my mom and dad are divorced and my dad is always away and to make things worst is i had to move in with grandparents then about 6 months later my screaming,annoying,unfair anut moves in with my uncle and their 2 get whatever they want kids!!!and im the 1 who takes care of them!!!!!!!!!! im going 2 die or kill them!!!!!~~~~not really but thats how i feel!!!!way should i do!?!<:)
2006-06-28 03:16:55 · 31 answers · asked by mady l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Terrible situation
2006-06-28 03:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by ice cream with chocolate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your poor grandparents! They are like a hotel! I dont know if your mom is there with you or not but if you are a minor and I am guessing you are, I don't see why you have to take care of your cousins at all. If it is that bad, call your mom and tell her you want to go with her. If your mom is with you now and she says you have to watch your cousins, then you have to do it. Make them your friends and not your enemies. Or you can call your dad and tell him how bad it is and see if you can stay with him.
If it gets really bad, see about living with another relative or even a friend until your aunt gets her own place.
But relax because this will pass. It is a short lived situation and soon things will work out. It's hard in the beginning of a divorce but it will make u stronger.
2006-06-28 10:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by DELETED ACCOUNT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. I come from a family of screamers and it can get very nerve racking at times. Try talking to your gran parents to see if they can make it worth you while. Are you old enough to work? Are there after school activities that you can par take in or some chores around the house that will get you away from them. As far as your dad goes try writing him letters, this will let him know that you are thinking of him and maybe he will try to find some time to take away for a day or afternoon some time. Do you feel that you can can talk to your aunt and work out some form of a deal with her and your uncle for watching and taking care of their kids. It does not have to be cash but maybe some new cloths or a day at the mall or just time away from them. something special for you. The only thing I can say is you need to hang in there because life is always changing and it will work out for the best. just try to take some thing positive for this experience.
2006-06-28 10:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by LA M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that sucks!!!!! I gotta hand it to you, taking care of two brats is commendable. Hunker down, get an education, and make plans for the day you're out of there. Control of a situation is not always possible. This is a temporary situation. Remember that. If there's abuse involved, look in your phone book for children and families and report it. This is an unfair situation. Wish I could help more.
2006-06-28 10:26:09 · answer #4 · answered by sharone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down first. Back away and look at the whole picture. Get some ideas and suggestions from counselors and family help workers. There has to be a way to deal with that craziness. Don't give up on your family just yet. sounds like you need to get these people organized somehow and set some house rules.
2006-06-28 10:22:51 · answer #5 · answered by Fergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your Dad honey. Honestly, no one will know how you feel unless you talk about it. Talk to BOTH your parents and make them responsible for you, you're still young and you still need to be taken care of and that is your parents' job, divorced or not.
As for your aunt and uncle, shame on them. It's great if you help out and they must really think you are responsible and doing a great job but they are taking advantage of you. Speak up!!
I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. You will get through it, just hang on.
2006-06-28 10:22:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already doing it. Sounds like u got a good handle on what pus looks like and sounds like. Call jt gods way of shaping your character by filling it with dysfunction and distraction. It WILL change and you will always remember how not to be because you are perhaps the only one there who isnt caught up in it to the point of ignorance. You have so much to offer by way of life experience that i dont doubt you will one day be an inspiration to many others and even save lives.
Talk to me, tell me your insights. I sense ssomething in you and I want to know more
2006-06-28 10:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm with the ipodder. and find another support network outside your home - a youth group, a church, a sports team, a meditation class, WHATEVER. just get yourself out of that environment before it sinks into your own behavior patterns.
also, if you're the one taking care of the kids, can you get them out of the house, too? i know sometimes you're stuck in a caregiving role, but this also gives you a certain amount of choice and power as far as how their parents behave. i don't know, maybe i'm misreading the situation.
write to your dad as much as you can. (use a spell-checker.) maybe that will help you feel a little less isolated.
2006-06-28 10:24:14 · answer #8 · answered by kwanyin_mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a whole lot of patience in this situation. Is there a quiet place you can go to just release? A park... on a walk? Somewhere to unwind? Depending on how old you are of course. What about someone to confide in? A close friend, another respectable adult? Someone who can support you as you vent your frustrations... and maybe even step in on your behalf? Just some ideas... maybe even journaling just so you can leave each situation somewhere and move on.
2006-06-28 10:22:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
join an activity to keep busy. Try cheerleading or something in that era just to get out of that house and relieve some tension. Make sure that whatever team you join has daily practices. Or you can look for a job
2006-06-28 10:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by Gizmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there, hard work and perseverance is always rewarded, lessons learned to deal with such chaos will serve yourself later in life because you would have learned a valuable lesson from your current conditions...just understand this is not a permanent situation and better days are in store for you...sooner than later...good luck, blessings.
2006-06-28 10:23:31 · answer #11 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋