put yourself in his position, and tell me what you would think and do please?

Question

A & B are good friends.
I was with A for 1 n1/2 months, about 3 years ago, we really liked each other, and felt a strong connection, I ended up losing my virginity to him and a short while later we broke up.

Then I started dating B. B was my first true love, and we went out for 2 years. B and I just recently broke up about 3 months ago, however 1 month ago we started talking again, it wasn't working well due to his actions, and so B stepped in.

B and I hung out all last weekend, and we ended up sleeping together again. We talked about how much we liked each other, and how we had love for one another. I told B that I couldn't be with A because of his actions, and that I wanted to continue seeing B, because we have a very strong conection. However now that I've had time to think about it, I am not sure if I want to be with A or B. I want to take some time with B to think about it, and explore what he has to offer me.

What will follow below is a letter that I want to give to B this weekend when we are supposed to hang out. My questions are:

Should I give him the letter?

If So:
Is there anything I should add?
When 1st, 2nd, 3rd, or last day?
What would you think if you were B?
What would you do if you were B?

If not:
Why?
What are your suggestions?

2nd paragraph last line i did mess up A stepped in not B sorry

I have seriously been contemplating my options over the past few days, and I am not completely sure what I want to do about the situation I am in.

I want you to know that I really like you, and I definitly want to get to know you better. I think that last weekend, although it was so much fun, that we rushed into things a little too fast and that we should back it up and slow it down a little bit. I want you to know that I enjoyed having sex with you very much, however I do not want sex to cloud our judgement.

I also want you to know that I have love for you, but I am not sure that I am in love with you. I think I need a better understanding of who you are as a person right now, and your lifestyle, and I fully intend to do that. I do not want to stop seeing you, and I also want you to keep your options open.

I do not want to end up feeling too comfortable in this situation, nor do I want you to get the wrong idea and think that I am using you or anything of the sort.

I really have true feelings for you, and you are in my heart. I believe that we have a very strong connection, and from what I know and have seen so far, I think that we could have a very good future.

However I do not want to mislead you, I have not let go completely of B. He also means alot to me and I love him to death. I just want to take a few weeks and explore my thoughts and feelings.

To be completely honest with you I want these next few weeks to give me some insight on whether I want to pursue a relationship with you or B.

I am telling you right now with sincere honesty that during the time that I am seeing you (if you decide you want to continue seeing me,) I am not going to pursue a relationship with B.

We have been broken up for 3 months now, and I am considering this either a full or part time break (of which I am unsure thus this letter.) While I am seeing you, I will be involved with you, and only you. I will not be seeing anyone else...

or sleeping with anyone else, including B.

To make this clear, I am not asking you to stop your life as a single man, I only ask that when we are together (around each other) you treat me like I treat you, like we are involved, and with mutual honesty and respect for one another. I don't see you having a problem doing that but this letter may change your thoughts and feelings on this situation and me.

I am writing this because I do not want to hurt you, and I want you to know where I'm coming from and what has been going on in my mind. Also to give you the chance to back out and change your mind now if you don't like the circumstances that this situation will place you in if you decide to keep seeing me.

actually the letter is to A sorry guys and thanks for reading it all! i appreciate your time and patience very much! :)

Answer 1

Explore, explore, explore. I think what you are doing is fine. Make sure you know B and understand each other before you enter any relationship. I would try to keep in contact with A and see if he is still interested. Make sure B knows about A and A knows about B. Now I'm confused ;) .
Seriously it is a joy that we have in life,
the freedom to choose.

hope this helps

Matt

Answer 2

Why don't you take some time for yourself, away from A,B,C...X,Y,Z??? Maybe it's better for you to get your priorities straight and figure what you really need before you jump into relationship again and break more hearts? Because the only heart that will break over and over again is yours.
Don't let As, B's and other alphabet guys use you.
Guard your heart.

Answer 3

Hot damn i thought i was back in pre school again with them alphabets spinning around....shittt........

what you need to be doing is find yourself a new man.

***** the Drama..

Answer 4

it sounds like in your second paragraph you got a and b mixed up, if you didn't then i am totally confused and can't help you.

Answer 5

Your question is so dumb you even managed to mix yourself up. You have been reported.