My friend wrote me this long email talking about me taking initiative need to be more adult and all these things. He's never said these things to me before. The email was very hurtful and critical. Should I keep this person around?
2006-06-27 18:12:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The words you used initiative and adult do not have any thing negative attached to them. I think it is all according to what they said and how they said it.
Perhaps they are a very close friend of yours and they were trying to be helpful with their unsolicited advice.
What you observed as critical could quite possibly have been constructive criticism.
Read the e-mail over again and keep and open mind while doing so. Try to think of who this person is to you and what they mean to you. Would you think of them causing you harm or having your best interests at heart.
Then I would talk to them directly and see what they are trying to say to you.
I say hear them out and give them a chance, you might be giving up on a very good friend who really cares.
2006-06-27 18:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by fairydust12 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, friends do not have the right to tell you what you SHOULD be doing, but they can ADVISE you.
Seems liek your friend is tryign to advise you. Dont take it so hard, he sent u a long email (emphasize 'long') cos he cares for you. Be open to advice from good friends. If he really meant to hurt you he could juz have emailed you about " hey, you *^&% ". but he didn't right?
Keep him around. Why dont you have a good chat with him face to face and ask him to help you out here. and do mention to him that his email was hurtful and critical. If he is too nonchalant about the effect his email had on u, then he means to hurt you.
good lucky, buddy!!
2006-06-28 02:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by nobodyknowsme™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he wasnt doing it to hurt your feelings..maybe he was trying to be innocent and just give you advice but maybe you took it the wrong way and took it personal..its understandable that you got your feelings hurt and some of the things he said were critical..and maybe true he shouldnt have been evaluating you..but you should look deeper into this..look at how this all occured..it didnt JUST HAPPEN..something led up to him saying all these things to you/about you..out of the blue..yes i think you should keep him around?! what he do?! tell you something REAL and u felt offended..thats no reason to kick him to the curb..i'd like a friend to be honest with me..if you walkin like a duck..looking like a duck..acting like a duck..then i'd want my friend to open my eyes and say "HEY STOP BEING A DUCK"...you see what im saying? freinds are there to help you..show you..teach you..make you grow..make you better yourself..talk to him about the situation..maybe hes doing you a favor..
2006-06-28 02:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by Calendar_Model 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still want to keep him around then you should. He can't really tell you what you should be doing. He can give some advice or suggest what you should be doing but he can't make you do anything you don't want to.
2006-06-28 01:21:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because even though they maybe your friend that doesnt mean they r your parent the only thing good about a friend telling u what to do is if u think their right
2006-06-28 01:21:49 · answer #5 · answered by ali kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah if i am doing somethign wrong.
2006-06-28 01:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by queensephora_2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋