I know this for a few years now but for the kids I stayed. We are not married. The children are very small and I do not know if I could take care of them alone, I have a busy job and I do not want them alone with her and her friends and way of life. Recently I have been visiting an old friend from college and I fel very good with her. She does not want an affair and we are just friends. But now I have more problems with the situation at home. My wife now calls my friend to discourage our friendship. The fact is that she told me that she stays with me for finacial reasons (and I stayed for the kids) I am confused and teh situation seems more and more like one I can't handle.
2006-06-28 02:04:55 · 5 answers · asked by femari 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First and most important - the kids! So you have a busy job eh? Well so do I and have managed to balance work and raising a child on my own for the past 3 years. It's not easy, but it's my responsibilty - one I take very seriously. If you have time for a friend you have time to take care of your children! As for your "wife", leave and start over fresh. This is no way to live your life. Enjoy the kids, friends and family. Yep, it really is possilbe. Much luck.
2006-06-28 02:10:55 · answer #1 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should and your wife cannot make a relationship like this work. Trying to fake a relationship isn't what's best for you, her, or your kids, and can be stressful for everyone involved. You can both be good parents, even if you're not together. If you end up getting custody of your kids, you shouldn't keep her from the kids unless she is abusive, an alcoholic or drug addict. I understand that you may feel hurt, angry, and frustrated with your situation, but that fact that you don't agree with your wife's lifestyle/sexual orientation isn't a reason to keep her from her kids. For your kid's sake, you and your wife need to sit down and discuss the situation in a civil manner. It sounds like you and her had made the decision that you would work, and she would be the homemaker, so this has created a situation where she's dependent on you financially, and isn't entirely her fault. She needs time to find a job and a place to live before you both officially part ways. I'm sure you'd want the mother of your kids to be able to take care of herself. Good luck.
2006-06-29 22:27:05 · answer #2 · answered by Nate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like a jealous catty, goddigging ***** who wants her cake and eat it too. im bi- but out of respect for my girl, i don't take lovers unless girl likes them. your situation is diffrent. id divorce, give her the papers suddenly after securing your assets secretly and then move out. lawyers will discuss visitation and you can ask for supervised visits if her lifestyle is a problem. im with a girl and i won't have kids because it can make them feel a little out of place to--i mean if they have two moms, until she knows where she wants to sleep, tell her nothing except in divorce court where she can't hide behind your money and the kids.
2006-06-28 02:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL LET ME ASK YOU THIS"WOULD YOU HAVE STAYED IF SHE WERE HAVING AN AFFAIR WITH A MAN?OR MORE IMPORTANTLY DO YOU THINK SHE WOULD HAVE STAYED IF YOU WERE THE ONE HAVING THE AFFAIR? THE GENDER OF WHO SHE'S SLEEPING WITH IS NOT AS IMPORTANT AS THAT SHE 'S DOING ALLTOGETHER SHE DOSN'T CARE ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS AT ALL AND IF SHE SAID SHE STAYED BECOUSE OF FINANCIAL RESONS THAT TELLS Y0U WHAT KIND OF PERSON SHE REALY IS.AS FOR YOUR CHILDREN YOU NEED TO THINK OF THEM,GET OUT AND TAKE THE KIDS WITH YOU THERE ARE PLENTY OF GREAT DAYCARES AVAILABLE AND IT WILL BE CHAPER TO PAY FOR CHILDCARE THAN IT IS TO LOOSE YOURSELF & YOUR PRIDE TO THAT MONEY HUNGRY(*****)AND AS FAR AS YOUR FRIEND GOES OFCORSE SHE'S GOING TO DISCOURAGE HER FRIENSHIP WITH YOU SHE STANDS TO LOOSE HER BREAD AND BUTTER.GOOD LUCK SWEETIE I HOPE YOU DO THE RIGHT THING.IT'S WOMEN LIKE HER THAT RUIN GOOD MEN FOR THE REST OF US................
2006-06-28 02:23:33 · answer #4 · answered by vallegirl2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If shes lesbian and still do.......shes not your wife.....stay away from her........she will not make your kids bad because she's their mother....help her to raise your kids...but find a life which suits you..tell her that you help her because of your kids............Tell the truth to your friend........Good Luck
2006-06-28 02:14:45 · answer #5 · answered by indrakeerthi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋