I've been talking to this girl for about 5 months now. We had been having problems here and there and there were times where I felt I needed to walk away. Everytime I tried to do so, she would always ask me back. Even when I told her I was going to move on, she would still contact me on a daily basis telling me that she wasn't going to give up. We had a fight Sunday night(6/26/06) and this time SHE decided to walk away. When I tried to save it, she wasn't trying to hear it. I could tell by the way she was acting that there may have been someone else, so I asked her...She in fact admitted that she met someone...She claimed she met her Monday...Yeah right!! Anyway, I just wish she would have let go a long time ago when EYE was ready. Now that she's drug me along, I have to be the one to get over her and the fact that she's spending her time with someone else. This is killing me. I don't want to let go...What should I do? How do I get her back? Any advice?
2006-06-28 02:23:44 · 17 answers · asked by mesofemme 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Honey, you already admitted that the relationship was hard to handle. It's time to let it go. Perhaps you're annoyed that it wasn't you who ended it; or more probably that you were so easily replaced. Let it go. It's time for it to end and both of you need to get on with your lives.
2006-06-28 05:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Babycakes, don't even try to get her back -- how much pain has she already caused? Why are you letting her still have that power over you and your emotions? You've tried to walk away before so you knew there was something wrong. You listened to her but she wouldn't even try to listen to you... I think that says a lot.
So what do you do? Cry. Yell. Throw things. Curse. Time will get you over it and then you will be a stronger person when someone better comes along... which may take a while, but it's going to be worth it.
Conduct your own ritual where you burn something that reminds you of her... a photo, an object... and as it burns, let all these feelings burn away with it (do this outside if you can and don't let anything else catch on fire). Try to leave all these feelings behind where the fire was. Then move on.
2006-06-28 02:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by blueowlboy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, she was hanging onto you until she found someone else. She seems to be the type who doesn't want to be alone, and now that she has a choice . . . when this relationship ends she will try to come back. If that's what you want, just relax and let nature take its course.
In the meantime, hang with friends, go out to the clubs, meet some people. Maybe by the time she tried to crawl back, you will have already met someone better for you.
2006-06-28 02:29:39 · answer #3 · answered by Songbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Occupy your mind with other things. When you dwell on the situation, it only makes you feel worse. I wouldn't say to start looking for someone else, because someone will come along when you least expect it. Time is cure for healing and getting over our problems. Maybe you should also realize that if you fought a lot that you girls weren't good for each other in the first place. Probably the reason why you stuck with her for that long is because each of you was either trying to feel a void, or because you became comfortable being in a relationship, not because you truly liked each other. Another girl will come along, and sweep you off your feet, you watch............and remember we reap what we sew.
2006-06-28 05:14:58 · answer #4 · answered by graciefaith1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, shake it off and move on. Trust me she did you a favor. When the right relationship comes along, you'll know it. It will be smooth, stimulating, positive and enjoyable. Don't get me wrong, no relationship is perfect, but you won't consider leaving a good relationship. Just let that special feeling in your head and heart be your guide. Don't give up, love is out there!
2006-06-28 15:01:19 · answer #5 · answered by Splenda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man you dont know how lucky you are, just think if you married her, she would leave you every other week, walk away and count how lucky you are, remember every time you walked away before she called you back, well walk away again. I wont give you any advice to get her back as that would be bad advice. Walk away man and dont look back, go find your self a NICE girl the other one was trash.
2006-06-28 03:13:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do just that move on. You was going to leave before the fight, it may hurt for a while but u are strong found someone to talk to and get your mind off her. and don't talk to her, thats going to make the moving on harder.
2006-06-28 08:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make her love you and if she did come back , how much trust would you have. The best thing for you right now is to get out more and make new friends. I been there and done that.
2006-06-28 19:29:36 · answer #8 · answered by aj_o1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babes if she is like this now who know what she would have been like 5 years down the line?
give yourself time, pick yourself up and find someone ten times better than her
2006-06-28 02:27:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there is something that might had happen in between both of you. Try to recall back what is the thing that she want you to change before this.
2006-06-28 05:24:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋