he starting to look like his dad..fat,bad teeth,and rotton toes.
2006-06-27 18:36:03 · 21 answers · asked by redheadsRbeter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
20 years ago you knew what his life wil be like his dad.. and you married him becaue you love him 20 years ago... now it bothers you becasue of that. 20 years I know you do love him but sorry that you have wasted your life on him.
2006-07-09 01:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a man. We neglect ourselves. We procrastinate. Teeth? Make a dental appointment for him. Fat? Well, IF you are keeping fit, try to get him to take walks with you, swim, or do something together that is physical. Fix meals that will help slim him down. Looking like Dad? Well, after 20 years, he IS likely to look like his father did 20 years ago. Looks? Heck, take him shopping. I'm happy in the same ragged clothes forever. My wife usually buys my clothes. Actually, you two should be envied. You've made the marriage work for 20 years. No marriage is easy. Nothing worthwhile ever is. My own mother died 2 years ago at 79. We were there, and my dad still saw her as beautiful- which she never was, except to him. She had no breasts, was fat, and her body was partially paralized by stroke years before. But, she was still the young girl he married- to him. I honestly never felt my mom was a sucess, but her death showed me I was wrong. When you are loved enough to make minor things like a lost leg, missing breasts, and senility unimportant- then you are a sucess. After all, love is what marriage is. She was loved.
2006-07-09 06:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he is not keeping himself filthy you really shouldn't have a problem with him. The two of you have been married for 20yrs! Age does a lot to people, If you loved and desired him for this long, then why are you going to judge him now? That just doesn't make any sense! You have flaws just like he does! You should be thankful, and very proud that you have had a long lasting marriage!! When you married it was for better or worse, if the way things are going with him seems to bother you, then you should talk with him and tell him!
Good Luck!!!!
2006-07-10 10:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've had some good ideas submitted. It's hard to answer without knowing what your relationship is.
How do YOU look? Do you take care of yourself. How old is he? Some of your solution will depend on how you 2 communicate. Explain to him how his appearance makes you feel...without attacking him. Ask him if he is willing to work on things for you and for himself. Are there things you could do together that would help him improve. Are you both still intimate? Does he desire to be? Would you be more willing to be intimate if he took better care of himself?
This doesn't all have to be because of you either. You are concerned about his health and his well being.
2006-07-08 22:37:08 · answer #4 · answered by sladed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him on a date. Go to the beauty shop. Get the services you want done and then go out to a nice dinner together. It's never to late to start dating each other again. In fact the longer we are married the more importand it is to act a little less comfortable with each other and get some fire back.
2006-07-07 18:02:12 · answer #5 · answered by snowhite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look after yourself.
Are you fit?
Are your feet pretty and sweet scented?
Are you a nice person?
Do you work?
Take him to the dentist and doctor.
Once you have done all this, either split up, or get back to how it was 20 yrs ago, your choice.
Otherwise, stop being so nasty about a man who probably doesnt feel that great himself, and do him and yourself a favour and stop this nonsense.
2006-07-09 13:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by Jeremy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some incentive to take better care of himself...for example, wouldnt a trip to the beach be nice? Tell him to lose X number of punds and that is his reward. As for the other things, ask him nicely to get his teeth taken care of. And give him a gift for his birthday - a gift certificate to a pedicure! Use "sweet" tactics to help motivate him to take better care of himself, and see if that does the trick!
2006-07-03 20:49:08 · answer #7 · answered by Coolie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GEEZE, Woman....tell the guy to get himself in shape or he can sleep somewhere else! That's as much your fault as it is his. You should TELL HIM...or help him get himself together.
2006-07-10 09:53:17 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-28 10:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by ganesh k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you discussed your feelings with him? I'm not sure how to help you with this problem, but I would suggest talking.
2006-07-10 23:23:00 · answer #10 · answered by KK#9 fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋