husband went out both fri and sat and didnt want me with him,so i went out with a friend,on sun found a girls # and i called she said she didnt know he was married so they met up at a bar but nothing happend,should i leave him or get back at him by going out with another guy?
2006-06-28 03:29:32 · 18 answers · asked by jenna leigh j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Revenge is not the answer.
2006-06-28 03:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by Sara Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U R married. No. don't get back at him. Confront him about the situation and resolve the issue. If he doesn't want to be married, why did he marry u? That is a question that should have been asked before the wedding. Then if your husband answers that he want out of the marriage. Take action. more than likely if he really loves u he will stop trying to see other people, if not do your own thing and leave him alone.
2006-06-28 03:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by Tracy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have to sugjestions the first is(you should break up)
1.In the politics of love, the perfect break-up etiquette is a rarity. There aren’t any ‘50 ways to leave your lover’. In New Delhi recently, John Gray, the well-known relationship guru and author of Mars and Venus on a Date advised, “Good endings create good beginnings.” That’s the bitter truth. Even though cool dudes might dismiss this karma theory as pure trash, the way you end your last relationship surely defines the pattern of your next relationship. The fact is that your love karma simply catches up!
Here’s the catchline: Don’t leave like a louse! Whatever your reasons for a breakup, it doesn’t mean you should have a callous attitude, or opt for the coward’s way out. The New York Metro reports how modern love follows this break-up formula:
Point 1: We Had Fun.
Point 2: It’s Over.
Point 3: Get Lost.
Most people couldn’t care less about how they walk away from a relationship. If it’s over, they simply switch off. The way you leave a relationship speaks volumes about the type of person you are. And it also shapes your partner’s future perceptions of himself or herself and about love.
2.Sometimes, indifference towards the one who dumps you works wonders in healing yourself. Greg Behrendt, comedian and consultant to Sex and the City and his wife, Amiira, have laid out new rules for women in their book, It’s Called a Break-up Because It’s Broken, a survival guide for getting over Mr Wrong and reclaiming your inner SuperFox.
Explains Dr Avdesh Sharma, “Sit down in a semi-public place as it’s less messy. There’s no need to give a detailed account of why you are breaking up. But be truthful, as that’s half the battle won. Put your cards on the table. Don’t be rude and say things like ‘you’re duller than watching paint or I’m hot for your roommate’. That’s crude. Tact is a skill. Don’t be afraid to tell the person you’ve had fun, but you need to spend some time alone, or that you’re looking for something more substantial. Simply ignoring the person and disappearing is immature.”
It seems that men usually avoid breakup situations. They’d rather simply stop calling, concluding that a woman will eventually ‘figure it out’. The terrible thing about this way of operating is that it never allows a lover to bring closure to the relationship and heal properly.
2006-06-28 03:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by qwerty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't play relationship games like getting even.
Two wrongs will never make anything right.
he went out, got bent, met a girl, NOTHING happened.
Be angry because he's not behaving like a married man;
Be hurt because he had the nerve to take a woman's phone number - and keep it.
If the relationship is over, be strong and get divorced.
You wrote, here we go again...if it's problematic and he won't get right - divorce the lout. No one deserves that type of treatment in a marriage.
But don't get even...that's childish.
2006-06-28 03:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by Warrior 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right and getting back at him is not fair to the guy you'd be going out with. Talk to your husband. Decide if this marriage is right for both of you. There's probably a lot going on right now between you two that you aren't talking about.
2006-06-28 03:45:29 · answer #5 · answered by Brenda F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going out with another guy is not going to solve your problem. The problem is that your husband is stepping out on you. Ask him what the problem is, and if he doesn't want to stop then I think you should leave.
2006-06-28 03:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by oddbutterfly1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has no respect for you or the marriage. Best thing is to end it and move on. Getting back at him will only hurt you and your self respect. It will hurt him, but he will justify cheating on you as you did to him. Revenge sex is a terrible thing to bring into a marriage.
2006-06-28 03:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
fighting fire with fire doesn't stop the field from burning! my advice to you is untill you make-up your mind when you're around don't act like your hurt, act like he is just one of you friends and be yourself, pass on the little pick-up lines or actions, it will be hard but don't let it show, acting like nothing was ever there is the fastest way to get them to leave you alone or get them to kiss some major butt!! at least in my past experiance.
2006-06-28 03:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by georgie6381 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-01-26 23:31:58 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask most likely you do not want to leave him , and by getting back to him you are only hurting yourself , , i[d say leave him but you wont do it , so instead tie up the bastard in your basement
2006-06-28 04:49:06 · answer #10 · answered by Andres A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him once a cheater always a cheater. You would be better off without him.
2006-06-28 04:08:19 · answer #11 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋