The reason being that i find it difficult to enjoy making love to him
2006-06-28 00:36:32 · 21 answers · asked by JC 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
You must find out WHY you find it difficult to enjoy making love to him.
You must speak to him about this.
You shouldn't have to do anything in order for your man to be faithful and honest. If he is a good man, then he should remain faithful and true to you, but you must open up to him and share your problems first.
Best wishes. Julie
2006-06-28 00:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by hippyJu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give your man what he deserves! If you are not enjoying it perhaps he aint diong it right! talk to him outside the bedroom and explain the problem to him and try and sort it out together. If this isn't an option for you then you can man train him without him actually realsing. All you need to do is when he does something you like completely over react to it, and when he does something you dont like so much ask him to do something else and he will soon get the picture - men love it when a woman asks for what she wants in bed. Once you begin to enjoy it a little you can then get a bit more experimental and try out new things together. Although the second option does work i would definatley recommend the first one is it will get things sorted much more quickly.
2006-06-28 15:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah_D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you don't enjoy making luv to the guy he obviously doesn't make you feel special. There is definately some underlying problem there. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. Have you ever thought why you do not enjoy making luv to this guy? have things got boring? perhaps its time to spice up your sex life and make things interesting. Write a list down of all the things you like about your guy and all the things that you don't like. if you find more things to dislike, perhaps its time to move on?
2006-06-28 08:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by Lucy Tiffin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you are not very experienced in the art of making love (if you are apologies for going over the basics)
1) Every woman needs to know what excites her and how she likes to be touched and made love to. You need to find that out for yourself. You need to experiment with touching yourself and seeing what feels good. Try in the bath or if you get time for a nap by yourself. Every woman should also own a vibrator and know how to use it so that she can give herself an orgasm when she wants one.
2) Tell your man what you like. In all probability he would like you to enjoy sex with him, but he doesn't know what you like. You need to suggest things to him that you thing would feel good or get him to experiment and then give him feedback about what was good for you and what wasn't. Try not to be embarassed, most men I know love talking about sex.
3) If he isn't interested in learning what you like then he isn't a good lover and you will have to think about letting him go.
4) If you aren't in the mood or feeling up to having full sex then learn to give a good back massage & go down on him. This will keep him satisfied and you can get to sleep pretty quickly.
I hope that this helps you!
2006-06-28 09:43:51 · answer #4 · answered by SmartBlonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the first place do u love your husdand? you may be married but when u dont love him,2 does he realise that u find such difficulties? now what u have to do is to sit and talk to him,how u feel about him bse ur not going to be happy for the rest of your life,he needs to know your feelings towards him.he may not be the right man for u.visite counsellers for more information.
2006-06-28 07:55:53 · answer #5 · answered by dembe c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI The only way to work around this is to talk to each other.tell him you love him but you have not interest in making love.start to spice things up. maybe you have just got into a rut.but what ever you feel the only one that can help you is your man. if he loves you he will want to help to sort this out. good luck. hope things work out for you, regards sammylee,
2006-06-28 13:38:11 · answer #6 · answered by sammylee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him understand that love, communication and peace in a couple are more important things. Try to use other things to make him feel the 'joy'... I had the same problem with my boyfriend... Try to touch yourselves more, to kiss eachother and to hug more than usually... Make him understand that you are his girlfriend, not his friend. Making him to believe that you are like a friend for him will stop the fire between you two.
2006-06-28 07:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by ancutzabatalar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry. It would be very difficult for u to prevent him.
You don't enjoy it and at the same time don't want to let him enjoy.
Not fair, dear.
2006-06-28 07:50:58 · answer #8 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was a good boyfriend then he wouldn't leave you just because you are having difficulty in bed. And if he does leave you because of this, then you are better off without him anyway.
2006-06-28 09:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hhhm...can you send some photos for research purposes? video would be better...
kidding...there is a wide array of sexual acts that may or may not "turn you on' "get you off" however you like to phrase it...
Experimentation with your partner is the only way to achieve satisfactory results...play with each other...be into each other..however you have to achieve this...bathe together...
It took forever to convince my fiancee to take a shower with me...once we did...I can't get her to leave me alone long enough to wash my hair...
toys are sometimes helpful...pick up a copy of The Joys of Sex...look for what interests you...talk to your partner...communication and mutual interest is the only cure for a boring or one-sided sex life...
good sex starts in the mind...
2006-06-28 07:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋