I have been talking to this guy online. I do know him personally but he doesn't live in this town. He says that he doesn't belive in love and that he doesn't care what anyone thinks of him or what he does. As we have been talking, he has said that he cares for me and that he cares what I think. He won't say that he has any real deep feelings but he will say that he has feelings for me. He says that he feels an attraction to me and we had talked almost everyday. Now we aren't talking as much because his shifts keep changing at work. When he isn't at work, he gets online and talks to me. He has said that he is interested in me sexually but we have talked for a few years, on and off. Now he admits he wants something sexual. Do you think he is falling for me or is it my wishful thinking? I don't want to get involved with someone who can't love and is only interested in having sex. He says that he cares for me but he keeps everything else to himself. We are both involved with someone else.
2006-06-28 02:38:24 · 11 answers · asked by Rain Water 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He does have problems with affection but that comes from the family he grew up in. I have known him for years. We started out talking as friends but as we talk, we have realized that we really like each other. But yes, we are both involved with other people. I am also aware that he isn't interested in leaving her so it would be a fling. I have never done anything like that myself. I know he wants sex, but I do feel that he cares a great deal for me.
2006-06-28 03:05:33 · update #1
I do know that he is involved with someone. We have both been with someone for a long time. He is not into drugs or anything other then just having affair.
I do know that he is only interested in sex and a friendship. I have never done anything like that but I feel a strong pull toward him. I'm not sure why other then we have been friends for a long time and we are close. Both the people we are involved with know each other. All four of us have talked. It's just that they don't know that we are interested in each other.
2006-06-28 03:10:09 · update #2
Okay, there are so many things wrong with this whole thing, but the most obvious is the fact that you are involved with someone else and so is he. Both of you need to stop talking to each other and just let it go before you do something you'll regret. He is not interested in having a relationship with you and you should see that. He wants what he asked for, sex. It's not wise to put your feelings into someone else when you are involved, that brings on too many hurt feelings and neglect on your part. Let it go and if you don't want to be with the one you're with, let him go too. It's not fair to either of the people you'll are with if you are thinking about sleeping with someone else. Take a step back and really think about what you want and decide if a relationship with either of the men is what you want.
2006-06-28 02:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by Gigi 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I doubt very seriously if he is involved with someone else, perhaps something else, there is something about his description that tells me he has a twisted view of affection...he experiences very little emotional connection with others but relates to physical contact...that might be why he is interested in having sex with you and not a love connection, your wish full thinking just may put you into a dangerous situation with him...I wouldn't recommend any further contact with this individual other than on line.
2006-06-28 09:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your last line says it all sweety. Worry more about the physical relationship your in and less about a relationship you have going with a fantasy person through your computer lines. Your both cheaters and should release the persons your involved with since you both do not know the meaning of loyalty.
2006-06-28 09:43:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He says he's interested in sex ... did he ever say anything about being interested in a relationship? They are two totally different things you know. Be careful .. your heart can be broken if you don't go into this with eyes wide open!!
2006-06-28 09:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like from what you said hes only wanting a sexual relashbionship not love. And if you love the guy your with now then you should stay with him.
2006-06-28 09:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by Lauren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope.. he's involve with some one youre also involved with someone right? I think he just wanna play games with you...
2006-06-28 09:43:46 · answer #6 · answered by @>-VyNe--- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to move on he after sex of course and he don;t want to broke up with his gf i think you need to spend more time with your bf if you have one and not online ok
2006-06-28 10:15:05 · answer #7 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um........why, if youre with someone else, are you online chatting with this guy.........If youre not happy with the yahoo youre with, dump him..... Then if you want to get into another unhealthy relationship, you obviously have that arranged already..... OYE!
2006-06-28 09:43:05 · answer #8 · answered by zoinks22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't get involved at all full stop
what will you gain ???????????? NOTHING you would be just a fling for him Hun
just forget it
respect
shaz
2006-06-28 09:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by sharon B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are both otherwise involved? what are you thinking? stay away from him!
2006-06-28 09:44:03 · answer #10 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋