I just found out I am having a baby boy (my first), but I wanted a girl. What are benefits to having a boy?

Question

I was so heartbroken to hear it was a boy...I wanted a girl so bad. I am still in shock and won't tell anybody. I am such a girly girl and hate sports, ect..what am I gonna do with a boy?
PLEASE HELP!!!
P.S.- Any cute names for a boy?

Answer 1

Every woman I have ever met who has a boy, just croons over him. Even if they have girls too, they all say there is just something about having a little boy that melts their heart. Be happy, and never let your son know that you were wanting a girl.

Answer 2

1st of all, never be heartbroken over the sex of the gift of life, your unborn son. I had 2 sonograms almost 19 years ago and was told both times I was having a boy. I was so excited (even though I secretly wanted a little girl) that when I was told it was a boy, the baby was healthy, strong and a very good kicker I felt blessed. And I also knew how much my husband would have liked a boy.

Well, as it turned out, after having picked out a male name (he would have been a junior, of course), when the birth of our 6lb 3 oz baby daughter arrived, my husband was instantly hooked. He was the first to hold her, see into those beautiful brown "wild and uh oh, we've got a wild one" eyes and thanked me for giving him a healthy and very fiesty little girl.

As far as the name goes, I took his middle name of "Jay" and made it into "Jamie" and he took my middle name "Sue" and passed it along to her. She is our only child and I wouldn't change the outcome even if I could have made a choice. I have friends and families with boys and sometimes after listening to them, I find that no matter what the sex of your child, the unconditional love and bond that comes along never changes

Boys don't necessarily always love to play sports, neither do girls (and by the way, I am also a "girly girl" and have been all of my life.) But Jamie is by far more girlier than I ever was, I believe it's called "High Maintenance" these days. She did play Soccer and Field Hockey and Basketball for a few years and loved every minute of it, but then the "Social" action started and she worked part time through school (just graduated 6/08/06) and is now in Key West for Senior Week (only her's happens to be for 3 weeks).

You will do the same thing with your son that any mother would do with either sex, you will love him, protect him and teach him all of the right things. That's all any of us can do and hope we've done it well. I thought when I was told Jamie was going to be a boy, that the relationship between with my husband would be stronger than with me, not so. My husband adores her and is very protective of her and when it came time to go to any sports game she was involved in, I went and had a great time because that was my pride and joy out there, regardless of my dislikes of sports. Either sex, it's a part of you and you will find such joy just knowing that your child is out there doing it and knowing you are there for all of the love and support they need.

And by the way, I don't know if "cute" would be appropriate for a boy, get a few in mind and when you look into his (or hers, they were wrong about my child) you will automatically know. Pick a strong, sturdy name and yet something that will be unique to his own little personality. Just enjoy your new baby and you will be amazed at everything they do, boy or girl and as long as he or she is in good health, thank God and just remember, this is a part of me and the love you share with that child's father. Hey, girl's aren't that easy, take it from a woman who decided that after a couple of years with a daughter, I couldn't handle any more - she was busy from day 1! I hope this helped a little bit, mine is about to go off to college and I remember the minute I found out I was pregnant, enjoy them while you can and always show them how much you love them and how proud you are, just for being who they are.

Answer 3

I have a boy but then again I wanted a boy. First of all I want you to think about this, as long as your baby is healthy it shouldn't matter whether it is a boy or not but understand where you are coming from.

Not really sure of the benefits of having a boy. Not really sure there is benefits to having either sex. Some will say boys are easier to raise. It doesn't matter if you don't like sports, not all boys will like sports. I can't explain it but you will get it when he is born. I know what you mean about being a girly girl and if you had a girl you would know what to with them, playing, dressing and fixing hair, I thought the same way. All I can say is, you will get it.

After that baby is born healthy you will do what you have to do to take care of that child regardless of what sex it is. It will come natural to you. You will enjoy buying the boy clothes and buying the boy toys. I understand that it looks bad now but it will come naturally to you.

Is there a spouse or boyfriend involved?? Let him take on the "Male Roll", let them do the sports thing(which you won't have to worry about until that child is older).

There are many cute names for boys. You have to think whether you want some traditional like Bill or Bob or something different like Cooper or Conner. Buy a baby name book and read it, go thru it. my son's name is Nathan Alexander, we call him Nate most of the time. I really like his name(I guess if I didn't he wouldn't be named that).

Don't worry about whether its a boy or not just raise it with good values and morals and do your best to protect them. Thats all. Good luck and have fun

Answer 4

I know how you feel I want/wanted a little girl so bad and just wanted to cry when I found out it was a boy. There are many perks to having a baby boy. I still have not figured them out yet but I am sure once you see your child for the first time the last thing on your mind will be the fact that you wanted a girl. You will love your child more then you can imagine and you will find things to do when the time comes. Just be thankful that he is okay and you are okay. I wish you and your baby boy luck.

Answer 5

I know how you feel. I always wanted my boy first so that my girls could have an older brother, but when I actually got pregnant I wanted a daughter. The cute clothes, the games we could play and things we could do that I wouldn't do with a son. But then I learned through a ultrasound that I was having a son, although my intuition had already let me know he was in fact a HE, and I was a little disappointed. So now I look at baby boys when Im out and think out how cute they are and how they're a blessing. It'll be fun raising a young boy to grow into a good man. There are so many crazy men out here, it'll be your contribution to the world to raise a GOOD one. Thats how I look at it. And while I wanted a girl soooo bad, Im loving this baby and can't wait for him to arrive. If you feel bad now, don't worry, you'll hold that baby for the first time and all your worries and doubts will dissipate.

Sorry, but there are so many cute names out there, I can't begin to suggest any.

Answer 6

I really hated to admit it but when I found out I was pregnant with my 2nd boy I felt disappointment and guilt for feeling it. I just had my heart set on heading to the pink store not the blue one again. However , once he was here I couln't have immagine him being any one else. From the moment he was born if someone had walked in and said "We have a mom who just had a beautiful girl and wants to switch for a boy.' I wouldn't have traded him for anything......Also he had health problems due to being premature and that just added to the guilt I felt for having been disappointed in his gender. So much so that when I was pregnant with #3 I could honestly say.."I don't care what it is as long as it is healthy." and it was a healthy full term girl.
The really important part is the baby's health the joy and love and all that just happens regardless of the baby's gender.
To make yourself feel better go out and buy some really cute baby blue newborn clothes and blankies. Trust me when you see that tiny little guy you will fall in love and you will think little boys are so cool.
My eldest son is named Matthew which means a gift from God
My second is Michael which refers to the archangel Michael
Just find a name you like that has meaning for you and enjoy this wonderful time.

Answer 7

When I first became pregnant I felt the same way as you do. I did not want a boy. I did have a girl, she is now 10 yrs. old. My second pregnancy it didn't matter to me if it was a girl or boy. But, now I am so glad I had a boy the 2nd time around! I love them both the same. He is now 6 and he is so much different than his sister! He does entertain himself a lot more than his sister ever has. Plus she is so much more dramatic! I was not into sports but now I just love to watch him play baseball (& flag football in the fall). I never thought I could get so excited over a game!!

I think you will be fine..Boys can be just as loving and fun as girls can be. Just be happy that you are going to have a baby! (as for names for boys..I like Konner Trey of course because it is my son's name)

Answer 8

In my own opinion I would prefer to have a boy first. I think raising a boy is easier and if you plan on having other children and you have a girl, don't you want her to have a big brother to look out for her when you or your husband/bf can't? Right now you have that state of mind but as soon as that baby is born it won't matter to you anymore. You can bond with a boy just as easy as with a girl. You don't have to be into sports, that's what your husband/bf is there for. And just remember boys don't grow boobs, don't have periods, and can't get pregnant so you will have less to worry about :)

Answer 9

I wanted a girl too but i had a baby boy. He is the light of my life and could never imagine not having such a beautiful baby. I'm a girly girl too, but that really doesn't have much to do with raising a baby. When you see your son, you wont care what gender he is, you'll just see that it is YOUR baby.

I named my son Hayden. I wanted to name him Aiden but my hubby didn't like it. I thought it was sooooo cute. I also like Avery.

Answer 10

I am pregnant now, and am kind of hoping for a girl, but all i really want is a healthy baby. You probably wont be as girly after having to be the mother of a boy, dont worry, everything will fall into place.

I Love the name Ayden - if i have a boy that will be his name.

Answer 11

Well, there.

I had two children and my second one was a boy. My son died when he was four months old, so please, do your best to appreciate that baby you are carrying- and if you cant do that, or you resent the child's gender you NEED to give the child a chance to be loved and appreciated for who he is- give him to a family who would die for a son! I would give anything to have my son back- I would give anything to have another child (regardless of gender).

You are being so superficial to even think being a girly girl, non sports oriented, etc- I mean come on! And, even if you will not offer him athletics, you have a few years to think about that- plus, what about music, art, cooking, science, cars and blocks, exploring nature, teaching him to be a nurturing and gentle person- we need more boys who are like that.

If you choose to keep your son, (and you ought to consider providing him an appreciative family, couple, woman)- then I suggest you get into therapy and resolve whatever your issues are with your son, NOW!

If you choose to keep your son, you may want to name him something that creates a sense of devotion in your heart, like for example- a name meaning loyalty, courage, gratitude, hey what about Lyle, short for Loyle? as a middle name, maybe?

OK, there's my post- very very seriously, get a handle on this or hand it to someone else- THIS IS A HUMAN BEING NOT A CABBAGE PATCH DOLL!