
"If you have nothing good to say, DON'T SPEAK!"
2006-06-28 06:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by Rainbow nation 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww babes that is terrible i have no kids well ihave cats but there you go!
do you live in a liberal state? if you do get the media involved and go all out on it so then they would feel ashamed to do such a thing.
I did a similar thing in my town when me and my partner moved in together and it worked!
2006-06-28 03:57:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try assembly up with him for an informal date and ask him...head to head desirable thanks to get answer. supply him income of the doubt til you comprehend for certain. If that were his lady then she would have both requested "who's that this" or what the F***. in case you call and always get voicemail i'd be worried-that could want to signify it dont favor to respond to if she is there. what do you purchased to lose in case you meet him for dinner?
2016-11-29 21:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by vikas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your just an example to why gay people shouldn't have kids
2006-06-28 04:45:18 · answer #6 · answered by AFwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont use it you lose it ,,,,,,,,means move to more mature place
2006-06-28 03:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by draagon13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋