He also tells me we can act the same as if we we were in a relationship, but without the strings attatched. He says I'm not doing anything wrong; he just wants to be single...
So do I just be "friends with benifits," or move on completely???
2006-06-27 21:28:31 · 19 answers · asked by Caasi 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I would say this guy isnt ready for a relationship, or is not really interested enough in you to commit. I would move on, and find someone who cares about you enough to have an honest, mature relationship. It sounds to me like the guy you speak of just wants casual sex from you, but also wants to have it with others as well. You can be hurt in this kind of relationship.
2006-06-27 21:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by Darqblade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on completely, if he really loved you, he would love only you.. think about it.. do YOU need other people if you love someone?? No!! Now if you didn't love someone, but it's nice to feel loved, you could consider keeping them there to have someone to fall back to.. The fact that he is willing to put you through the suffering and jealousy, proves that he doesn't love you.. Don't settle for anything less than a guy who makes you feel like a princess.. other guys make you feel unworthy, and you could get caught in a vicious circle where you will always settle for less than you deserve.. Even though it might be hard, try to leave him.. even when you think that there is no one else like him.. but realise that you are wonderful and maybe what everyone says.. "you deserve better" is true!!
2006-06-28 04:36:38 · answer #2 · answered by verito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, baby this is a heart breaker. I feel for you and wish things were not the way they are for now. Give him his space...he needs time. Buy him the book "A Bridge Across Tomorrow" by Richard Bach and set back and try to weather the storm. Personally, I think he is on the verge of commitment and you are going to have to suffer through his shortcomings. Don't blow it now...he needs his space and I see a very happy ending when he reads the book and gets his act together. Good luck! This defiantly has the ingredients for a happy ending. Be patient!
2006-06-28 04:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually this is a question that you have to answer. Do you want to be a friend with benefits or find somebody who really loves you and wants to be in a relationship with you?
If you think that this guy will change his mind and you should wait for him, you may be making a big mistake and wasting your time. It's hard to let go when you think you are in love with someone, but I think this situation will not improve with time and you cannot make someone love you.
2006-06-28 04:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by happy inside 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That means he is not sure about love, or in other words, his feelings toward you. I say be careful, because even if he has good intentions you might be the only victim with no vilain to take the responsibility for his actions.
2006-06-28 04:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by TararuSan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends. If you are the jelous type, DO NOT GO FOR IT and if you really care for him and want him, then I'd say talk him out of it. If he really loves you, there's no other person he'd want to be with. "I love you" can't be as simple as that, even if you love him. He has to mean it, and wanting to be single but be "friends with benifeits" is not the way to go.
2006-06-28 04:33:25 · answer #6 · answered by May 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a matter of how important he is to you and how much you love him. He is obviously just not ready to settle down right now, but there most likely will come a time when he is ready. Will you be there?
(This doesn't mean that he doesn't love you.)
2006-06-28 04:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can't be "friends w/ benefits" if you're still in love with him. You'll still be emotionally involved and he obviously isn't or doesn't want to be....setting yourself up for hurt.
People always SHOW you who they are & actions speak louder than words. Frankly, he wants to see other girls w/o having to lie about it.
2006-06-28 04:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by ModelBehavior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your can continue as "friends with benifits" if you think he will not disturb your future life.
2006-06-28 04:44:13 · answer #9 · answered by loveboy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is the stupidest thing i have ever heard, most likely it means he wants things he can get from anyone just if someone better comes a long that is what he is going to choose, i really wouldnt whaste my time if i was you.
2006-06-28 04:32:54 · answer #10 · answered by meow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋