me and my best friend who is 16 years older than me kissed last week, we are always pretending to be bi-sexuals infront of people but we are not, we love men. but the kiss.....then she continuously tell me that she will snog me one day and that we will make out one day, well i take it as a joke. but i am so attracted to her! i have a boyfriend and i love him, but what is going on with me and the strong feeling i have for my best friend.....
2006-06-27 18:57:27 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
What don't you understand about bisexual. You can be attracted to other people, but what you do with those feelings is up to us.
If you have a relationship with someone and you are attracted to another, you now need to make some decisions.
The bottom line: You can't help what you feel, but you do have control on how you act. In the meantime, I suggest you and your friend talk this out, and you and your boyfriend need to know the results.
Good luck with your triangle.
2006-06-27 19:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by J. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Human emotional states are a rickety creation at best. Exploration and examination under the calm perspective of logic will be most helpful. Introspection unfortunately does not come as naturally as it should. Seek answers not from this collection of mediocre minds, but from within yourself you are the only true source of self understanding. Good luck and never fear what you may find.
2006-06-28 02:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by kyrant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems that you're bi curious. you can tell your friend about how you feel about her, or just let it be. you decide on that part. however, i do suggest that you try kissing her when it's not infront of someone else. just to see if it's the knowledge of freaking homophobes out or if it's love for a friend becoming something more.
2006-06-28 02:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by gaygoddevil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go slow and make sure you want to experiment. If you findt hat you are more attracted to women than men, be fair to your b/f and be honest with him. I don't know how old you are, but questioning your sexuality can be moment of curiosity or thebeginning of find out who you really are. I didn't really know I like women until I was 26 and married. Ooops. big surprise.
2006-07-02 05:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm, it sounds like your friend is hinting at something...making a joke out of it like you're taking it as a joke, while both of you are serious. Anyways, that's a rough realization to make while you have a boyfriend, but I say explore boundaries with your friend some, to see where things are, before saying anything to your boyfriend.
Good luck.
2006-06-28 02:06:05 · answer #5 · answered by stalin_395 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You see you cant help what you feel but you have control on how you act. Talk this out among the three of you. All the best.
2006-06-28 02:19:28 · answer #6 · answered by mamana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should exchange between the post of Bestfriend and Boyfriend. Make your bestfriend as boyfriend and boyfriend as bestfriend. The feelings will be the same and you'll live happily everafter.
2006-06-28 02:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck
2006-06-28 01:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by GoingNoWhereFast 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about this with your boyfriend. You might be surprised, a lot of guys fantasie about their girlfriends being with other women. You might be able to have a boyfriend and a girlfriend!
Good luck.
2006-06-28 06:20:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your so attracted to your girl, then go with your feelings, do you really love your boyfriend? I think you have some contemplating to do! Use your heart, not your head honey!
2006-06-28 02:42:33 · answer #10 · answered by munkypoo1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋