Are there any other girls that get told all the time that your beautiful and you still feel insecure?

Question

Like there is always something wrong with you

Answer 1

All the time. I see something wrong with me every time I look in the mirror.

Answer 2

Well first consider this as a male opinion (Don't worry I am not any pervert or something like that).

A lot of my friends when I tell them that they are beautiful they fell insecure, because they might be in this competence with the hot girl, who the boys always prefer. The hot girl is the common slutty girl with a great body to have sex, while the beautiful, as I think you are, is the one that is cute, and at the same time has a good body but not in the sexual matter.

I think you are a shy girl for what I can tell, and that is good!, I personally prefer this girls. Maybe you fell insecure because you are comparing to someone else.

Just keep of being who you have been, maybe you are not beautiful by face or by body, maybe is the way that you act or the way you are that makes you beautiful.

Answer 3

Well the guys at work say I am but I just don't see it. I can see it sometimes but most of the time I just don't. I see something completely different. My son thinks I am also but I figure he is just humoring me. Of course his little butt thinks he is fat and of course he isn't by no means in fact he is under weight. I think it runs in the family self image problems anyway. But as far back as I can remember I have always thought there was something wrong. If it was my weight the way my nose has a little hump my chin.... I could go on forever. But the simple answer is yes all of the time. I wish it would stop but it won't. I will never be good enough in my own opinion. That sucks to know that.

Answer 4

usually what makes a beautiful girl feel insecure is that they see other women or girls getting the attention so they end up feeling left out and think that other girl is better then them. like example when i was younger i always had a pretty face but i was fat no one ever looked at me. my friends on the other hand always got the attention. not that i really cared because i was not into american men but never the less my friends were labeled prettier then me because they were skinner, but now unfortunatly i see them they are un married some with kids, some got so popular that they are now just used up look older then what they are from the partying. here i am married to my husband 1st guy i ever kissed with a baby. when u go around comparing yourself to other women weather it be on the tv in magizine ur peers etc... u can not appreciate your own beauty because u are to busy trying to live up to the status quo. allah (god) does not make garbage. you are beautiful and do not let n e one make u think that u are any less then them. do not allow the media and the culture to make u think less of yourself. be comfortable in who you are as a human being and do not be your worst critic. if some one puts you down then that means they are insecure with their own looks. keep that in mind. feel bad for them. good luck and take care.

Answer 5

I know where you are coming from because I was always skinny (not toothpick skinny) I had curves and when I got pregnant I got FAT. Then I got preg. again, FATTER. My self esteem is non existant. This passed Christmas I promised myself that I would loose weight no matter what. The clothes that I got as gifts for Christmas were a size 16! I now weight 115 lbs and wear a size 5. Guys stare me down everywhere i go and alot of them will hit on me in front of my husband. But I still think that I could loose a few more pounds and I have always thought I was ugly. I think it is just something embedded in a woman's brain. It makes no sense!! Let me ask you this when you are in public, in at store whatever do you walk with your head up or not? In fact email me I think we might can help each other. my email is [e-mail]

Answer 6

I used to be that way. I was always told I had beautiful hair and eyes. I was shy and had hard time knowing what to say. Now I am more mature, and not shy at all. I just say thank you. I know someone telling me they like my blue eyes or hair does not mean something bad. It will usually open door for nice conversation, and this former shy flower likes to talk now days.

Answer 7

Ya! I do! My boyfriend gets really angry with me because I'm so insecure about my looks, and no matter how many times he tells me I look beautiful, I still feel almost embarassed to look straight at him. I think you have to feel beautiful inside and feel confident in yourself before anything anyone says to you makes any difference.

Answer 8

Yessss!!
Im 36 already and have been told that my entire life. I hated myself and thought I was seeing someone completely different in the mirror then what others saw. But you have to love yourself on the inside first and that is gonna be an obstacle for you. Look to your relationship with your father for that resolution.
I am beautiful now just how I am and I live myself!!!!!

Answer 9

It is obvious that you are attractive by society's standard, Unfortunatly though, somewhere along the way you became far too critical and see the flaws and none of the attributes that everyone else see's. As hard as it is to grasp and follow, you have to acknowledge that everyone has area's of our bodies that we are less than proud of...but you only have one body and you should be proud of who you are and focus on the positive area's. It may be a cliche but no one really can love you if you don't love yourself...confidence is extremely sexy.

Answer 10

Yes, ALL the time, I think this is common a lot because we all have our insecurities. The key is just to say thank you and NOT thank you BUT....(and relay to them your insecurity)

Just remember, how YOU see you, and how others see you are two different things. You probably ARE externally beautiful, and obviously very modest. You need to overcome your insecurities without getting concieted or coming across to others that way (which I KNOW you'll never be-you remind me of how I once was)

The problem with your question is that it's often a BIG turn off to everyone around you if you're constantly saying negative things about yourself, not to mention TIRING for everyone; they'll begin not to respect you if you don't respect yourself. OR they'll just think you're fishing for more compliments. It's a lose, lose situation, so be careful with voicing your thoughts of your insecurities.

Now ask yourself why people would complement you so often if you didn't have all these great qualities?

Do you ever , say, get 100 complements and ignore them, then ONE lousy person says something negative about you, and you DWELL on that ONE lousy person and focus on what THEY say ????

Yes? How did I guess THAT one??? Let me tell you about YOU, then, if you think I'm hitting the nail on the head, I want you to TRUST me, and take my advice at the end of what I have to say. Deal? Deal.

You are a giver. You love giving of yourself to people, as well as giving gifts and complements (even if you don't mean them). It makes you happy when you make other people happy. You're generous by nature. You like to please people. You like to please people so much you'll bend over backwards and sometimes do things you don;t want to do to make them happy. You want EVERYONE to like you. You NEED everyone to like you, if they don't, you'll try harder and change to please them so they will. If you are misunderstood or hurt somebodies feelings by accident, it tears you up inside until you can fix it. Some girls are mean to you because they're jealous, and you don't stick up for yourself, and you're possibly even afraid of them. You want to please these girls too. .....am I right? I could go on..... okay then , here's my advice....



Self - Confidence makes you way more attractive to everyone AND way more desirable to be around. You cannot please everybody all of the time- This will make you miserable and even more self concious in a negative way. You need to discover who you really ARE, this can take YEARS, but a start to it is to find your interrests and PURSUE them, be the best you can be at whatever it is you like to do. Stand up straight & don't slouch. Keep your chin up, look people in the eye, and really listen to the details of what people are talking about, and respond intelligently and confidently. People will start to come to you and WANT to be around you. Try to be yourself, If you don't want to or feel up to doing something or going somewhere, don't. Make your own decisions, don't let others make them for you. Doing this, YOU will be the "trend-setter", a leader. Give good advice and be confident when you say it. Know what you're talking about, and even when you don't fudge it a little. You can be confident with out being overbearing,( like some people believe only their opinion is the RIGHT one) Keep an open mind. If someone says something snotty to you, look them in the eye and say something snotty back, they'll back off. Most important, smile and be positive. When someone asks, "how are you?" respond with< "Outstanding" or "Great", not " Oh, I'm feeling tiirrrrreddd, or "I'm okay, I guess...." No one wants to hear that, and if someone is a true friend, they know when somethings bothering you and you can talk about those feelings with them, not everyone who asks how you are. This will help you with your self confidence. That is how it is built, my friend!


WOW! THAT was long winded! ....and I got ALL that from your one question!

Kisses!