is my gf rediculously unreal sometimes?

Question

my gf is continuously arguing with me because I enjoy flirting with other girls when we are out. i don't see anything wrong with complementing women to make their day. she nags me because i watch t&a movies and pause and slow scenes down to enjoy the beautiful art of the female body. it's not like i want to have an affair or anything...i love this girl...i want to marry her...why does she have to be jealous and insecure?i am a man and i just enjoy making women feel good about themselves by complementing them and my girl claims i am disrespecting and degrading her. i love her and feel like i will lose her beause of this. i don't understand what else i can do to prove my love for her. i do love her.

Answer 1

Classic guy blunder - enjoying looking at other women in front of yours. Here's the deal - your woman should be the center of your attention when she's there. NEVER should you destroy that. If she is jealous and insecure it may have to do with lack of something you are providing her. Not talking about sex. How about complimenting her? Stop talking to other women in front of her in a flirtacious manner until you are secure, and then never go over board when you do. Do you tell her you love her? Is it often enough? Looking and talking to other women will always make a woman look and compare herself to them. Find the differences and wonder why you are with them. If you want to keep your girl I'd suggest stopping or at least paying attention to what you are saying/doing. There is a limit to what a woman will deal with. And right now you need to enjoy the art of her body and not some other womans.

Answer 2

Your girlfriend is right when she says that you are disrepecting her and degrading her when you flirt with other women when she is with you. What an insulting thing to do to your woman. She deserves to be treated better than that. Oh it's very commendable that you want to make OTHER women feel good by complimenting them. Just don't do it right in front of your girlfriend. Believe me, when you do that, those other women are liking the compliments, but they're also feeling sorry for your girlfriend and looking at you like you're a jerk. So, please. Start treating your girlfriend like a lady, and keep your eyes and your words on her when you're by her side. You'll be happy you did. Oh and one more thing. Stop pausing on the body parts when watching movies. You sure do need a few lessons on how to treat a woman. Geesh.

Answer 3

If your motive for flirting is the desire to make a girl feel good, then your girlfriend may question where that stops. What if a situation ever presented itself for you to make a girl feel good via a method that goes beyond flirting? That could be a thought in your girlfriend's mind. Your girlfriend may be a bit insecure and you need to modify your actions to help her feel more secure. If this girl means that much to you, then it shouldn't seem like such a sacrifice on your part to quit, or at least decrease the amount of flirting you do.

As for the t&a films, your girlfriend's problem with this could again be her insecurity with herself and her own body. In today's world, it is so hard for women (and men, too) to feel and be adequate. So your girlfriend may be comparing herself to the women in these films and she probably doesn't think she'll ever be adequate.

I think it all comes down to respect. If you respect you girlfriend, you should talk with her more about this to really, fully understand her feelings about these things you do. Again, I stress the point that if you really love her as much as you say you do, make sacrifices and give up these destructive habits.

Good luck.

Answer 4

You say you enjoy making other women just feel good about themselves by flirting with them, but you don't care how your woman feels... She doesn't like what you do and you don't really care enough to stop. I think there is something wrong with this picture. You sound like a womanizer. I don't think you should be in any relationship if you cant control your flirting with strangers. Guys like you in my book are players and like the attention themselves. I would do your "girlfriend" a favor and leave her so she can find a nice man that actually might be concerned for her feelings.

Answer 5

You want to keep her, stop flirting and focusing so closely on other women whether in person or on film (the slowmo action would even get to me). She was honest enough to speak out about something that really bothers her and you term it as "rediculously unreal" and "nagging". That in itself is kinda degrading. If you love her it shouldn't be too much of a sacrifice to not be so obvious about your "appreciation for the female form". If you feel it is too much of a sacrifice maybe this relationship was never meant to be.

Answer 6

You are so absolutely arrogant. Your one of those guys. The guy that thinks he will die if he doesn't look at every single girl. You dont seem to have any control over yourself and you have absolutely no respect for your gf. I can only imagine what the girls your complimenting are thinking when they see you with your gf. If I was her you would have been long gone. I wish I knew her so I could tell her to flirt with guys when she is out with you. A guy like you would be emasculated after the first guy. Your basically a jerk. You degrade her then tell her you love her. So typical.

Answer 7

U NEED TO STOP DOING THAT U MAY BE MAKING HER FEEL AS IF SHE IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR U AND THATS WHY U HAVE TO GO OFF AND LOOK AT OTHER WOMEN IF U WANT OTHER WOMEN TO HAVE A GOOD DAY BY BEING COMPLEMENTED LET ANOTHER GUY DO IT A GUY WHO DOESNT HAVE GIRL OF HIW OWN BUT U
U HAVE UR GIRL AND U NEED TO APPRECIATE HER AND LOVE HER AND COMPLEMENT HER NOT OTHER STRANGERS

Answer 8

Maybe you are spending so much of you time and attention admiring and complimenting other women that you have failed to make her feel like the the most important thing to you. When you focus so much on others, how is she supposed to know that you really feel the way you say you do about her. I would say, tone it down a bit and spend more time making her feel the way you make those other women feel!

Answer 9

she is insecure and jealous because you are making her feel that way. who wants their boyfriend looking and flirting with other women? that is in a sense is degrading to the person you are with. i dont blame her for acting the way she does, i would do the same thing. if you love her you will quit doing what makes her feel this way. if you dont you just may lose her.

Answer 10

You are being disrespectful and degrading to her and all women. If I was your father, I would knock you on your butt for this behavior. You are telling her that you want her physically when it is convenient for you, but when you let your eyes wander and watch the movies and all, you are being a complete a*s to her.You are not being a man, but you are acting very much as a young immature BOY. maybe you should try to grow up, and I hope that she has the wisdom to leave you for your behavior.