2 and a half years ago i met A and we started dating. and things were really great and we were really happy until 6 months in i met his mum and we really didnt get on! This made things really hard between us, Around that time i met J and we got on really well and kissed and started seeing each other. 4 months later i left A for him. Now 1 year on J and i are living together but i still see A all the time (as a friend) and i know he still loves me. I think about him all the time and cant get him out of my head even though J and i are mostly happy living together. Didi i do the right thing? Which one is the right one to be with??????
2006-06-28 03:34:36 · 14 answers · asked by bunnygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i believe u can love 2 people for different reasons....i am experienceing a sim situatiuon, and the extra stress of not gettin along with my one of my boyfriends parents has nearly cost us our realationship, i wish sometimes for comfortable surroundings and i have to admit ihave thought back to how i got along with my other boyf parents and wish i was still withthe bf before. If i do think this, its Not because i love him, but because i love the easier situ were i wouldnt have the arguments like i have had with my present bf were he feels at times hes stuck in the middle!!!
just as your self....if A was in a fatal accident tomorrow would it change ur view to be with him?
I hope that helps....take care !!!
2006-06-28 07:05:20 · answer #1 · answered by jojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't believe that you can: this is probably a case of the grass being greener and if you had stayed with A you might well be feeling the same doubts, wondering if you should have chosen J.
I don't know how easy this may be for you to arrange, but if you could get right away from both A and J for a month the, then the amount that you missed one more than the other might help you choose, but whichever you do choose and for whatever reason you make that choice, you must stop mentally comparing one with the other and hold fast to your decision.
If you find that you miss both of them equally, then I would say that you've not yet found the one man for you.
2006-06-28 03:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by SALMAGUNDI PARTAGER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know if you did the right thing and are with the right one. Sometimes we think the grass is greener on the other side and want things we can't have or know we shouldn't have. You need to decide once and for all who you want and stay with that decision and forget about the other one. Also there may be something missing from your current relationship and this is why you are thinking about the first one, sort this out first.
2006-06-28 03:42:26 · answer #3 · answered by wombat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they bothare wrong? It sounds like the both complete you in different ways. Have you thought that maybe neither are right and that both are only a preview for something more complete?
Have you ever wrote down a list in order of importance of everything you would want in your ideal mate? Then rate each of these guys in comparison. I bet you will find them quite unique. Just think about it. Honestly you will get what you expect and accept in a person. It is up to you to figure out what you want and what makes you happy. Settle or get what you want.
If J was in your shoes what would you think? How would you feel in A's shoes?
Good LUCK!!
2006-06-28 04:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by Niki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flip a coin. Heads is A, Tails is B. See who wins
then when the decision is made, if you feel bad.....you've made the wrong choice. If you dont care then you made the right choice
Job done!
2006-06-28 11:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by smutmonkey71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that same prob..so here it what i did, I thought who i wanted to marry one day, who i know would do anything for me, and even though, i love k in my heart i will always have a soft spot for j, but I am in love with k..it took me awhile becuz j loves me alot..besides..i m mad at j..he does not keep in touch ...*#$ hole..
2006-06-28 03:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot get along with the mother then forget about him. My first husband and I divorced because of that reason. You marry a man you marry his family.
2006-06-28 03:40:02 · answer #7 · answered by CharKaye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't love, you only like them, is impossible to love in the same time two persons
2006-06-28 03:40:25 · answer #8 · answered by ice cream with chocolate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the answer is yes. You stick with the one you were dating 1st.
2006-06-28 03:57:54 · answer #9 · answered by lambgroni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is possible, just make the right decision. who brings you out in a positive way. who helps you in all ways possible. and who is really in it for the best of your benefit?
2006-06-28 03:43:42 · answer #10 · answered by Lady_32308 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋