I am a little nervous, but am really unhappy in my marriage. My wife is not into any affection and feels that sex is a dirty thing. She has been to counseling. I don't see it getting better, but I just want some companionship with someone who love to touch and be held as much as I do.
2006-06-27 20:16:38 · 13 answers · asked by andrewchatter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have left out a vital piece of information: Do you have kids?
If you don't have kids, divorce.
If you do have kids, you need to put your needs aside and be their father. They need a real man, not someone who is willing to destroy the family in pursuit of his own needs. You will get caught, and you will be the jerk.
I say this as one in the same boat. I am a married celibate. There is no affection at all between my wife and I. But I will NOT destroy my daughter's family security in pursuit of my own comfort or libido. Once she is grown, then I might consider other options.
Stay away from porno too. It only makes things more difficult for you.
2006-06-27 20:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by theophilusgds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First ask yourself if you want a divorce. If you want one then get it first. Don't go behind her back. You will regret it later. If you go ahead and mess around I would have an attorney picked out, because you will get caught.
Is it possible she is going through a combination of depression and menopause? She might get through it eventually. Anti depressants contribute to not having any sexual urges in women. I am fighting this battle with my wife, and it has been going on for more than a year.
2006-06-28 03:47:42 · answer #2 · answered by whatshisface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't cheat on her. ask her where she expects you to get the love you need. tell her you don't want to have an affair but you are emotionally and physically starving.
if she doesn't have sex with you for a lloong time after that, i don't blame you for divorcing and finding someone affectionate and loving... but please try to make it work for the kids. the kids are #1. if the kids are #1 with you, wait until they are grown and then leave your wife (provided she still isn't giving you anything).
i just really, really don't recommend an affair. it would be a bad bad move.
2006-06-28 04:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all...you should definitely get a divorce....do not cheat...you made a promise at the altar and that should mean something...somebody once told me that in all reality we as human beings have nothing...when we die what do we take with us...absolutely nothing...but their is one thing we do have...your word...nobody can take it from you...it is truly yours...if you gave your word to your wife then be a man and live up to it...obviously their was something you used to like about her...i mean i obviously don't know the whole situation but coming from a young woman is in the process of planning a wedding...i would rather have my husband divorce me than to for him to be with another woman...divorce may hurt her but at least you won't be lying to her...good luck with everything...if its meant to be, it will be...and no i am not trying to say sacrifice your happiness...just deal with your current problems before you start creating new ones...
2006-06-28 03:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce and sleep with whomever you want. If you're unhappy, she probably is too. Then again, you shouldn't have gotten married if you couldn't handle her issues. Surely you knew about them before you married her.
2006-06-28 03:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by free 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have my empathy. You're not alone cause I'm going thru the same thing. It's hard to honor the vows for better or worst, but man,,,,one can only take so much.
2006-06-28 03:29:37 · answer #6 · answered by lonnie m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce first.dont do da affair while ur married.maybe this marriage wasnt what it was 2 be...but dont do da affair while ur married.it'll be messy in da long run...
2006-06-28 03:30:32 · answer #7 · answered by MARSEE39 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should confront your wife if that doesn't work, divorce her and find Ms. Right
2006-06-28 03:19:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there,done that,not a good idea.
2006-06-28 03:26:53 · answer #9 · answered by fantasy_lady428 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you call it quits. life is too short to live unhappy and then die.
2006-06-28 05:44:39 · answer #10 · answered by diana g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋