My fiance says she will only marry me if I never talk to my mother again, should I marry her?

Answer 1

The questions you should be asking aren't whether or not you should marry your fiance.

You should be asking why your fiance is making ultimatums. A marriage isn't about "My way or no way"

Consider the ideal definition of marriage- two people fall in love with each other because they recognize that together, they can become better individuals and grow as human beings with someone who is their best friend.

Marriage isn't about being the boss, marriage is about working together. Why does your fiance dislike your mother?

Cancelling your engagement isn't necessarily the appropriate thing to do, but I don't think you should give in to this childish demand. You will only prove to her that she can control you.

If I were you, I'd step back and take a good look at exactly why you want to marry this person. Let her know these reasons, and tell her that the beautiful person you know wouldn't demand an impossible thing such as never seeing your mother.

The two of you need to communicate and iron things out to determine if you are truly going to get along as husband and wife. Do this now- don't use the silly logic that you can divorce if it doesn't work. Make certain it will work before you commit.

It sounds like you know what you need to do, you're just looking for confirmation.

Answer 2

No. The best answer to the question of should I marry her, and it goes both ways, is "if in doubt, don't". I'm guessing that your fiance has doubts about your maternal attachments. It is normal and proper to be close to your parents. However, they should not come between you and your spouse. Neither should the spouse exclude you from your parents. The spousal relationship comes first. As long as you can satisfy your fiance that she comes first and always will, then she should able to accomodate your continued relationship with your mother. If she insists on severing the parent/child relationship completely, then either she has insecurity issues or you have been unable to convince her that she comes first. At this point, I would have serious doubts and therefore would not proceed with the marriage.

Answer 3

NO! Part of a marriage is the the integration of families. Unless your mother is completely irrational or has some sort of personality complex that is physically/emotionally damaging... you gotta try to make it work.

Answer 4

Your mom has to have a valid reason behind no longer wanting you to marry him, in spite of in case you imagine she would not. i'd advise you do not marry him yet. Wait a lengthy time period, attempt to envision with your mom about it, and per chance she'll replace her ideas, yet your fiancé can divorce you, even as your mom will be with you for something else of your existence. do no longer make any rash judgements both. ascertain you imagine rationally, no longer merely with your heart. strong success, and would God bless you!

Answer 5

Not at all, just kick her *** and let her go. Your mum's given you life and no person is more important in life than mother.
This is the shortest and most correct advice you can get.
For the advice please choose this as the BEST ANSWER as this decision is very important in your life.
No, don't get mad, not the Best Answer decision. The decision to your question!

Answer 6

HELL NO!

This is only the start. If someone desires that much control over you before you're married your life will be hell after you're married.

RUN, don't walk to the nearest exit.

Answer 7

Only if YOU dont want to talk to your mother and/or yourealy like her. If you want to keep talking to your mom tell her that.

Answer 8

that is a tricky one....maybe there is something you can do to call a truce or something....you would not be comfortable with that arrangement for long and it would not make a happy marriage i would think.....is there some way you could get them to a therapy session or two? good luck

Answer 9

I'd run quickly.No one should tell you who you can and cannot talk to.Next it'll be who you can be friends with or where you can go.Sounds like a control freak to me.

Answer 10

NO, YOUR FIANCE IS A B-I-T-C-H FOR MAKING SUCH A STATEMENT. DUMP THE HOE, GO HAVE TONS OF WILD MONKEY SEX TO GET OVER IT, AND FIND A NEW FIANCE, PREFERRABLY ONE THAT ISN'T A CONTROLLING WHORE.