when I lose my temper with my son I feel gilty, How can I control myself. What can i do to stop myself being angrey?
2006-06-27 22:49:59 · 10 answers · asked by atactoda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
When you feel your getting angry walk away and come back when you gain your control... Kids are put on this earth to test as...
2006-06-27 22:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The anger emotion is a sad one. Remember you are setting an example for your son---everything you do will be a lesson for him. He will probably react as you do because that's what he sees. Try leaving the room till you calm down,then demand that he sit and discuss what ever the problem is. Obviously anger doesn't work,so try a new communication technique. It will take time because of the damage you have already done. Remember that you are the adult---act like it. Your anger might have an outside cause--what makes you so angry that you take it out on your kid? Shape up--learn how to be a grown up. You need to mature into the role of a parent. Better get him used to being obedient before the cops start picking him up because he has no respect for authority. What ever he is doing might not be normally viewed as just being a kid. Get him off the soda, sugar and white flour---you'll be surprised to know that food can get a kid completely wired and unruly. You might want to do the same. Lay off the crap food and rate yourself on how you are doing as a mom. And I think you will be just fine if you are HONEST with your self.
2006-06-28 00:05:46 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET COUNSELING.
the fact that you are concerned is a good sign, what is realy going on inside you? IS IT ABOUT HIM, HIS BEHAVIOR your lack of control? OR IS THIS ANOTHER ISSUE, THAT IS MAKING YOU NUTS (out of control) IF YOU DO NOT FIND A BETTER WAY OF COMMUNICATING WITH YOUR SON, IT WILL BE YOUR WAY OF LIFE, AND THE LONGER YOU REACT WITH ANGER, THE MORE IT WILL BE AUTOMATIC, IS HE YOUNG, A BABY, OR WHAT?
are you alone? DO YOU HAVE A HUSBAND THERE OR SIGNIFIGANT OTHER? what does your son do and say when you get angry,? WHEN U LOSE YOUR TEMPER,, WHAT DO YOU DO,
WHEN YOU LOSE YOUR TEMPER,, DON'T GO FIND IT,, IS YOUR P ATIENCE BEING PUSH TO THE MAX, ARE YOU ILL? control yourself is so easy to say, and yet it is you, it is not me, when you feel an angry temper overheating, then you need to have a built in solution ready to change the subject or be able to take a timie out,,, count to fifty, better yet, ask God, to help you with your anger, is this your personality, or nature? IS THIS A NEW EMOTION THAT IS OVERWHELMING YOU? Nomatter what you say, you can never undo those words, it just chips away at the heart of both of you,,
i hope you can resolve this, i see that you are very concerned
2006-06-27 23:05:44 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do to stop a feeling deep in side of you... Your feelings is something that cannot be touched or put away... You can control it though... Try seeing a psychologist... Or you could always find other ways of bringing down your temper... But you should most importantly talk to your son... Like you both should sit down together and talk things out... You know, try creating a bond with him... Spend time with him... The more you and your son are separated the more that negative bond between you both will increase... You should also talk to some one (like your wife, friends, or co-workers)... Like we all need our moments where we need to just vent or cool down... But just find ways to bring the two of you together again...
2006-06-27 23:08:40 · answer #4 · answered by keau 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you need to know where your son is coming from.Now I'm not taking his side but I definitly want you to know that he looks up to you and he will become what you have shown him. Just try to be patient with him and realize that you are imperfect as well as I and your son is no exception either.So try telling your son after you have calmed down that you were angry with him and then tell him the reason why.But remember he needs your love more than anything and in the future he will need you to be there for him to talk to without the fear of you getting angry with him...God Bless You and your son..
2006-06-27 23:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your son go to his room. Count to ten take some deep breaths take a picture of your self when your angry and then when your somewhat calmer look at your picture laugh at what you look like then go in and deal with your son. The quite time will really freak out your son. You will be calmer and later on in a few years you and your son will be able to sit down and look at all the different faces he made you have.
2006-06-27 23:00:35 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn the count-to-10 technique, its cliche but works wonders. for example, lets say he's just drawn the family portrait with red wax on the walls u've just painted - look at him, bite on your tongue gently and count to 10 and notice how his art skill is improving, he's learning to draw characters with a full body instead of stickmen, be proud and buy him drawing books and scatter them around the house for them to be available when his urge for drawing emerges!
Good luck!
2006-06-27 22:59:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get leave from 10 to 15 days, go to any cold hill stations with ur wife. u will got positive results after 15 days.
2006-06-27 23:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by uzee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try taking an anger management class.
2006-06-28 02:27:44 · answer #9 · answered by twinkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have sex more often
2006-06-27 22:54:54 · answer #10 · answered by Bennie B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋