I know some woman will say that, thats how its always been or I expect it or hes cheap. That doesnt fly. I love woman but it seems you want the world of etiquette to favor you in social situations but want no part of that elsewhere(work etc).This is not all woman, but many today. How do you define eqality? Just in the paycheck? Thats the only place where I agree equality should definetly apply. Physical test standards have to be lowered for woman to enter traditionally mens jobs. We are different. We are only equal as human beings. The times they have-a-changed.
2006-06-27 18:45:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I never went on a date expecting the guy to pay. I always paid AT LEAST half. Until I met my boyfriend. He insisted on paying on the first date...and held the door open for me. I'm a modern woman, I do pay for half, but chivalry is nice. It makes a woman feel like...well, a woman. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now (longest relationship for me). And I love him for who he is, but the nice gestures - they're the icing on top. Besides, him paying for the first dinner gave me an excuse to see him again - I felt obligated to buy him dinner (and trust me, our second date was a pricier meal). ;)
When we say we want equality, it means we want respect. Give us respect, and we will respect you and both shall live in harmony.
2006-06-27 18:52:18 · answer #1 · answered by Tygirljojo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, actually! Woman can only do so much, but the same applies to men as well. I've heard that the pain of childbirth could almost kill a man (true or not true, it's a pretty cool theory!) Woman and men are built in different ways physically and mentally, however, in a way, that does make us equal!
You see, what a woman can't do, a man can compensate for, and vise versa. It's this reason why we want equality in terms of the work place, etc. However, for all those years of calling woman the "weaker sex" we demand to be treated delicately to some extent. In terms, however, paying for dinner, well she's just being cheap.
2006-06-28 01:56:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly...I guess I do like it when a guy pays for the first date or 2...but it's not like it has to be anything fancy. I have paid for the first date before but I think I gave the wrong impression, that I was a super-feminist or something. Now I would offer but not push it if he grabs for it first.
After the first date I feel that I need to start paying or driving or something to be more equal. (he gets dinner, I'll get drinks after...something like that)
As far as the work place goes, there are many jobs (I know not all) that the physical requirement isn't as high because technology has changed the way the job is done.
There are some double standards for women...but there are some for men too.
2006-06-28 01:59:45 · answer #3 · answered by az 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paying for the meal on a date is part of the "right thing to do on a social level" The reward comes with spending time with that woman who you believe to be special. She could be anywhere but chose to be with you. Didn't you ask her out? Maybe if she asked you out then she may pick up the tab. Being equal may be defined as being treated like a person and not a sex object. Having the very same rights, respect and privledges as any man, anywhere, at anytime. You might hear "Well you're a woman...you shouldn't be doing this job" but you never hear "Well you're a woman... you shouldn't be getting pregnant."
2006-06-28 01:58:47 · answer #4 · answered by Spice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If men and women had equitable salaries, I don't think men would be expected to pay all the time. And as you noted, not all women expect men to pay anyway. But there are plenty of jobs where women can do just as good a job as men (or better) without having to lower standards. Only in the most physical of jobs is that an issue. One of the problems is that men help make the babies and then just leave the women to sort out all the related issues. That's where the job problems come in more than in any other aspect.
2006-06-28 01:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by Muddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is a good example of women (in general) wanting to eat their cake and have it too.
They want equality in the workplace, which I commend them for. They also want to be treated like a woman on a date. Now, I feel that if the woman is in an exclusive relationship with the male suitor, then he should pay. If the woman is not in an exclusive relationship, she needs to pay for her part, or go "dutch" as the old saying goes.
I am an old fashioned type of guy. If I take a woman out on a date, then I will pay. I asked her out. Now if she asked me out, I would pay for my part, but I would hope that she would offer the same courtesy to pay for the date just as if I had asked her and paid.
As for defining equality... that is different for each person.
2006-06-28 01:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by hooligans_in_kilts 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because all women don't think in equality. Im in my 20's and i still think like my grandma. I do all the house and my husband brings home the money and takes the trash out. Now i do expect my husband to help out a little and vice versa. I do think if you're a man and your taking a women out on a date then you should pay. Co-worker, friend, split the bill.
2006-06-28 01:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by Kristi A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe in equality in all areas I dont expect a man to pay. Usually I pay for my half of the dinner or I pay for both. You are speaking to a woman who supported her husband for six years of their marriage. I was the only bread winner for a long time I never complained and now its my turn to sit at home while my husband brings home the money. Women and Men should be equal in all areas...
2006-06-28 01:53:17 · answer #8 · answered by hearts_bleed_dark 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, women can't actually get equality. Why? i think the answer lies on the different of sex. men usually have advantage over women. so in our world today, men usually take first actions in a relationship. equality of women is mostly out of relationship, law based, not nature based. so maybe we want equality, cuz we dont get it completely.
Essentially women think men do have a lot of advantages over them in a relationship. so how do they find satisfaction?
Guys pay.(personal opinion)
2006-06-28 02:08:38 · answer #9 · answered by joybee88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the women you pick - This is no ones problem but your own - I prefer to pay my own way so NO man can say I owe him! Keep searching there's a lot of fish in the sea that will split the bill and pay their own way or even pay for you......
2006-06-28 01:53:08 · answer #10 · answered by D--- 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋