My ex-husband and his current wife will not stop attacking my character. They have gone as far as telling great lies to our 13 year old son's girlfriends mother. Which kind of caused a riff with my son and his girlfriend and then her mother made a sarcastic remark about me which pissed off my sons girlfriend. This is taking quite a toll on myself and my 2 children that I have with my ex! Help! What can I do? What should I do? I have lost all hope!
2006-06-27 22:02:39 · 12 answers · asked by cecimad 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hi,
i think that can be done in following way
1.if u are living near their home , shift to a home at distance.
2.love your son and give him the best you can.
3.think of best carrier for your son rather the girlfriends.I think at 13 he is not old enough to get invoved in such things.
4.think positive , no man or woman can change what you are.
5.have an extermly positive friend who can boost you all through this tough time.
6.have faith in God tough times never last but tough people do.
7.always have positive thoughts when u go to bed.
8.keeep your morale high.
9.no man or woman is perfect ever.
10.so walk like an elephant let dogs bark
bye
2006-06-27 22:40:03 · answer #1 · answered by chdman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is nothing but a character assasination.
They are not going to acheive much in life. It is just that they are getting pleasure from doing so.
1. You can leave the state and go elsewhere. But this will be cowardly.
2. You can do the same..(Tit for tat) But eventually you will loose as it is a mind game that they are playing.
3. You can ignore it. It will be bad where people will accept the cause.
4. You can talk to your ex-husband and his wife. It will settle the issue hopefully. You can tell them it is not that they are spoiling your character they are spoiling the kids lives. and future.
5. I am not sure if there is a legal help that you get in your part where you can sue them for defamation. This will hopefullly make them quite. It will include money from your side. But if you have a strong case then you will win. It will silent your ex-and his current wife.
Smile Always
2006-06-28 05:14:03 · answer #2 · answered by Smile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me years ago, and it was so heartbreaking, i still do not know why my character was being assainated.. my x and i made a promise never to bad mouth the other parent, and this was part of our having joint custody,, for a short time it worked but then his new wife would say things to my son aabout me that were untrue, and when he told me, i wanted to confront her, and my x but he begged me not to tell, and the man i was with at the time said it was better to swallow my pride, and that my son would get in trouble, and never trust me again,, iT REALLY SUCKED, BEING loyal to my son, but knowing crap was being said about me really really is one of the worst memories of being a mother,,,
my x would put me down, in little ways in front of my son like saying are you lookiing forward to seeiing your mom, and then when my son would answer he would say, well i am glad one of us us, and my sons step mom once told people she was terrified that one night i would overdose on antidepresssents, and maybe accidentally give my son some pills, and things like that, cheap shots, and for no apparent reason, but being petty, they would complain if i was twenty minutes late returning my son to them, and really make a big deal out of it,, i could go on and on,, as a result of this i do not know all that was said, but my son seemed to have some notions aboaut me that were false, so i could just "SPIT" but i am a lady, i have just the hope now that my son is an adult, he can judge me for himself, but i do not know what to say to you,,,to help i am sorrry, i really was reliving my past,,
i think the best thing to do is when you hear something negative, and you think it is serious, i would confront them in a very calm mature way, and be a bigger person than they are, and say, well, im sorry you feel the need to say things that are exagerated, or untrue, about me, what is the real problem and then say, well, if you need to act this way, i hope you soon get over it, but i will not accept or become petty and cruel, i will only speak of you in a favorable tone, nomatter how much you attack my character, i will not accept this, or lower my standards to your level, good luck, i want to just tell them myself and i do not know them,, two parents divorced should always show the kids even though they are not together, they do respect one another, always...and set an example for your children to followl
2006-06-28 05:24:44 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to know why they are doing this to you. Talk to them. But I really pity you. Are you in custody to your 2 children. Is your ex-husband paying you for their expenses? Because I don't really know why you divorce with him and your suitation. But since you've already breakup with him, he shouldn't have said bad things about you. Tell him let the past be the past. And tell him that he shouldn't said bad things so that your son's girlfriend leave him. I hope my answer will be helpful to you and hope that you won't give up so easily in life because I believe your 2 children are still young and need your care.
2006-06-28 05:13:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldn't hide your ideas and feelings! Make a family reunion with them, your son and his gf and confront them out loud. Tell them that this shouldn't continue.
2006-06-28 05:08:22 · answer #5 · answered by cosmicwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my ex Greg Pitcher. They are psycho. Get away.
2006-06-28 05:15:20 · answer #6 · answered by Howdy! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can sue them for slander of character, contact the police or better yet a lawyer to get this done with don't wait to long it might just get worst
2006-06-28 05:06:27 · answer #7 · answered by isopropyl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just get a restraining order or tell them that you will involve the police in the matter if they don't stop the harrasment!
2006-06-28 05:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by _ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approach a lawyer and see if you can take them to court and charge them with defamation.
2006-06-28 05:05:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for such unbecoming situation. I advise you to get rid of their family.
2006-06-28 05:20:01 · answer #10 · answered by Mr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋