I have the nosey (est) neighbor--she is constantly asking me personal questions. Mostly I tell her the truth, regretfully, but I sometimes lie, then she just ends up asking me more questions, then I lie OR reveal more truthful facts/details to get her to shut up! Only to feel bad about revealing one more thing about myself to a nosey, possibly untrustworthy person. Can someone give me good advice--PLEASE KNOW I HAVE TO DO THINGS THAT WILL WORK, AND NOT BE TAKEN TOO HARSHLY BY HER--BECAUSE SHE IS FRIENDS WITH MY LANDLORD!
2006-06-27 19:32:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hon, Just smile REALLY REALLY big and ask her
WHY DO YOU WANT TO KNOW THAT?
Stops them right in their tracks.. They don`t have an answer..
But remember smile and be very sweet about it, ,,,
You know LIKE; why hon, why do you need to know that? {:-) {:-)
God Bless & hugs From Texas.
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2006-06-27 19:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by jaantoo1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure through all this talking you have a grasp on what her opinions on key issues are. Religion, politics, childrearing....there are all sorts of topics that you can use to drive a comfortable wedge between you and your neighbor, without having to be too rude about it.
If you say something far enough to one side of an argument, e.g. if she says, "I don't understand why people hate Bush so much. He's doing a good job."
You could say, "Well, I didn't vote for him, and I don't really agree with most of his policies. Oh, I think I'm burning dinner. I'll talk to you later!" Smile and wave, and she'll have private time to think about not wanting to hang out with you so much anymore.
I've done similar things before, and it works. You just have to find the right issue, that she feels very strongly about.
Or, you can just be honest about it. Tell her you have always been used to having a private personal life, and it makes you uncomfortable to talk about things." You could add to that, "even to my closest friends and family. I'm just a private kinda person." It tells her you consider her a close friend, but that it doesn't entitle her to know everything about you.
2006-06-28 02:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by mia_violenza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try using the following: When you ask me questions about my personal life, i feel as though you are prying into my affairs. Because i have personal things that are not for everyone, i would like it if you could try and refrain from asking personal questions. I don't mind sharing some things, but think some things are personal. Supposedly, this format works and keeps people from feeling offended. I have tried it on my hubby and he never gets mad. The format is" When you......, I feel......., Because....., i would like for you to.......... Just fill in the blanks after the phrases.
2006-06-28 02:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by cammiellebecker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and up front with her. You could say to her: Look, I like you, you're a nice person, but there is such a thing as personal space and boundaries, and you are crossing that line. It makes me really uncomfortable, when you ask all those personal questions. They are personal for a reason, and I would appreciate it, if you would just ease up a bit.
If she is a MATURE adult, she will understand. Good luck!
2006-06-28 02:36:59 · answer #4 · answered by pink_phish22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Super Glue
2006-06-28 02:34:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, consider this. She is certainly nowhere near as smart as you are and you should not worry about it. Just ignore her. I mean, you are mad at people for ignoring you and now you are mad at your neighbor for paying attention to you. I don't know how you can survive this awful situation. Maybe you should move away and make new friends- in a smarter city.
2006-07-03 15:54:16 · answer #6 · answered by texasgirl5454312 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to Jaantoo1
2006-06-28 02:39:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answering With Your Questions...
NYSH
2006-06-28 02:36:00 · answer #8 · answered by NYSH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask questions about her life, sound really interested. People love to talk about themselves.
2006-06-28 02:38:15 · answer #9 · answered by luvbuniz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
water the front yard nekkid.....
ask her if she's ever had a dream about re-entering the womb......
pretend to faint.....
drool a bit than say, "I'm sorry what was your question?"
Ask her if she's ever poohed in her pants when she thaought it was going to be a fart.
Give her tooooo much info i.e. "my left testicle is bigger than my right, should this concern me?"
2006-06-28 02:48:29 · answer #10 · answered by crapp_game 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋