Our son is 17 1/2 and says he loves and wants to go out with a girl that is going to be 15 soon. We have told him she is too young to date, but he was willing to move in with his out of town parent for the summer in order to talk and have any chance possible to see her. He has given up his vehicle, cell phone etc. just for her. He was sneaking around to see her, but tells us his relationship is platonic. Why is he willing to give up everything???
2006-06-27 20:04:58 · 11 answers · asked by Geez Louise 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I also need to mention that he feels this way about any girl that has liked him. He has only had a couple very short-term relationships (they break-up with him), so these actions concern us deeply.
2006-06-27 20:25:31 · update #1
He has only known this girl for 2-3 months!
2006-06-27 20:50:36 · update #2
no it is not normal he is obsessed with the girl ,how long has he known the girl to want to give up everything he has,he must think about finishing his high-school and going to college,that girl is not going to give him education girls will come and go but his education will not go it will stay with him,he will find the right girl at the right time
2006-06-27 20:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by preznk 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because he loves her. I'm in love with a 14 year old that has a two hour time difference and I doubt I'll be able to see her any time soon. It feels horrible to not be able to ever see the person you want to spend your life with, trust me. Just let him do his thing and if it doesn't work out he'll learn a deep lesson somehow and move on. Just give it time. :]
2006-06-27 20:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by LemonZombie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is in love with her and it is true believe me i have beem in love before and i ended up breakin up with my ex becuz of fear but he would have given the world for me and it was a great feeling for us both but yea let him live give him permission 2 it is better then him sneakin around do something with him and his girlfriend live a little come on know that s what my mom is doing she lets me have a bf becuz she knows i will go behind her back so yeah well let me know if i helped at all
2006-06-27 20:25:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its what all girls do spend others money until they find another jack to pay for their expenses. one of my friends has ended up spendin up somewhere by 10-15 grand on a girl n she jus told him - hi renick he's my fiance n we r gettin married on 3 march.
this is jus an attraction which occurs at his age n distracts him so jus tell him n try to sitdown n discuss this or the best way is to meet one of his friends n ask him to convince him beacuse teens listen n respect their friends more than parents this should help him
2006-06-27 23:22:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he really loves her, even though its puppy love I don't think he should've done what he should, let it be. This will be a life lesson for him, when they break up and he realizes he doesn't have any of the things he had before he dated her then he will think that it was a big mistake and that he shouldn't have done that
2006-06-27 21:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by lil_kor3an 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parent to parent and a rebel myself If you forbid him to see this young lady or anyone for that matter your greatest fear may come true. I know my mom hate a guy i was seeing and i ended up rebeling against her wish i hadnt but long story. Just be there if he needs you it will work out
2006-06-27 20:42:54 · answer #6 · answered by peace_maker0521 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably because your son is human and feels a great connection with this girl..everyone wants and needs someone in there life to keep going...maybe that someone is that girl...
2006-06-27 20:12:21 · answer #7 · answered by manga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to understand that once he leaves HS HE WILL NEVER SEE HER AGAIN... I have sen my friends from HS maybe twice and I will have my 20th year anniversary in 6 years from now..that is not because I didn't have friends..it is because LIFE GOES ON..yeah yeah yeah ob la di ob la da..but it is what it is..
2006-06-27 23:50:34 · answer #8 · answered by juanes addicion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is obsessive, u might want to talk to him about what is too much, and have him take a vacation to somewhere w/o his girlfriend, he will put things into perspective and relize what he is diong wrong
2006-06-28 07:32:09 · answer #9 · answered by popeye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has to be having sex with her for him to be giving up his cell phone and car.
2006-06-27 20:16:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋