Help!
I need advice, i live in a semi detatched house. My bedroom backs onto the young girl next doors bedroom, she is the same age as myself and lives with her young son.
However, every night for the past few weeks her boyfriend has been staying over - and you can hear everything they do in the bedroom, its not just the odd squeek of the bed, its full on porno screaming and headboard banging on my bedroom wall!
It got that noisy last night that they woke my daughter up, she was really upset and crying as she obviously is too young to understand why the girl next door was screaming her head off.
Its really affecting me as Im not getting any sleep/ or my 16 month old baby girl.
What would you do? She is a nice person, she often says hi and is friendly enough, but im too embaressed to knock and say something, its not really a topic you bring up with the next door neighbour!
Im by no means a prude, i have a heathy love life myself! Just not loud!
2006-06-27 21:44:42 · 20 answers · asked by Hannah 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My mum has offered to knock, she was asleep on the sofa last night after babysitting and heard everything! And she was downstairs!!!!
Anyone been in a simular situation?
2006-06-27 21:52:31 · update #1
I know its the cowards way out but what about if i wrote her a note and posted it? Kind of "would you try and keep the noise in the bedroom down"
Anonomously!!!
2006-06-27 21:54:59 · update #2
Her son's room backs onto my daughters, so room swapping is NOT an option! lol!
Im suprised her son doesnt wake up, he's only 3!
2006-06-27 21:57:17 · update #3
Hi Everyone, I DID IT! I knocked! I just said "Hi Helen, Im sorry to have to mention it i could hear everything last night, and It woke lily up (my daughter)"
Anyway she apologised and said she was so very sorry and very embaressed and would try and keep it down, she also said that the bed knocked on the wardrobe so she would get her fella to move the bedroom round so the bed is on a different wall.
I feel sooooooooooooo much better now!!! I dont know who was more embaressed! Me or her!
2006-06-27 22:32:45 · update #4
I guess you just have to tell her nicely not to be so loud. To be honest I wouldn't know what to do either. I live in an apartment and I wonder sometimes if my neighbors hear me. I'm not loud but these walls are so thin. My co worker had the same problem and she went to managers and they said they told do anything about the noise. My other co worker is like in her 60's sold her condo and bought another cause of the noise.
2006-06-27 21:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by christyxy777777 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I have to admit I'm a bit of a noisy performer myself - lol. I think the only thing you can do is tell her how it is affecting you and your daughter. I know that if someone said something to me I wouldn't be angry just mortified, I would apologise and bear that in mind from now on. There is nothing worse than hearing lovemaking. I think I will have to be more quiet from now on. I feel embarrassed myself now thinking how loud I can be especially if I have had a drink or 2. Blush Blush Blush. Thanx for this I should really think of others 2. She will understand I'm sure. Just say something like I feel really embarrassed about this but the walls are really thin and I am in the bedroom through the wall from your bedroom and I can hear everything that goes on in your room and I have been kept up for the last few weeks now. She will get the point and hopefully tone it down. Good luck!
2006-06-27 21:54:48 · answer #2 · answered by missieclass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO go over and have a chat with her.
I had a similar situation, living in an apartment building which wasnt insulated properly between floors... we could hear everything they did in the bedroom above us etc etc... doesnt matter if its late evening, but middle of the nite aint good... so my (then) gf went up to chat at dinnertime one evening to point we could hear so much... and she understood and since then things are perfectly alrite !
2006-06-27 22:01:49 · answer #3 · answered by Blind Wing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let her know that her love life is affecting you and your daughter's mental well being! If you feel awkward, try making it a joke - "You were having a nice time last night!" I'd hope that she would have enough sensitivity to realise she's making an exhibition of herself. Good luck!
2006-06-27 21:49:50 · answer #4 · answered by Roxy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you listen to that kind of noise just try to fake it from you house and even a bit louder than them. Probably, a taste of their own medicine will help them realise what it means to have a noise neighbor !!
2006-06-27 22:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by dreammanish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just talk to her..
maybe she will quiet down, take her activities to another room or just not care, but at least you will have tried.
Maybe she could trade bedrooms with her young son so as not to disturb you..
2006-06-27 21:53:23 · answer #6 · answered by tavgirl1954 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wright a letter but a nice letter.She can get mad and start to fight.Or you can take her for a walk with you one day and explane what has been going on.Start of with I see you have your man come almost ervery night.Then go on from there..
2006-06-27 22:04:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just politely tell her the situation and how its affecting your household. If she is friendly like u say she will probably apologize, feel a little embarrassed, and then try and keep it down.
2006-06-27 21:48:46 · answer #8 · answered by Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as you wrote she is a nice person so if she, she will understand ur problem. do not hesitate, go and speak to her. really the topic is too difficult to share but do dont have any other way.
2006-06-27 21:55:46 · answer #9 · answered by solutions_sanjay123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her, I know it is embarassing. SOmething along the lines of 'you seem to be enjoying yourself lately' might get the conversation started!
2006-06-27 21:48:20 · answer #10 · answered by ehc11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋