what wud you do if you had somebody always putting you down to make them selves look better then you ?

Question

i work with this girl that im pretty close to her we went to school together but she is always saying things that put me down and its all to make her look better. i have put up with it to long now and i am getting sick of it.shes not the easiest person to approach either. what do you think i shud do??

Answer 1

The next time she says something insulting, look her right in the eye and ask "did that make you feel better, because you just made me feel like crap"!! Hopefully there are people around to witness it. She'll look like the *** that she is. Hopefully after that you can work things out together and keep the friendship.

Answer 2

Understand, the reason for these performances by your "friend" is really a display of her own inadequacies.

I was once told that ... "If I didn't want to get hit in the fanny by a train, then I should get off the tracks!"

I had an older brother who did much the same thing for as long as I could remember, especially before MY friends and associates. I finally grew weary of it, and simply avoided contact with him. When asked why I didn't "come over more often?"; I simply told him I was tired all the ridicule, put-downs, and insinuations as to my intelligence, abilities, etc. that were always made before others. It didn't stop, so I simply stayed away from all contact other than one-on-one situations. I would recommend you avoid putting yourself in a position that will enable her to "perform".

Answer 3

Don't hang out with her anymore, ding-dong, unless you enjoy being belittled all of the time. Find other friends. This gal doesn't sound like much of one. You'd be better off alone. And if she asks why you don't hang with her anymore, tell her the truth..."look, I'm tired of being put down and offended by you. I'd rather not have you for a so called friend, then be ridiculed all of the time." Then walk away. No skin off of your nose. I tell you something, honey, once people start that shittt....you will start believing it if you stick around. So do yourself a favor and make a new friend.

Answer 4

I would approach her when she is alone and explain to her how you feel about the things she says maybe she is not doing it on purpose. If she is then obviously she has a very low self-esteem and feels like she needs to put other people down for her own convenience if thats the case I would just ignore her

Answer 5

She must have a very low self worth to do this. I would meet with her and let her know how this makes you feel find out why she is doing it and ask her to stop. If she will not stop then you must step back from being her friend until she does. She may need help in doing so. True friends are hard to come by and we must take care of that friendship. Is she a true friend?

Answer 6

next time she does it tell her, you know i like you and thats the reason i am gonna do you this favor, when you put me down to make yourself look better, it only negates what you are trying to accomplish. you end up looking juvenile and petty. the gurls must feel you are superior to her or she wouldn't do it, even though it is a compliment, it can be tough to take sometimes, myself , I would tell her to go phuck herself, quit trying to use me to make herself look better. but thats just me. I have said to close friends , what the phuck are you rambling on about, you sound ignorant. and they step back and look but never say anything, and it's a good hint, because it usually works.

Answer 7

Dont worry about her, obviously she has to do that to make herself feel good about herself. And she isnt a real friend if she does that. I had a friend who used to do that, she made is so obvious she was doing it, that the people she was doing it infront of, kinda knew.. and thought it was really pathetic. Maybe you should do exactly what shes doing to you. She'll get a taste of her own medicine. Goodluck :)

Answer 8

well either put her dow, or ignore her. the only reason people put others down is because ther is something about them that they are jelouse o. They might not know it but its true. She is probobly nott a good friend. Stop acting liek her friendd until she realizes that you dont like being put dow, but just ignore her.

Answer 9

I had that happen to me for 6 months from my girlfriend while I lived with her. No matter what I said or done she wouldnt stop. She admitted being mean but never stopped. I finally left. Tell this so-called friend of yours to f_ _ k off and leave you alone.

Answer 10

The next time she does it, ask her why she would say such a mean thing to you. That usually works for me. If it doesn't, just stay away from her, people who do that constantly are toxic, and you don't need that. Good luck to you.