I think I'm bisexual... I love fantasizing about mff and seeing two woman french-kissing or making out...it really turns me on and I’ll masturbate wildly in the end! But that's not the issue here. The real issue is, I'm in relationship with a man now. I love him, he loves me. We love each other and he knows all about my sexual orientation and he's cool about that. He has a sister living together with him and she's so beautiful... now, I love fantasizing threesome with my boyfriend and his sister while masturbating. I know it's wrong... but I can't control myself! I've asked my boyfriend about this, but he thought I'm just kidding him... but I'm serious, desperately serious here!
What should I do now? I know it's forbidden but why...?
I'm 18, my beloved boyfriend is 20 and his lovely sister is 19...
2006-06-28 03:49:38 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Is it taboo? Yes. Is it unheard of? No.
Here is what it appears is going on...
You are bisexual and you are open to the idea of being attracted to both women and men. You have also found someone in your boyfriend that you are very attracted to. And, because this is his sister that you are also attracted to, she probably shares several of the same personality traits and physical features with her brother. This is why you are probably attracted to them both.
There are several factors to consider before you make any decisions on what to do next. First, how serious are you about this guy? Second, would his sister even be interested in doing any type of female/female activities with just you? Third, is she in any type of relationship?
More then likely, the best outcome for you would be if you were dating your current boyfriend and dating his sister at the same time. This is very similar to when a straight person will date a set of identical twins. They go back and forth dating the two, even though they are brothers or sisters. The situation is similar for you b/c you will be dating two siblings, but b/c of your sexual orientation, you will be able to date both a male and female.
As for your fantasy of having a FMF threesome with the two of them, I think you can for the most part count that out. The Taboo factor for something like this is very high and often deeply imbedded in a person's psyche.
Good luck.
2006-06-28 04:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by B 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all, "forbidden" is a subjective term. What may be forbidden in my mind wouldn't be forbidden in someone else's. Personally, I don't see anything abnormal about it at all. People fantasize about all kinds of things. You shouldn't feel guilty about it. I also don't think it's wrong to keep some of these fantasies to yourself, as something personal. As long as you don't cross the line into infedelity, or force your boyfriend to do something that makes him uncomfortable, I'm not sure there's any harm in it. Certainly I have fantasized about people other than my husband, and he's done the same. We don't always share these fantasies, but it's naive to think they aren't there. If you start to become so attracted to his sister that you feel that you can't control yourself physically, then I think there's a bigger problem. Until then, I wouldn't beat yourself up about it. There's a good chance your boyfriend has fantasized about you hooking up with one of your friends (or his)!
2006-06-28 04:01:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasy is just that....FANTASY. It is when fantasy becomes reality that morals should be taken a lot more seriously. I mean in this particular fantasy there is incest involved. That is not something that you want to bring into reality. However, if you really want to have a threesome with your guy.....perhaps you should find someone outside the family that is bi. BE CAREFUL! This can be a surefire way to destroy a relationship. Make sure he is totally comfortable with your sexuality. For some reason some men become insecure and even jealous when their ladies actually participate in sexual encounters with the same sex.
2006-06-28 04:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by geni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it what forbidden? A 3sum between tour BF and his sis? Well it could lead to incest between brother and sis which most of us agree ia bad. It could harm their relationship beyond repair.
Should you go for the sister yorself? Again NO because no matter what answer she gives someone, you the BF or the sis will be hurt.
Fantasy is OK but it's best not to act on it. If you really want a 3 way with BF find another girl and pretend it's his sis.
2006-06-28 04:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with this. My wife is the same way and we have explored this and found its something we like including in our lifestyle. The only issue i see here is that it is his sister and that may be very akward for him. Im sure if you wanted to include another woman other than his sister he would be all for it. Good luck and remeber this will change your relationship depending on how well you communicate with each other about the experience.
2006-06-28 03:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by ogoisanogo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, I dont mean to alarm you but thats his sister... theres nothing wrong with being bisexual but there are problems with incestuous thoughts. Perhaps, you should take a step back and think about the ramifications of what you would/could be asking and then think one more time. Bisexuality is okay, but incest is a big no-no. Find another pretty girl and date her one one condition... you've got to be honest and tell your boyfriend. Heck, he might even like to join.
Good Luck finding your path.
2006-07-10 13:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥♥ Pink ♥♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The idea that you love your guy and are attracted to women is fine if it's fine with you and him. Beware, his sister should not be the other dessert that you're considering. Fantasizing is fine pursuing is not. It's his family and I think that would make it too complicated. Keep the fantasy but choose another female delight. And enjoy!
2006-07-06 05:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies are just that... fantasies. Masturbation is simply a reaction to fantasies.
Anyways, what you should do: realize the difference between fantasy and reality, and also realize that there's almost no chance of your fantasy turning reality. Fantasies cannot be forbidden - they're in your mind, and as long as you don't act out or hurt anyone with it, it's fine.
2006-06-28 05:06:56 · answer #8 · answered by Kage D, 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make that sterotype seem true, it's not. Being bisexual has nothing to do with threesomes, that is just a fantasy some people have, straight, gay/lesbian, or bi. It's really just a form of cheating because somebody is always left out.
2006-06-28 10:45:57 · answer #9 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK you need to find soemone other than his sister. As a man the thought of having my partner and I having sex and having one of my sisters in the room is creepy enough with out having to think of them participating in any way. Ewwwwwe
As a bisexual I am more open to different desires than most but i have to say Ewwwwwwwe
2006-06-28 07:20:48 · answer #10 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋